Yesterday’s “Trapped” article made some splashes and produced some “no echo” dead silence.
It spoke to rule-making, and defined stupid in a new way.
It separated the label “stupid” from the person and placed it on the behavior.
Stupid, as a label on a person, is a future tense “sentence”… sentence as in “the judge sentences you to a lifetime of stupidity”. No appeal… Final decision.
Meaning: no matter what you do, who is doing it is a stupid person, and THEREFORE what you ACTUALLY do cannot produce the result you want.
You don’t need any more proof of language not even approximating reality, that sentence, that meaning is all you need to see that if you are trapped in the customary language, especially your “self-talk”, and take it at face value, you are doomed. Doomed to the attitude of “no matter what I do”… Continue reading “Stupid is as stupid does… is it good news for you? what does THAT say about you?”
“If you want to emasculate a guy friend, when you’re at a restaurant, ask him everything that he’s going to order, and then when the waitress comes … order for him.” It’s funny because it shouldn’t be that easy to rob a man of his masculinity — but it is.
I am doing good work with the participants of my accountability program.
One of the things that have been coming up is this: what did it do to you to be influenced more by your mother than your father?
Don’t be mistaken: man and woman, boy and girl, father and mother are different beings… almost as different as if they were two different species. And it should be.
Now, I admit that our “civilized” world makes the two roles more similar looking, but just like in eating, what works best for you is eating according to your DNA, the same is true about gender behavior. Continue reading “Boys don’t know how to be boys…”
How do you model after a successful person? Do you do what they say? Do you do what you see? It’s about modeling to grow, modeling to become all you can be.
I do both.
I am most interested in their habitual way of thinking, responding, decision making, and attitude.
Sometimes they know themselves, but more often than not they don’t know themselves that well… do not see much into the invisible…
If I see a habit that I want for myself, even if I see it clearly, I still have the difficulty of integrating it… it is not enough to see it.
Integration means it becomes part and parcel with me and my structure. But each habit forces me to find a crack, an opening in my structure, or I won’t be able to integrate it. Continue reading “How do you model after a successful person? Do you do what they say? Do you do what you see?”