Do I need to like you to love you? What is love? What is like?

I have a call on Sundays with a guy whom I’ve never met. We did a course together back in 2007, were in the same mastermind on Sundays, and we just continued talking ever since…

I work through a lot of my stuff on those calls. I also get to insight I cannot get to, when my mouth is closed, i.e. I am not talking.

It is hard to be silently brilliant, lots of thought occur when you open your mouth.

And occasionally I talk about my students, and other people. Continue reading “Do I need to like you to love you? What is love? What is like?”

How old is your body? Your biological age…

I had my usual Sunday call today… and the issue of how old is your body came up. My friend’s body is 90 years old… and though I am only four or five yours younger, my body checks as a 50 year old…

As I have shared before, some time in the beginning of August I realized that I was dying.

It had been a process that started a year earlier… with some dramatic happenings, including falling and breaking my left arm. It wasn’t the cause: it was a symptom. And by this August the future was obvious: I had a short time to live, with very restricted movement…

I have no health insurance, I trust in no doctors, I have no savings, I have no family to bail me out.

I had a choice to make: to live or not to live.
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Your soul correction and how you react to things… like being abandoned in a car as a child

One of the most interesting things to track is how much of the interpretation of an original incident depends on the person’s soul correction.

OK, let me explain: we come into the world with a supposedly blank slate… We don’t know anything, and we need to learn everything.

And yet, we seem to have a certain bend… as if humanity had sub-species… Continue reading “Your soul correction and how you react to things… like being abandoned in a car as a child”

Strong emotions or curiosity… choose!

I have found that bringing curiosity to life, especially things that normally would cause you strong emotions, can counteract the narrowing of your cone of vision, narrowing of your intelligence, narrowing of your emotional flexibility… while destroying life where you are, where I am… inside me.

Let me say it again: bringing curiosity to things can counteract with misery, upset, anxiety, frustration, anger, despair, resignation, sadness, depression… the whole never ending pool of negative emotions.

It takes training.

Our access, humans’ access to reality, nowadays, is our emotions… instead of our feelings (sensory perceptions and observation) and our reasoning capacity.

Instead of getting a first hand view of reality, we, humans, inside the cave of our minds, we interact with the shadows reality casts… and we are jerked through upheavals by things that aren’t even real. Continue reading “Strong emotions or curiosity… choose!”

Republished: The runt of the litter and predatory genes

In nature when a mother has a litter, there may be one or two that will not grow up to be adults… because there is just not enough tits, food, energy, attention is for them.

That is life.

Nature doesn’t like to waste energy… Humans do.

Humans invented morality and the right to live, regardless whether it makes sense or not, so we have an upside down world, where we live in a should world. The selfish gene is not happy…

One of the things that make one the runt of the litter is not enough Life-Force… Life Force, at least partially, is expressed in the number of predatory genes, where you would push away another puppy from the food, so you can eat more. Continue reading “Republished: The runt of the litter and predatory genes”

It takes courage to become all you can be. Most, 99.99% don’t have it.

What is courage?

The dictionary says: “courage is the ability to do something that frightens you”.

Or said in another way: do something in the face of fear…

I simply call this TLB, the Twitchy Little Bastard score…

If you are not courageous, you are a Twitchy Little Bastard. You run, you hide, you lie, you manipulate, you blame, you do all kinds of things other than a courageous person would do.

There is a tale that illustrates this: Continue reading “It takes courage to become all you can be. Most, 99.99% don’t have it.”

Intrapersonal emotional intelligence, the ability and willingness to look within and see accurately

People with intrapersonal emotional intelligence are adept at looking inward and figuring out their own feelings, motivations and goals. They are quintessentially introspective. They analyze themselves and seek understanding. People with intrapersonal intelligence are intuitive and usually introverted.

A year or two ago I saw a rather amateurish but good Singaporean TV show (The Truth Seekers) that shook me to my core… and woke me up.

I may be a conspiracy seeker… but I have a hunch that we, humans, have been trained, for millennia,  by society to look the other way, to deny human nature, and escape into nice-nice, and sugar and spice, instead of confronting head-on what we call human nature. Continue reading “Intrapersonal emotional intelligence, the ability and willingness to look within and see accurately”

Yesterday’s enlightenment is today’s pretense

You may not be able to see it on gurus… but I can. Gurus are liars… because they share an incident in their past that doesn’t go beyond that moment…

But repeating that incident is hard… and most of the time we don’t know how it happened… like a past life memory, or any other insight. The mechanism is hidden from our view.

And then this gurus go around doing what gurus do: extrapolate from that one experience, and teach the unsuspecting millions the only way… ugh… They teach how to live, how to think, how to this and that…

And because you want what they are talking about, you fall for it… Make a decision to do it, buy it, follow it, and then it doesn’t work.

But…

How one is to make decisions in life? Decisions that work… It’s not a stupid question…

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Your IQ, your base nature… and the Playground

smart looking babyYou can have a high IQ, and yet be a slacker in life.

Why? Because IQ is still only a potential of the brain… not independent of what you use or not use, what you expose yourself or not…

I once had an employee who I hired because she was a Mensa Society member. Mensa only accepts people to be members whose IQ tests say they are above 130… I think. But, between you and me, she was a useless employee and I had to let her go.

Since then I don’t trust IQ tests. You can have a high IQ, and yet be an underachiever in life. Continue reading “Your IQ, your base nature… and the Playground”

Life is an experiment. Unless you only have good and bad, successful or failure in your vocabulary

An experiment is always successful. It is successful at showing what it shows. Whether you interpret accurately what it shows or not… is up to you. And then what you do with what it suggests is up to you…

“Do not be timid and squeamish about your actions. All life is an experiment.” (Ralph Waldo Emerson)

Considering my life, life is an experiment has been probably the best thing I’ve ever invented for myself. Why? Because it killed 90% of the voices inside that said that I was stupid, that I was a loser, that nobody will ever love me.

I hate learning new things… Why?

Yeah, why would anyone hate learning new things?

What does learning new things means? REALLY REALLY MEAN? About you…. Continue reading “Life is an experiment. Unless you only have good and bad, successful or failure in your vocabulary”