The tyranny of the pursuit of happiness

More books are sold on happiness than maybe even on dieting... especially because 98% diet books' hidden attraction is happiness.

Weird, eh?

I have read my share of the books on happiness, of all kinds of psychologies, philosophies, and just inane silliness in articles, TED talks, youtube videos...

In my humble opinion no one is willing to shout out that the emperor is naked. that our desire for happiness is what causes this sea of unhappiness we are all swimming in. Continue reading "The tyranny of the pursuit of happiness"

Principle guided life… OK… but what principles will make you happy?

When I wrote the article about racial, ancestral identity and its importance, I touched on something that is not valuable for most people... because I didn't go deep enough and I didn't accurately identify what it takes to be proud of who you are, where you belong.

I got on the phone with one of the people who was very unhappy about that article... I was eager to talk, because it is near impossible to go beyond the visible by yourself. It is a whole lot easier when you get input... because what is invisible to you can be visible for another.

The conversation was fruitful... And the insight to me was: it is not virtues, it is principles that form the basis of a happy life... I will elaborate...
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Abundance Or Scarcity? Choose… Updated

water doesn't exist for the fishThis article is from 2014...

Often anything can kick you into the horizontal plane 1 . I got kicked into it... the horizontal plane, and now I am working my way off... it is not that easy. I can't even connect to muscle test... the horizontal plane is sticky. It wants you, all of you. It eats your life for breakfast.

Let me explain: Humanity (you!) lives on the horizontal plane at this stage of evolution. It is both the starting point and the end state...

On the horizontal plane everything is about comparison. More, better, different...

The good old days...
I want what they have, because I don't have it... and I want it.
Continue reading "Abundance Or Scarcity? Choose… Updated"

Can you achieve perfection? Can you always do the right thing? Is there such a thing as perfect integrity? Can you have 100% truth value?

As you may know, I live by principles, here is one of the principles... more to come in this article:

It is hard to be silently brilliant: lots of thoughts occur when you open your mouth.

But not all thoughts that occur are brilliant... not in a person who isn't opening his mouth... 1 or who are saying the same things over and over again.

Things not worth thinking are also things not worth saying but you don't know that until you hear the echo. 2

What happens when you speak?

Humans didn't quite become humans until they had something to say. But speaking doesn't make someone human: having something worth to say does.

70% of humanity, more than five billions people have nothing worth to say.

Continue reading "Can you achieve perfection? Can you always do the right thing? Is there such a thing as perfect integrity? Can you have 100% truth value?"

The secret of becoming impervious… the secret that really successful people don’t even know they have…

Impervious means: unaffected by, untouched by, immune to, invulnerable to, insusceptible to, resistant to, indifferent to, heedless of, insensible to, "he seemed impervious to the chill wind", impervious to insults, impervious to fear

Of course no one is impervious to anything really, or they would be dead... You need to be present and notice attacks, malicious intention, fear, pain, and everything that you need to protect yourself from.

The impervious we are talking about is the emotional unshakeability that spares you from a life of a roller coaster, from being reactive, from being judgmental, for going into despair or going to mania.

The kind of inner environment where you can actually have joy, contentment, and workability. Where you "horse" doesn't run away with you, hijacking you at the slightest irritation. Continue reading "The secret of becoming impervious… the secret that really successful people don’t even know they have…"

Take care of what takes care of you

the future will take care of itselfTake care of what takes care of you? 1

There is a book out there that says "Choose Yourself". Continue reading "Take care of what takes care of you"

How you fake your consciousness…

Your level of vibration closely correlates with your level of integrity. And the vibration of humans is dropping about 10 points a year...

I am working on the integrity workshop coming up in two days, and am starting to see why someone with less than 200 vibration is focusing on the actions, instead of the context.

The hallmark of low vibration is to see only what is visible... the obvious.

Not surprisingly the level of integrity closely matches the level of vibration... and trying to change the actions is an inefficient and ineffective way to integrity. Continue reading "How you fake your consciousness…"

Are you fully dead or mostly dead/slightly alive? Depression?

The attitude of submission, dutifulness, and the death of individual and the death of joy

Part of the enslavement process that has been going on for thousands of years, you are robbed of your sense of free will, and your joy.

The chicken coop 1 doesn't want you to enjoy anything... or more precisely, it separates enjoyment as a special thing on special occasions, not your natural state. Same with happiness.

But the truth is: your natural state is joy. Enjoying the body, the movement, breathing, eating, working: everything.

One of my challenges is to re-awaken, to liberate that capacity that society is hellbent to suppress. Continue reading "Are you fully dead or mostly dead/slightly alive? Depression?"

How psychologists, writers, gurus, get it wrong… and nobody is happy, including them

I looked at pictures of Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi... who wrote the book Flow, and is an expert on talking about happiness. Not being happy, mind you, on researching happiness.

He doesn't look happy, doesn't feel happy (remember, I am an empath).

I even went and found videos where he speaks Hungarian... hoping to find a picture where he is joyful.

Didn't find any. Not even one.

His insightful quote: "People who learn to control inner experience will be able to determine the quality of their lives, which is as close as any of us can come to being happy." is what was missing for him, and what is missing for most people most of the time. Continue reading "How psychologists, writers, gurus, get it wrong… and nobody is happy, including them"

What is real? What is made up? How can you tell?

I have read all the One minute books... I saw that the One Minute Manager touched on my Achilles' Heel...

Each of these One minute books teaches some attitude, or a thing to do, that makes you and the people you work with happier, more productive, etc.

Except...

Occam's razor says: everything should be as simple as it can be but not simpler.

Pop psychology is simplistic. You find yourself nodding vigorously as you read it. But when it comes to doing it... oops. You cannot do it.

The One Minute manager's job is to catch people doing the right things.

Most people cannot. Most people keep their eyes on what you do wrong, what they do wrong... what needs to be fixed. But most importantly they cannot see what is. Continue reading "What is real? What is made up? How can you tell?"