Become all you can become by raising yourself higher on the Tree of Life

Because of great love one is courageous.

I have written about it, I have even quoted Lao Tsu: Because of great love one is courageous. Lao Tsu taught effortless action, which is in line with Life, he calls Tao.

But if the fundamental understanding of life is missing, if life is fundamentally misunderstood, then that quote is misunderstood.

We, humans, have that ‘love is something you feel for another person’. Or for ice cream, or a puppy… more often, lol.

But what if the love Lao Tsu is talking about is something entirely different?
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Soul Correction: Take the peacock…

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Soul Correction: Take the peacock, for example…

In this article, I create a new context for 2021: one that makes this year the REAL beginning of the thousand years of peace. How the peacock is like your soul correction…

I have a few coaches and teachers. One of them has a group call every Saturday, and I went on that call.

I wasn’t in tune with this call. I’d just come off a connection call: peaceful and in reverie. This call was noisy, people talked over each other. I felt like getting off the call. I am sure you have been in a similar situation… haven’t you? Continue reading “Soul Correction: Take the peacock…”

Skill? Talking about flying isn’t…

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Talking about flying isn’t. Everyone can talk about flying, but only flying is flying… and most people who talk about flying are giving lip service to flying. It takes real skill to fly… Bummer, eh?

Most every course, workshop, book, workbook, even one-on-one coaching, consulting, leave you with no skills. They teach you knowledge… about. Information. Having an idea about how to do something, maybe some even do it for you, but guess what? Next time you need to do something, or something changes, you are sh!t out of luck: you have to hire them again.

My goal has always been to leave you with all the power, and having the skill to do what you need to do is having all the power. Continue reading “Skill? Talking about flying isn’t…”

You want to love yourself, but it is hard: you know you are full of crap

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Love yourself: easier said than done.

Love yourself, self-love is your two selves loving each other. How does that come about? Simple: through integrity. Integrity is an inside job: between you and you. As your integrity grows, your self-love, self-appreciation grows, and your life starts blossoming. Continue reading “You want to love yourself, but it is hard: you know you are full of crap”

Ugly emotions… what can you do about them?

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Ugly emotions are normal, but emotional intelligence is needed to express and sublimate them.

The not so funny thing about the world we live in is that 30% of the world is full of piss and vinegar (aggressive energy), screaming their heads off about some cause and against everything else, and the rest of us either cow, hide, or fume, of wish for a world of nice and quiet. Or celebration. Or love. Or play… but not this.

I have noticed that even the mention of anger, or hate, or disgust, or any animosity makes people not to want to read the article. They (you?) are afraid of being contaminated.

What you don’t allow to be, won’t allow you to be either. Including ugly emotions

Because someone expressing hate is mirrored inside you… and you don’t want to allow it.

In this article I teach you some ways you can conquer and allow peace and good feelings to win.

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Self-love, self-hate… let’s dig deep on these, shall we?

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Integrity is an inside job. It is between you and yourself.

Everyone has two selves, one that is perfect, and the other that is flawed.

The perfect one is generous, loving, unconditionally. It is compassionate.

The flawed one KNOWS, i.e. assumes that it is judged, looked down upon, and is full of hatred, anger, fear, anxiety, rebellion, and expects to be loved and accepted the way it is… and even though is loved, and accepted… it can only feel its own emotions.

This is so with every emotion. You can’t feel the love that is coming towards you. You can only feel the love that you feel for the other, Your love. Your anger. Your hate.

So no matter how much the perfect self loves the flawed self, the flawed self will feel judged… hated, despised, etc.

I have been observing my clients and my students, and there is one common characteristic that only varies in intensity: and that is self-hate… and stinginess towards self… as in punishing the self for not being perfect. Continue reading “Self-love, self-hate… let’s dig deep on these, shall we?”

Going from hate and disgust to feeling good about yourself. From hate to love

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One of the few things I need to be aware and manage diligently is to not slip into hate and disgust about things or people. And when I do slip, to go from hate to love with them.

One of my ‘favorite’ ways to slip into hate and disgust has been to gossip about things or people… whom otherwise I love and cherish, but something about them irks me.

The solution is to make room for the imperfection, the part that irks me, and then I can love them, warts and all.

The secret is to rant first and accept second.

What most people do is suppress. It is wrong to hate your teacher, for example. Or your wife.
Or alternatively, they get stuck in hate. They don’t proceed to acceptance.

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Can the “Ask and it is given” work for you?

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Ask and it is given… But if that were so easy and simple, there would not be a whole system of thought, Kabbalah, receiving in Hebrew…

You pray and you think you are effectively asking for what you want. You believe that you will get it… but only 1% of the asks are given…

This article is about why only 1% of what you ask for is given, no matter who you ask from. Yourself, someone else, or some deity.

In yesterday’s core group huddle I started to see something that is so hidden and so hideous that even when people see it, they don’t see it.

What is it?

You don’t, you can’t see what you want and why (context) so what you ask for is vague, fuzzy, and not going to get given. Continue reading “Can the “Ask and it is given” work for you?”

Taking away what doesn’t contribute: the Anna Karenina Principle

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How does change fit into the Anna Karenina Principle, or the principle said in another way: the method of taking away what doesn’t contribute to happiness to make your life better?

Remember: the Anna Karenina Principle says: All happy families are alike; each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.

The principle implies that the unhappy families have one or more things that make them unhappy, things happy families don’t have… That happiness is simple, while unhappiness is complicated.

In this article I will look at change and how the Anna Karenina principle, of taking away what doesn’t contribute can be done in the context of change. Continue reading “Taking away what doesn’t contribute: the Anna Karenina Principle”

Did I live? Did I love? Did I matter?

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Some 10 years ago I heard a dude share an experience he had in the Caribbeans, that made him re-examine his life. He asked himself:

Did I live?
Did I love?
Did I matter?

What brought this up is this: all morning bouts of inner crying have been happening to me.

Inner crying is when the tears don’t reach your eyes, but inside you have all the feelings as if you were crying.

I muscletested and it’s mine. Continue reading “Did I live? Did I love? Did I matter?”