Category: Happiness

Is happiness even possible? Is self-hate, self-punishing a good path to it?

It’s Tuesday, and my Rob Brezsny horoscope arrived this morning.

It addressed something I wanted to address, because it is important: treating yourself well by providing yourself with what you need to be well, to do well, to feel well.

You treat your pets better than yourself.

If you were only judgmental and stingy with others, that would be one thing. But you are stingy with yourself.

You judge yourself harshly, you treat yourself badly, and you skimp on yourself first.

Consider yourself your own child, or your own pet? And your relationship, your treatment of it public.

A lot of people, in private, abuse with impunity, but would not dare do the same in public, or when someone can see it. They fear judgment. Continue reading “Is happiness even possible? Is self-hate, self-punishing a good path to it?”

Why you don’t want what you say you want…

water energizer setupI am working, one-on-one with people who submitted their pictures of their setup of the water energizer.

This has been one of the most brilliant things I have ever decided to do.

Without feedback one may imagine a lot of things, but with feedback, eventually you arrive to the truth, to reality, and there is no room for imagination, fancy, or any other unreality.

The reality is this:

The Water Energizer works… you don’t.
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She came from her strength…

My friend from my youth, Panni, just turned 70 years old.

Her family, husband, two sons, made a video for her, interviewing friends. She lives in Budapest, where we graduated from Architecture School together, 46 years ago.

It was interesting to watch. I witnessed friendships for friendship sake, I witnessed Americans with no insight, only asking: when are you coming to the USA?

I witnessed gratitude. She moved from the suburbs to this big old building with many apartments. And promptly organized the neighbors into a community. Continue reading “She came from her strength…”

When will you experience life as good? Worth living?

When you experience life as good, harmonious, nurturing: what is it that makes you experience it like that? What you have? What you do? Who you are with? What you have accomplished?

This is a question I bet you never asked.

You have asked different questions:

There is reality, and then there is the map of reality…

Kamikaze or the Cowardly Lion

New distinction: there is reality, and then there is the map of reality 1.

If this sounds complicated, it is because it is.

But it is built of simple linear elements, so we can look at each linear element, and with enough examined, start seeing the three-dimensional picture.

Your map of reality is vastly out of alignment with the actual reality.

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Chasing the blue bird of happiness and not finding it

the illusion that you are supposed to be happyAnything that is obvious, anything that makes sense, anything that you know is from the Tree of Knowledge, or the desire to receive for the self alone.

The Tree of Knowledge is the part of the Cosmos that is visible with the five outward senses, and the mind.

Approximately 10% of what is knowable for humankind, and 1% of what is.

The hidden dimension contains all the cause and effect… so nearly all cause and effect that you “know” from the Tree of Knowledge is false… what you see as cause is not cause, and what you see as effect is often the cause.
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Unless you like yourself, you won’t like your life either…

love-yourself-like-your-life-depends-on-it-because-it-does-quote-1Unless you like yourself, unless you feel good about yourself, you won’t like your life either.

Happiness is liking yourself and your life.

Not the Smokescreen…

What the smoke screen you set up hides about you… the nasty stuff… or how to learn to like yourself

There is a very important knowledge that seems to be missing for people:

Unless you like yourself, unless you feel good about yourself, you won’t like your life either.

And it is not so easy to like yourself, to feel good about yourself. Why?

Because you, internally, are well aware of the dual nature you have, and it’s disturbing.
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Updated: Happiness is an energetic phenomenon… remove blockages to restore the flow

restoring-the-flowHappiness is an energetic phenomenon, it is not a “feeling” per se, albeit it is a feeling of flow.

Well-being is also an energetic phenomenon… and just like happiness, it is a feeling of flow.

Flow is the undisturbed, unrestricted life force. It’s energetic. It is real. It is not a feeling… it cannot be pretended.

Your mind cannot pretend that there is flow, you cannot imagine flow and flow would happen. It happens the other way around: there is flow and then your mind catches up with it… only to often just block it again.
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Should you strive for leaving a legacy to be remembered by?

footprint in the sandThis is continuing the theme I started in my last post, looking at your life and priorities. This is a politically incorrect article… The footnotes are really important in this article, don’t miss them.

Let’s take a near posthumous look at your life… so you can see what was important, and do it while you still have time.

If you are afraid of death: this is especially for you. 1

Someone who lives fully and does what is important to them, isn’t afraid of death. They weren’t afraid of life, they aren’t afraid of death. That doesn’t mean they want to die… they are just not driven to panic by the sight of an life that never happened.

Yesterday I spoke about wanting to get my work out… but upon further examination, I realized that I fell for the cultural, societal mumbo jumbo, that is designed to have you be unfulfilled, and lose your self interest.

What am I talking about?

About legacy… What is your legacy? Can you feel the cold hands of dread squeezing your heart?
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Updated: Happyness vs happiness, being vs. doing

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life is a journey 2Happyness and happiness

I just looked at the cover of the book The Pursuit of Happyness and it hit me that the difference between those two words is:
the first, happyness is the journey, your beingness and
the second, happiness is the destination.

“It is not about the destination, it is about the journey…” you repeat… good boy, but you don’t know what you are talking about. Literally, you can explain it, you can even visualize it, and yet, you have no clue what that means, because it is counter-cultural. And because your beingness is firmly vested in a jumping… no work necessary paradigm.

In a culture of goal setting, in a culture of competition, success is the only thing that matters (to others, in the world, in the culture…) and you ate that b.s., hook, line and sinker. And you are trapped… but you don’t have to stay that way.

Let me explain in this article the art of being on the journey, in beingness, and fully appreciating it, fully enjoying it.
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