Why do I want you to watch Bob The Butler?

I watched Bob The Butler again yesterday.

I want all my clients to watch it to see some of themselves.

I love, have always loved that movie. There is something magical about it, regardless of its fantasy ending. But what?

After all Bob is a slob, a never do well, an uncoordinated big slab of a guy. He gets his vocational and relationship guidance from a hamster. Not who you want your students to be… would you?

And yet. Continue reading “Why do I want you to watch Bob The Butler?”

No elbow room, no freedom to be… that is the ditch

We all live in a ditch-like space that gets deeper and maybe even narrower as we go along.

A ditch is like a tunnel except that it is open to the sky.

People don’t know they live in a ditch. Why? Because all they know is the ditch. It becomes everything because the only thing that would distinguish the ditch is ‘not-ditch’. But because a person in a ditch can only see what is in the ditch and the dirt that is its wall, ditch can’t be distinguished from the inside of it.

My job, in this article, is to cause you to SEE, aka distinguish your ditch so you can have more than just that in your life. Continue reading “No elbow room, no freedom to be… that is the ditch”

Does Matthew McConaughey echoes what I teach?

So if my writing style, if my teaching style doesn’t resonate with you, here is how he says it in this 9-minute long video:

https://yourvib.me/happiness-vs-joy

And here is the transcript of the original, much longer talk that the video was made if: Continue reading “Does Matthew McConaughey echoes what I teach?”

Success as the destination causes a failed life

In fact, it is not just success, but any supposedly positive outcome. When it is the focus, when it is the destination, it will cause a failed life. As certainly as that the sun will come up in the morning.

I have a student who wants to be worthy.

The question to ask: why? Why would you want to be worthy?

All your wants are fueled by a desire to fix.

It is human nature, it is not personal. What is personal is what you want to fix… not the desire to fix. The desire to fix is universal. Continue reading “Success as the destination causes a failed life”

Do what you do today so your future self can…

Do what you do today so your future self can appreciate the effort you made

I got this email about two, maybe three years ago… and today. Both warmed my heart. Today I even wept.

The first email from this student/client: Continue reading “Do what you do today so your future self can…”

What you call things matter more than you know

Just from this morning’s ‘crop’…

I woke up with the alarm. At 4 am… Then I fell back to sleep. I said: ‘oops, it is late!‘ and the whole world was now witness to me being a slacker whose word you can’t count on.

I made myself a cup of Tetley’s British Blend tea.

I am testing not using sweetener. My body is covered in hives…

Continue reading “What you call things matter more than you know”

Do you have a question that contributes to others?

On Monday I asked you for ideas and questions. I have gotten a few. I am answering some of them publicly.

None of you said what I wanted to know. Each question put the ball to my side of the court. None of you expressed any commitment to anything other than to get personal answers, the ‘desire to receive for the self alone’…

It is what is is. Here are some of the topics: Continue reading “Do you have a question that contributes to others?”

Agitate to get to the invisible layers… the real enemy

agitateAgitate.

Agitate is an old word, and has fallen out of favor. But it is very useful for our purposes: finding what is hidden, so you can start dealing with it.

Agitating (my concept, my understanding of the word) is to shake up. To make the parts move, so they rearrange. So that what’s important but is in hiding comes to the open. Disgust, displeasure, discontent, disagreement, disobedience, anger, hate, even love come to the surface. Continue reading “Agitate to get to the invisible layers… the real enemy”

I understand what you are saying… I hear, I see, I get it

I understand what you are saying. I hear what you are saying, I see, I get it. Which one do you say?

When you tell someone something, depending on many factors, you are going to get answers that belie their relationship (attitude?) to what you told them. Continue reading “I understand what you are saying… I hear, I see, I get it”

Why is medicine’s truth value so low? 7% overall…

The answer is actually quite simple. Medicine works with definitions and not with distinctions.

So similar things seen as same… And some similar things seen as different.

Example: Fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue, Epstein Barr syndrome. Continue reading “Why is medicine’s truth value so low? 7% overall…”