The art of being heard, being known the right way
On one of the webinars the topic was “Not being heard… Being misunderstood”
Every person on the call had at least one painful childhood incident where their speaking wasn’t getting for them what they intended to get, instead their speaking was earning them grief and heart ache.
They wanted appreciation, understanding, equality, or love, validation, significance, or at least agreement.
When something doesn’t work, one would expect, next time you’ll try something different. But no… in real life it seems that the more something doesn’t work, the more you, humans are trying to fit a square peg into a round hole.
When we looked, each and every one of us were repeating and repeating and repeating the incident in our lives, the same way, expecting a different result. Insanity, right? Continue reading “Are you always misjudged, misunderstood, or mistreated? No one can see how bright you are?”
I just had an email conversation with a client. She wanted my review on a marketed healing program, and I reviewed it for her. The person doing it: personal vibration 100, truth value of that program: 3%
The things you are attracted to cater to where you are in your evolution as a human… They talk to your “identity”, to your world-view, to who you are.
If you are attracted to a 3% truth value program it is because your world-views truth value is about 3%, 97% not reality, not truth, 97% b.s. These programs sell like hotcakes… Because this is the level that most humans live on. Continue reading “How to get out of the cave of your mind and start living in reality?”
Things were falling apart on me. Both my computers misbehaved, and threatened me with a situation of no computer… not good, not good.
Two partner calls I listened to showed me that half of my students didn’t, don’t get what is supposed to be done in the Playground.
You can only imagine how it felt…
My home page, using the terminology from Transactional Analysis, is devastated… So I felt devastated… as if my life were destroyed.
I have a devastated/discouraged machine
I have seen this enough time to know that it’s the machine… so I chuckled… Continue reading “Yesterday was one of my worst days and one of my best days.”
Most people who read my articles, or new people in my courses are puzzled by the term: learning about the invisible reality. How can you learn about, how can you learn about something that is invisible?
But, just like you can write with invisible ink, that can be made visible by another chemical process, you can make the invisible visible, for yourself, by recognizing certain characteristics, or by asking astute questions I teach you.
Of course unless you are somewhat astute, all the astute questions won’t matter… or worse than that: you’ll ask them without first seeing, astutely (again) what is in the visible.
One of the biggest missing is the ability to connect the dots, to see the connection or similarity between seemingly unrelated incidents, seemingly unrelated occurrences, either in space, or in time, or in circumstances. Continue reading “If the invisible reality is invisible, how can you see it?”
When you blame other people… When bad things always happen to you… When you won’t be happy unless… When winning is the goal…
Why is it that some people consistently choose being right… when the question is being right or being happy?
The underlying dynamic is invisible to the naked eye. It is like an iceberg: only tiny bit of it is showing, and the bulk of the iceberg is under the water level, waiting for your life to kill it… like an iceberg sunk the mighty Titanic.
The visible part is almost always presenting you as the good guy. Nice guy. Hurt, angry, taken advantage of, innocent like a freshly born lamb. Harmless. Continue reading “When you argue for your limitations…”
Many people tell me that I should not give it all away in articles, after all who is going to buy my stuff if I give away all the knowledge.
But the truth is, all the MIND knowledge we can ever have will never help us to live a better life, to be healthier, etc. Doctors are an unhealthy bunch, psychologists / psychiatrist are a wimpy bunch, energy healers come to me for healing…
Why? because the mind considers knowing, i.e. information sufficient… and …
As long as we identify yourself with the mind, we consider information/insight sufficient as well… But in life it isn’t sufficient… not by far.
Just look at weight: we all know what we should be doing, and we have known it for ever. We read, we learn… and yet the number of obese people is growing by the minute. Or worse than that, people losing and regaining the weight, hating themselves, and are totally POWERLESS… and they don’t know what they can do to become POWERFUL.
There is a difference between knowing and KNOWING. Continue reading “The Pebble In Your Shoe… Or How To Have Your Cake And Eat It Too”
How do you cook frogs?
You put them in water. And then, slowly raise the temperature. So slowly that it is near imperceptible for the frogs. They will not jump out of the pot, because they won’t feel it.
The way you cook frog is the surest way to change.
Wild turns, jumps, dramatic workshops are dramatic, but ineffective.
Most things you want to change are stuck on the genetic level. All the behaviors are lined up neatly, like apples on an apple cart.
Continue reading “Are you a frog, a turtle or a hare? Your results speak for themselves.”
It seems that the notion of predatory genes has stirred up some turmoil… and questions.
- Some were arguing that it doesn’t make sense that I carry no predatory genes: i seem to you aggressive.
- Some were worried that their lack of success is from their lack of predatory genes.
- Some were sure Jews had many predatory genes. Why else would they be so successful!
Want to know how many predatory genes you have? I can measure it for you…
Continue reading “Are Psychopaths happy?”
A lot of things will get clearer with this new distinction… even though I have only a cursory sense of what I am talking about. But Source does, so some of the muscle test will leave you with your mouth hanging open. Guaranteed.
Continue reading “The predatory genes”
There is a hidden monkey wrench in the title. Emotions are neither negative nor positive, but let’s just forget that for a moment.
Depending on the answer to that question, you are either a happy, well-adjusted person, or a wretch.
Wow, Sophie, isn’t that an exaggeration? The answer to just one question?
I understand your outrage, but yes. The answer to just one question will tell me what kind of person you are. As far as everything… by the way.
I used to be a person you didn’t want around. I came from an abusive background, and spread it to others in spades. Misery loves company… lol not funny.
When suppressed, when denied, emotions go underground. What is unexpressed yearns to be expressed. It builds pressure and one way or another it will express itself. In self-abuse, in the abuse of others, or maybe even more violent ways.
Continue reading “What about your negative emotions?”