Playground: The One Ring Method to rule it all

If you love yourself, you love your life.

It sounds so good, but how could you? How could you love yourself, knowing all the horrible things you have done?!

Last night, after the Playground, after I turned the light off. memories of those horrible things started to revisit.

After about 10-15 minutes of that I was feeling really horrible, doubting that I can do any good in the world. And then it hit me:

none of the horrible things I said I did ever happened.

What? was I lying to myself? Continue reading “Playground: The One Ring Method to rule it all”

The Anna Karenina Principle: seeing the forest for the trees

The main principle of life: The Anna Karenina Principle… the invisible thread that ties it all together

Here is another illustration of the main principle of life: The Anna Karenina Principle… the strait and narrow

I have been using Freecell as a self training tool. Continue reading “The Anna Karenina Principle: seeing the forest for the trees”

Any jump is jump from the skillet to the fire

You can’t JUMP to the truth… in fact, any jump is jump from the skillet to the fire

I like to use the 67 steps in my own process to slowly turning to the truth, and in teaching and coaching. That program seems to JUMP to SOME truth. But it is wise enough to not declare that small and relative truth, THE Truth.

This is in contrast with everybody else. Continue reading “Any jump is jump from the skillet to the fire”

Your standards and ideals. Rulemaking. Wanting to win…

…every step of the way

Here are a few unexpected ways you keep yourself trapped in your misery:

1. You have a standard for everything and everyone but often not yourself.

How it should be, how it should go, what is right and what is wrong behavior, looks, everything.

You apply these standards to measure everything and everyone… and, of course, everything and everyone falls short… including yourself.

Standards are something that you invented, or alternatively bought into. You relate to them as if they were universal and mandatory for everyone…

It is all made up. There are no standards that survive reality: these are all made up reality, not binding to everyone, maybe not even to anyone. Continue reading “Your standards and ideals. Rulemaking. Wanting to win…”

The two hemispheres of the brain and spirituality…

The scenic route of getting some teaching, and making it your own.

Making it nurturing, life affirming tree of life knowledge

I want to share a phenomenon, that, hopefully, will get clearer as I am sharing it. At the moment I can only see its visible aspect. I am almost certain it has an invisible aspect as well.

I read about three hours a day. Something that isn’t connected to my work: fiction.

But recently I have taken on a 20-day challenge: listen to 20 episodes of a Hungarian psychologist, Dr. Peter Popper, in his Mesterkurzus (master course) series, an hour long each.

Excellent, fascinating, the dude is both a psychologist, a university professor, a clinician, AND a religion expert… whatever that means. Continue reading “The two hemispheres of the brain and spirituality…”

Don’t set ambitious goals! sounds counter cultural?

the lesson you didnt learnIn the famous marshmallow experiment by Walter Mischel. He said that the 30% of the kids that didn’t eat the marshmallow, didn’t even look at the marshmallow. They kept doing other things, keeping their eyes off the marshmallow. Consciously, intentionally, and purposefully.

The marshmallow is ‘the thing’, the goal people want… and it is what actually causes them to jump the gun, to quit pursuing it prematurely.

Continue reading “Don’t set ambitious goals! sounds counter cultural?”

How to become worth a damn? Because you aren’t…

The only real security is your ability to produce

Want to become worth a damn?

Become a genius at implementation. At getting things done. That is where the magic is…

Honestly, whatever you buy, whatever you learn: make sure you implement it, 100%, 110%… and become the best at it. Continue reading “How to become worth a damn? Because you aren’t…”

Why aren’t you happy most of the time? Or ever?

It’s not what you could see, what you hope to see, it is what you actually see, consciously, that defines your actions and therefore your results, your thoughts, your mood…

What you see is not reality. It is ‘occurrence’ and contains a little bit of reality, and an awful lot of words.

Words that explain, words that interpret, words that give meaning of what is actually happening: reality. Continue reading “Why aren’t you happy most of the time? Or ever?”

There is no suffering, never anything wrong in reality

There is no suffering, there is never anything wrong in reality. All suffering, all wrong is brought on by words…

We live in an imaginary reality… with literally no capacity, no ability to tell fact from fiction.

Humans can’t see much of anything without labeling it… so humans live in the world tainted with words…

For the purposes of this conversation we will define reality as something even a just landed Martian can see, a Martian who isn’t complicit in all the meanings and narrative. Continue reading “There is no suffering, never anything wrong in reality”

Want to change your future? You’ll need to change your past

Want to change your future? You’ll need to change your past… Your future will automatically change with it

The full title of the Playground course is: Playground: it’s never too late to have a happy childhood. Continue reading “Want to change your future? You’ll need to change your past”