What is the difference between “I am” and “I have been”? They both create yourself… but which is the right you?

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I wrote this article almost two years ago, and suddenly it became as current as anything...

It is a great companion piece to my article for today:

As I am continuing giving long and substantial "strategy sessions" to people, I am learning a lot.

I am seeing stuff that cannot be see through feeling. I am seeing stuff that won't come through in the Starting Point Measurements, no matter how good a tool muscle testing is. Some things won't even become clear in a short call...

I love the expression: "in the limited perspective of the human mind" and now I am inclined to add that even inside the human mind, you can look at things through different perception organs... and you'll see more if you use more than just your favorite.

Most people's "perception organ" is to turn to, habitually, to what they have already decided. The mind.

This gives you the least true-to-reality perception, obviously.

But my method for the Starting Point Measurements has been limping on one leg as well: Using feelings only. Continue reading "What is the difference between “I am” and “I have been”? They both create yourself… but which is the right you?"

Go beyond where you NORMALLY stop… Go to where the sun shines, no matter what the season is

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I woke up disgruntled... (=angry, dissatisfied) almost ready to go into devastation (which is my "home page") but it all changed as I sat down and began to write. What was going to be a rant, became a celebration.

I guess I am not stuck with, neither am invested in, nor am I resisting being someone who rants when I feel beaten, or slighted, or hurt...Most of my students either are invested (i.e. known for) or resist being angry... i.e. stuck with being angry. Continue reading "Go beyond where you NORMALLY stop… Go to where the sun shines, no matter what the season is"

Why and how the hit-bottom method works? And how you can alter the future with it…

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In numerology, each number has a special meaning... and even the components of your final destiny number...

My main number is 7, my secondary number is 4.

I like 4. Four symbolizes a chimney: there is only one way to go: up.

Most numbers have sideways moves... and that is what most people do to avoid growing. To avoid what it takes, work, pain, telling the truth... avoiding these at all cost... even if the cost is everything and anything they ever wanted...

So as a coach, I have to take them to a magical turning point: I need to force them to hit bottom. If they let me... 🙁

I had two workshops yesterday... And in the second, two of my participants volunteered to declare that they hit bottom. Continue reading "Why and how the hit-bottom method works? And how you can alter the future with it…"

Are you a dabbler, a sampler, an “I’ll try that” person?

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One characteristic of the 99% is that they don't heed Alexander Pope's warning:

"A little learning is a dang'rous thing; / Drink deep, or taste not the Pierian spring." 1

This behavior even characterizes the 99% of the One Percent.

Why is being a taster, a dabbler, a person who samples, tries out, but never drinks deep from anything keeps you from joining the 1%? Continue reading "Are you a dabbler, a sampler, an “I’ll try that” person?"

It takes courage to become all you can be. Most, 99.99% don’t have it.

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What is courage?

The dictionary says: "courage is the ability to do something that frightens you".

Or said in another way: do something in the face of fear...

I simply call this TLB, the Twitchy Little Bastard score...

If you are not courageous, you are a Twitchy Little Bastard. You run, you hide, you lie, you manipulate, you blame, you do all kinds of things other than a courageous person would do.

There is a tale that illustrates this: Continue reading "It takes courage to become all you can be. Most, 99.99% don’t have it."

Yesterday’s enlightenment is today’s pretense

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You may not be able to see it on gurus... but I can. Gurus are liars... because they share an incident in their past that doesn't go beyond that moment...

But repeating that incident is hard... and most of the time we don't know how it happened... like a past life memory, or any other insight. The mechanism is hidden from our view.

And then this gurus go around doing what gurus do: extrapolate from that one experience, and teach the unsuspecting millions the only way... ugh... They teach how to live, how to think, how to this and that...

And because you want what they are talking about, you fall for it... Make a decision to do it, buy it, follow it, and then it doesn't work.

But...

How one is to make decisions in life? Decisions that work... It's not a stupid question...

Continue reading "Yesterday’s enlightenment is today’s pretense"

I understand what you are saying… I hear what you are saying… I see… Which one do you say?

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When you tell someone something, depending on many factors, you are going to get answers that belie their relationship to what you told them.

I once had a driver: she took me to do my weekly errands, I didn't have any transportation. I talked a lot when I am in her car. Her response to most of it was "I hear you..." That is a non-committal answer, the politest way to say that they consider you noise. That they put up with you speaking.

I have students that say: "I understand." They took what you said and fitted it into what they already had in their mind, and found a fit. Unless what they understand are the instructions, I know that what I said was wasted, and nothing will happen.

The answer I most appreciate is: "I see it."

In order to say "I see it" one must track the dynamic, the interaction, the forces, the whole picture. I see it potentially comes from the Observer aka the Witness.

Our goal in this work is to live out of the Witness, or at least spend most of our time there. In the unfrazzled peace of the Witness. In reality

The state you all seem to strive for, the grace, power and fulfillment is only available when YOU are in the Witness.
Continue reading "I understand what you are saying… I hear what you are saying… I see… Which one do you say?"

Telling the truth will set you free. The counter-intuitive path to happiness

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Most people won't adhere to a diet that would make them healthy.

Stupidity? Yes, stupidity on a very deep selfish gene level. 1

It's NOT that they don't understand the price they are paying.

It's that they make choices that the genes are making: not making waves, not bringing attention to themselves, not being different, fitting in is more important than being healthy, having energy, feeling good, calm, being intelligent.

Almost everything "social" is gene directed. I say "almost" because I am humble. I don't know any social that is NOT gene directed, but there could be, maybe.

So what do the selfish genes want?

Continue reading "Telling the truth will set you free. The counter-intuitive path to happiness"

Full self realization: what does it mean and how to be the one in 100 thousand who does it?

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Full self-realization is hard... Even half is hard... even being on the path is hard. Partially because we don't know how to do it. And partially because you prefer to be comfortable...

This article maps it all out... so you can choose. Choose to go for it or not... And, please don't expect stuff you have read, hear, everywhere... If it worked, a lot more people would be fully self-realized.

What prevents you from full self-realization 1 and what could be your pivoting point?

Self-realization is rare. You'll be surprised why... read on...

We don't even agree about what it is... do we?

But I had an insight this past week: self-realization is when the two selves meet and start to work as a team, synergistically.

And that is rare. Continue reading "Full self realization: what does it mean and how to be the one in 100 thousand who does it?"

Why you rarely get what you want…

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The biggest challenge for a person with high vibration is to be able to stay relevant in the eyes of people who have low vibration.

Exactly the way the rich gets richer and the poor gets poorer, the high vibration person begets (give rise to; bring about.) higher vibration, and the low vibration begets (give rise to; bring about.) lower vibration.

  • Low vibration is, in essence, means that you know very little, and even what you know is not quite true.
  • You see very little, and your cone of vision is narrow.
  • You are unwilling or unable to consider widening your knowledge, truing your knowledge, and your view... because it threatens to devaluate your precious "I". 1

I am committed to learn how to train people, you, to do what I have done: raise your vibration... and that means, in a very fundamental way, is to widen your cone of vision. Continue reading "Why you rarely get what you want…"