The battle to death of the virtues and the vices…

  • aristotele's golden meanI have been reading articles, studies, even books to get more effective at teaching you. Yesterday I learned some new words for my accurate vocabulary:
  • intellectual virtues/intellectual vices
  • character virtues/character vices
  • physical virtues/physical vices

In my field… self-evolution, self-improvement, self-growth, one of the things I am seeing makes my stomach turn: a widespread phenomenon of being a Milque Toast… i.e. squeamish, i.e. looking only at the bright side of things.

If you tell someone a thousands things to be, VIRTUES, and they manage to be that way, you can raise their numbers, consciousness, vibration, etc. maybe 10%. ugh… very ineffective. Continue reading “The battle to death of the virtues and the vices…”

Does everybody really count, or is that a seductive slogan?

change is the result of true learningEither everybody counts or nobody counts… this is the principle that makes Michael Connelly’s books so dear to me. Obviously, to me, that labels me as a commie, a Democrat, a lefty… but I really don’t care… It’s your issue, not mine. My job is to be true to my principles.

I like crime novels. Most of them are clean and most of them go into the details that allow me to be forced to ride on the surface, to turn the page too eagerly, but stay on the page I am on: savoring it. Rare to find books like that.

No FOMO, I am where I am supposed to be. No desire to be anywhere else, doing anything other than what I am doing.

Priceless. Continue reading “Does everybody really count, or is that a seductive slogan?”

What is the “real” meaning of little hinges swing big doors? What glorious thing can it mean to you?

What is the “real” meaning of little hinges swing big doors? And what is the practical benefit of knowing this principle? What is the practical benefit of putting this principle to work in your life?

The difference between the 99% and the 1% is what we are talking about in this article.

99% of people, and the 1% of people… that is.

You may or may not be able to raise yourself to the level of the 1%, but you’ll move from wherever you are to a lot higher in income, a lot higher life satisfaction, etc. depending on how well you employ this principle… a concept you probably have never thought of as it could apply to YOUR life.

You are smart… right? Well, no, you aren’t.

Unless your life shows that you are smart, let’s consider that you may be smart, but your actions aren’t.

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“Either everybody counts or nobody counts”

20 years ago I had my first entrepreneur value profile done.

It was some 30 pages long… too much English. But somewhere it said something like: You don’t work well THROUGH others…

Bummer…

A year or two worth of training later I got my certification to become a value profile consultant. Then I learned to see all that the 30 page said in English (meaning lots of words) at a glance on a grid.

My starting point measurements report is a lot like that grid. It is more meant for the coach/consultant to know how to guide you, than for you to enjoy reading to indulge your delusional self. Your delusional self loves the many words… I have watched people get all excited about the book “The Life You Were Meant to Live”… because they picked out the words they liked… No growth.

The more someone is determined to remain the same, the more they like that book…

Sigh.

So today, 20 years later, I looked at coaching, both as a client and as a provider. Continue reading ““Either everybody counts or nobody counts””

What if you wanted to have a work life that is fulfilling and rewarding?

the truth will set you free to actMotto: The truth will set you free but first it will piss you off

One of my clients just sent me a plea to become her guidance counselor… Guide her to a career, work, job, that would be a source of joy and success for her.

can you handle the truth?This, I surmise, could be a common request or desire for most people I know.

I myself chose my profession in a way that it didn’t quite work out for me.

I decided to train to be an architect, and then I even decided to add a second graduate degree for good measure, and then a third… even though I was poorly suited to be an architect. Continue reading “What if you wanted to have a work life that is fulfilling and rewarding?”

Principle guided life… OK… but what principles will make you happy?

When I wrote the article about racial, ancestral identity and its importance, I touched on something that is not valuable for most people… because I didn’t go deep enough and I didn’t accurately identify what it takes to be proud of who you are, where you belong.

I got on the phone with one of the people who was very unhappy about that article… I was eager to talk, because it is near impossible to go beyond the visible by yourself. It is a whole lot easier when you get input… because what is invisible to you can be visible for another.

The conversation was fruitful… And the insight to me was: it is not virtues, it is principles that form the basis of a happy life… I will elaborate…
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Inventing a new you, a YOU you can become, A paradigm shift…

new you collageThis article has turned out to be quite a novella… Read it when you have time… probably not now. Or listen to it

Of all the things that are different between homo sapiens and human being, the hardest thing, the highest and most treacherous mountain to scale and stay on the top of, is the idea of a being that is missing… i.e. a context.

You may be familiar, even conversant about beings that are there… I am happy, I am sad, I am stupid… but a being that isn’t… is entirely outside of your ability to see.

See, as in seeing it as possible. Seeing it as something you can discover, invent for yourself. Create.

I have known people who did art in my life. A lot. But I have known only a handful who treaded into the unknown. Continue reading “Inventing a new you, a YOU you can become, A paradigm shift…”

Collaging to activate Spiritual Capacities

god works in mysterious waysLife works in mysterious ways…

The Law of Process is one of the most important laws of nature, of Life… and one of the laws the least number of people know about, or honors.

People are duped to believe that things just happen… and there is no process behind them happening.

Advertising, testimonials, articles, books, talk about the results, and talk about the path to them in a sketchy way… if ever.

So it is no surprise that any and all my students and clients expect instant results, instant enlightenment, instant happiness, blah blah blah when they deal with me.

Even people who have gone through a process to be as successful, or as unsuccessful as they are, cannot see the process.

I remember when I first began teaching and found out that I cannot teach what I know because Continue reading “Collaging to activate Spiritual Capacities”

40% of humanity never learns… But why? Hint: They are not stupid…

don't get stuck on a pageI have some students who are not keeping up with the other students. These students don’t learn. So much so, that after a whole year, they are still at page 1 or page 2 of a class… that is 100 pages… Of course there are no pages… but pages express more what I want to say than percentages.

It is the middle of the night: I got up to write this article, because I got the insight that has been missing. Continue reading “40% of humanity never learns… But why? Hint: They are not stupid…”

Is it Trust or a belief? Are you trusting or believing? Can you tell?

I wrote this article six years ago… and except for “current events” it is still accurate… My webhost hasn’t kicked me out… yet… lol.

This word, trust, has been coming up  too frequently, in conversations with my students. I consider that coming up guidance, so let me start exploring trust: what it is, what it isn’t, and how to deal with lack of trust, or the different forms of distrust… and also where it comes from.

I had a great opportunity to observe myself today. My webhost shut down my site for a reason of their own. A year ago that was a daily occurrence, but this was a first since.
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