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No elbow room, no freedom to be… that is the ditch

We all live in a ditch-like space that gets deeper and maybe even narrower as we go along.

A ditch is like a tunnel except that it is open to the sky.

People don’t know they live in a ditch. Why? Because all they know is the ditch. It becomes everything because the only thing that would distinguish the ditch is ‘not-ditch’. But because a person in a ditch can only see what is in the ditch and the dirt that is its wall, ditch can’t be distinguished from the inside of it.

My job, in this article, is to cause you to SEE, aka distinguish your ditch so you can have more than just that in your life. Continue reading “No elbow room, no freedom to be… that is the ditch”

The art and science of getting yourself unstuck…

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70% of all people feel that they are stuck… And I guess, 100% of the people feel, at least occasionally, that they are stuck.

Feeling stuck is very unpleasant. I know because I know how it feels.

But being stuck is not real, unless it is something physical, and no one means that, when they say they feel stuck. Continue reading “The art and science of getting yourself unstuck…”

When it was the best, was it really really good?

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Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay: A Step-by-Step Guide to Help You Decide Whether to Stay In or Get Out of Your Relationship is the title of the book that had a deep impact on me. I read it some 20 years ago…

That question is underneath most of my life… including my commitment to go where I am celebrated, not where I am only tolerated.

It isn’t about relationships for me, by the way, it is about the question it poses, the only question I remember from the book. The one question that you can ask about anything and allow that question to guide you in your life. Continue reading “When it was the best, was it really really good?”

There is more than one way to skin a cat or solve a problem

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We are in the middle of Passover. Passover or Pesach is a Jewish holiday, celebrating braking out of the prison of slavery. Being a slave how it has always been, how it is, the fixed mindset…

The process of reframing, and thus the Reframing Challenge is a PrisonBreak program. It is designed to take you from the misery of slavery to the joy of freedom. Please give it respect by treating it as that, not as MY good idea… Continue reading “There is more than one way to skin a cat or solve a problem”

Reframing… take the Precious I out of the picture

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A student of mine gave me access to a course he bought that teaches psychiatrists to reframe the client’s story so it hurts less, or maybe doesn’t hurt at all.

Reframing sounds really simple: look at what is happening or what happened from a different angle, with different eyes.

The most important element of reframing is to step out of your persona, step out of your ego, step out of who you consider yourself to be. Continue reading “Reframing… take the Precious I out of the picture”

You Can’t Get Enough Of What You Don’t Want

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You Can’t Get Enough Of What You Don’t Want

Warning: this is a very advanced article. You should probably start with the easier ones if you are here for the first time. OK?

An interesting glitch in the nature of reality is that our driving desire, the answer to our dreams, the one thing that would seem to fix our complaints doesn’t fix anything.

We could say that you can’t fix what’s not broken. and actually it would be a very astute remark.

But if that is the case, that the thing we are trying to fix isn’t broken, why does it seem that, what we most complain about not having, would fix it?
Continue reading “You Can’t Get Enough Of What You Don’t Want”

The dominant forceful way you are killing life.

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If you pay attention: you won’t want to read this post. You won’t want to know what keeps your vibration low. You are scanning the internet, the horizon, the people around you for feedback: that you are already all you can be.

This ‘not wanting to‘ is essentially what I am talking about in this article, this insistence, this forcefulness.

I wrote this article in 2016. Humanity has gotten worse sence. More forceful…

I don’t want to… I don’t like it… arrgh, nooo!

Continue reading “The dominant forceful way you are killing life.”

Why so many of my subscribers are full of crap

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Why so many of my subscribers are full of crap

In an elementary school in California the administration was warned several times that a 6-year old brought a gun to school and was threatening the other children with it.

The administration did nothing. They didn’t call the police, they didn’t lock the school down… They did nothing.

The child, finally, shot his teacher. Continue reading “Why so many of my subscribers are full of crap”

Reality doesn’t care about beliefs. So why do you?

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You can make-believe it happens, or pretend that something’s true.
You can wish or hope or contemplate a thing you’d like to do,
But until you start to do it, you will never see it through
‘Cause the make-believe pretending just won’t do it for you. ~ Mr. Rogers Neighborhood

Children get it that make-believe is not satisfying, so maybe you can too.

It is about reality vs unreality. Unreality: imagination, make-believe, and should that is as unsatisfying as eating broth with a fork. Continue reading “Reality doesn’t care about beliefs. So why do you?”

Prison Break? What prison are you in unbeknownst to you?

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Prison Break or the Art of Questions…

What could someone do when the world, your health, your body, your relationships are not going the way they should… do anything other than be complacent, resigned, live in quiet desperation?

I always had this question, but reading the Fatemarks series the question is getting louder in my head.

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