Did you get stuck at a 3-year old’s level, and you are still behaving like a 3-year old child

Did you get stuck, ontologically, at a 3-year old's level, and you are still behaving like a 3-year old child

Ontology is being science.

It looks at the grounds of your being. Here are a few examples: "I am an object in the world of objects." "I am not free to be myself!" "There is something wrong and it needs to be fixed!" "Don't tell me what to do!" "I already know!" "It's mine!" "I am a girl" "I am not loved" "Life is dangerous" "I can't count on anyone" "I am worthless"

Your life is built on the grounds of your being... like a house. You don't like your life? Examine your grounds of being: the issue is there. Continue reading "Did you get stuck at a 3-year old’s level, and you are still behaving like a 3-year old child"

Patterns… or Why do billionaires read books on physics, the ice ages, the shorelines of our planet?


There are many ways to deal with the Universe, with reality, and most of them are ineffective.

The more effectively you "deal" with reality, the more you get out of your life.

Billionaires Warren Buffet and Charlie Munger, Bill Gates, read books on physics, the ice ages, and the shorelines of our planet... and I see how it helps them in dealing with reality. this is what this article is about.

The Anna Karenina Principle applies here. That is what a principle is: it applies everywhere.

A principle is a pattern. Big pattern, small pattern, it IS a pattern.

"Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way." By that, Tolstoy meant that for a marriage to be happy, it had to succeed in several key aspects. Failure on even one of these aspects, and the marriage is doomed . . . the Anna Karenina principle also applies to ecological risk assessments involving multiple stressors.

One of my students suggested that the linchpin capacity that humanity isn't exercising is allowing. The 12-step programs say: Let go - Let god...

I have been pondering this ever since I got the email with the suggestion. At first I didn't see the beauty of it, but it is growing on me.

Yeah, if you could let life be life, the Universe be the Universe, spring be spring, the weather be the weather, if you stopped fighting it, trying to fix it, tame it, control it, then you would be able to fall into a rhythm, a harmony, a flow. Continue reading "Patterns… or Why do billionaires read books on physics, the ice ages, the shorelines of our planet?"

What you value and in what order…

your load... intrinsicallyA lot of why's are answered here... why you can't get well, why you are not happy, etc.

People are the highest value in the universe. Why? Because they are able to be all levels of values, the thinking mind (systemic), the extrinsic (create tools, cook food, provide pleasure), and the intrinsic.

You live, predominantly on one level, and value what is on that level most.

Depending on how closely your valuation matches the valuation that is "godly", or the Original Design, you fulfill the purpose of being human.
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Many of you don’t have a Self… here is how to find your Self

We all have two selves. One is real, the other is made up.

The bigger the distance between the two, the less authentic, the less happy we are.

When you love yourself: you love your life... said in another way: when the two selves are in harmony, you love your life.

The soul's (the real self) job is to cause character, the soul's job is to help you find out who you are. The Self. The person you are...

Many of you have not managed to distinguish a Self from all the ideas of who you should be, who you want to be, who you fancy yourself being... The precious I, the delusional self.

A Self is your "I" that is independent and defensible from other people's opinion, and from even your own opinion of you... when you make mistakes.

I know this is a mouthful, so let me elaborate:
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Musings

I just spent almost four whole days and whole nights in bed, in and out of sleep.

It was new to me to think of myself first, and of "duty" second.

But I have learned, the hard way, that if I don't take care of myself, I may be dead sooner than I'd like.

Actually it wasn't hard to stay in bed. This was for me like a vacation... I vacated my mind... Trial death... Nice.

Until last night... that is... when my mind kicked in and instead of letting me sleep, I was writing articles in my head. Continue reading "Musings"

The three levels of value: an amazing process to fall in love with yourself

intrinsic-versus-extrinsic-motivating-lasting-change-in-health-behaviors-2-638In this article I'll teach you something that has the potential to turn you into a happy, joyful person. No kidding.

Also, it can serve as the bridge between human and human being...

From that you can guess: the distinctions in this article are advanced.

At present, if you are a "normal" human, you are judging yourself and others. You are miserable, wretched, prone to get happy, get sad, get depressed at the drop of a hat.

I assert that you are judgmental, because distinctions are missing, and there is nothing wrong with you. Or them...

You are judgmental. You can't help it. You may try to control yourself, suppress it, but it isn't going anywhere. It is there. It's vicious. You judge yourself as much as you judge others. This is how you learned to be by modeling your parents, your teachers, your bosses, your church, your politicians.

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How not to have your spine shrivel up on you?

It's New Year's day. Billions of people give and get strokes... 1 happy new year! Thank you, happy new year to you!

You have to answer, reciprocate, or you create a negative balance with the people you didn't answer to... Weird but is so. Violate this at your own demise...

Humans need "strokes", an acknowledgment (validation?) of their existence, to stay alive. The expression Eric Berne uses is, that their spine doesn't shrivel up.

Any strokes will do... Continue reading "How not to have your spine shrivel up on you?"

For you everything is the same as everything else, except that not always…

The second part of the title, "except that not always" is doesn't apply for at least 10% of you: you won't even see the difference when I point it out. 1

The most frustrating thing is, that you are sure you are saying or understanding the right words... but you don't. And you blame it on the speaker saying that what they said doesn't work.

How do I know?

For most people, who become a student in my programs, this is the first hurdle to pass.

You come into my program with a 300 accurate vocabulary, and you only hear the words you think you know what they mean, but that is not what I said.

I only find out what you heard when you tell me my words back to me... wrong. inaccurate. different words. Different meaning. Or Tai's words, if you are in the 67 steps coaching... 2 Continue reading "For you everything is the same as everything else, except that not always…"

Should you become a client? Would I even accept you as a client?

For decades one of my sore spots was that people refused to serve me, even though I paid them.

I remember saying to myself: my money is not good enough for you? and wept.

I had no idea how I "accomplished" that... in 20/20 hindsight it is still a little spotty.

What wasn't clear to me, never even occurred to me, how my attitude effected the service provider. My "To what degree you think of yourself:" starting point measure was, at the time, 70%. From my behavior I would have guessed it was higher.

Mainly I overrode what they said. I argued, I knew better, I acted with contempt...

What I didn't know then is that being a service provider needs to be a win, or no service.

A customer who is not happy is a drag on an provider, and not worth the little (or even a lot of) money they pay.

I was that kind of customer...
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Updated: Is muscletesting a good truth method for picking a diet? Prepare to be surprised

web-muscle-testingI am starting to get hate mail.

I am happy about it.

They say the opposite of love is not hate, it is indifference.

So when you teach something, no echo is the worst thing that can happen to you. Being called names, cursed out: that is wonderful. You got noticed.

It means: you are being heard. It means you are making waves. It means you are upsetting the apple cart. Poking holes into long held truths... and ultimately that is the job of a teacher.

The order of things is what is accepted as truth.

For the most part, the order of things contain "truths" memes, that are not true...

The current order of things has a total truth value of 4%... which means 96% of what we believe is not true.
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