Are you a nice person? Let’s take a look at that

Is it fear? Or is it unwillingness?

The human DNA isn't a DNA for kindness, caring, or any of the "nice" stuff we are supposed to be.

In fact, it will take changing the DNA to go to the next level, to the level of human being, to be able to be kind, caring. For altruism...

Our "soul correction" is the path.

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Selfish? let’s look at that, shall we?

Life is best lived where what you want for yourself is a side effect.

I know, for half of humanity that sounds like liberal nonsense... but this is how life becomes the most enjoyable, and maybe the most "life-earning" as well, in spite of it being counter intuitive.

And this is true in every area of life...

I can't write a better article on this than Zat Rana here.

What I can write best is the wretchedness of going straight for what you want, and quitting when anyone else benefits... And I can share how this... getting what i need as a side effect, consciously, has been one of the secrets of my inner peace, fulfillment, and happiness.

Some 15 years ago I started studying Kabbalah, an ancient body of thought. The truth value of Kabbalah is about 30%, while most other "ancient" teachings are less than 10% truth value, so if you have a large body of knowledge yourself, have read hundreds or thousands of books, have degrees, etc. You are somewhat safe in studying Kabbalah. Continue reading "Selfish? let’s look at that, shall we?"

Intuitive, counter-intuitive… how we use “intuition” to make everything worse

What we call intuition isn't... but WHAT do we call intuition?

The state of the current humanity is chaos. Everyone has an opinion, just like everyone has an a-hole.

So far so good, Sophie... you groan. But from this, honoring one's opinion as important, comes the mischief: everyone insists that their version of reality... aka their opinion, is the real reality.

Same way about what words mean... words like intuition. Continue reading "Intuitive, counter-intuitive… how we use “intuition” to make everything worse"

Why you are not, in fact cannot be curious? Are you screwed now?

I have decided to re-read the Feelings book, and this time make it a study, memorize the names of the different needs, take a more earnest approach to learning the "language" of the machine that is need-based.

I am feeling a mix of fear and excitement. where? in my stomach, expanding to my chest.

My plan is to read/study the book is to study it at the beginning of my evening reading session for about 10 minutes, and then switch to my "other" book... whatever book I am reading in the evening at the time... currently it is "Curious" by Ian Leslie.

I am reading Curious for the second time, and this time it is, given the chance, going to change something in me and consequently in how I teach, how i guide, and what I expect YOU to do.

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You got stuck in the behavior of a 3-4-year old and it is biting you in the ass today

I am writing nowadays a lot about your mental slothfulness, about your lack of knowledge, lack of understanding, and poor absorption of what you are seeing.

In a coaching call yesterday my student started to bring some clarity for me.

He calls it "nodding" when he has no idea what he just heard, or what he just read.

That is the visible part of this huge iceberg... but what is in the immersed part? Continue reading "You got stuck in the behavior of a 3-4-year old and it is biting you in the ass today"

Been there done that! the fixed mindset and how it prevents you from changing yourself and your life…

How the notes you take, the stories you tell, put blinders on you and prevent you from growing... Continue reading "Been there done that! the fixed mindset and how it prevents you from changing yourself and your life…"

Being judged

We are judged all the time. Justly, unjustly, the feeling of being judged is familiar to all of us... and some of us is bothered and paralyzed by it more than others.

What's painful in being judged is that the judgment contains a kernel of truth (or more) and the other part is the judging themselves: in judging they place themselves above us... simply unbearable to the sensitive Precious "I".

This story is about my very recent "bout" with being judged... and shows what is on the other side of judgment... how to free yourself from it so it doesn't sting quite that much... maybe not even at all.

OK, here we go:

If you've known me for a while, you know that I don't do housework, or really shamefully little. Continue reading "Being judged"

There is a secret switch at 200 vibration… so secret you miss it unless you are told

...in fact, without that secret switch you can't really get to 200 vibration, and if by accident (siphoning someone else's energy) you got there... you'll lose it... because to get to 200 and stay there... you need this capacity...

Everyone has a good firm suggestion what is the most important spiritual capacity of a person who'll go far... very far, or at least as far as experiencing the good life goes...

Because the good life is not very far... no matter what anyone says.

The main difference between someone who is living the good, the excellent life, and someone who is struggling, trying to get to the good life is not on the outside. Continue reading "There is a secret switch at 200 vibration… so secret you miss it unless you are told"

Compounding interest… the secret of exponential growth…

There is a controversial saying by Charlie Munger, who said: to get what you want, you need to deserve what you want.

This is controversial, because the verb, deserve, is bastardized in our culture. What he should have said:

to have a chance to get what you want, you need to earn what you want. And then say: to earn what you want, you need to become the person who can earn what they want.

And this last sentence is what this article is about: the kind of person who can earn what they want.

One common thread that I notice among my clients and students is that they let their life hang on one or maybe two activities, which is not to be the kind of person who can earn what they want. Continue reading "Compounding interest… the secret of exponential growth…"

How to find your real self… instead of honoring your false self as yourself

As I have written before, the book I am reading now is the Metaskills.

The author is a designer, and looks at life through a designer's glasses.

The article "You live in a world of your own design" is one of the favorite articles on my site. People want to design their lives.

The popularity of the program, Mind Movies builds on that desire to design... but the requirements for design are not there, not there for 99.99% of humanity... What is there is something else, something that doesn't allow for design.

The basics of being a designer is what is most missing in life... if you really look, you can see it. Continue reading "How to find your real self… instead of honoring your false self as yourself"