You got stuck in the behavior of a 3-4-year old and it is biting you in the ass today

I am writing nowadays a lot about your mental slothfulness, about your lack of knowledge, lack of understanding, and poor absorption of what you are seeing.

In a coaching call yesterday my student started to bring some clarity for me.

He calls it "nodding" when he has no idea what he just heard, or what he just read.

That is the visible part of this huge iceberg... but what is in the immersed part? Continue reading "You got stuck in the behavior of a 3-4-year old and it is biting you in the ass today"

Been there done that! the fixed mindset and how it prevents you from changing yourself and your life…

How the notes you take, the stories you tell, put blinders on you and prevent you from growing... Continue reading "Been there done that! the fixed mindset and how it prevents you from changing yourself and your life…"

Being judged

We are judged all the time. Justly, unjustly, the feeling of being judged is familiar to all of us... and some of us is bothered and paralyzed by it more than others.

What's painful in being judged is that the judgment contains a kernel of truth (or more) and the other part is the judging themselves: in judging they place themselves above us... simply unbearable to the sensitive Precious "I".

This story is about my very recent "bout" with being judged... and shows what is on the other side of judgment... how to free yourself from it so it doesn't sting quite that much... maybe not even at all.

OK, here we go:

If you've known me for a while, you know that I don't do housework, or really shamefully little. Continue reading "Being judged"

There is a secret switch at 200 vibration… so secret you miss it unless you are told

...in fact, without that secret switch you can't really get to 200 vibration, and if by accident (siphoning someone else's energy) you got there... you'll lose it... because to get to 200 and stay there... you need this capacity...

Everyone has a good firm suggestion what is the most important spiritual capacity of a person who'll go far... very far, or at least as far as experiencing the good life goes...

Because the good life is not very far... no matter what anyone says.

The main difference between someone who is living the good, the excellent life, and someone who is struggling, trying to get to the good life is not on the outside. Continue reading "There is a secret switch at 200 vibration… so secret you miss it unless you are told"

Compounding interest… the secret of exponential growth…

There is a controversial saying by Charlie Munger, who said: to get what you want, you need to deserve what you want.

This is controversial, because the verb, deserve, is bastardized in our culture. What he should have said:

to have a chance to get what you want, you need to earn what you want. And then say: to earn what you want, you need to become the person who can earn what they want.

And this last sentence is what this article is about: the kind of person who can earn what they want.

One common thread that I notice among my clients and students is that they let their life hang on one or maybe two activities, which is not to be the kind of person who can earn what they want. Continue reading "Compounding interest… the secret of exponential growth…"

How to find your real self… instead of honoring your false self as yourself

As I have written before, the book I am reading now is the Metaskills.

The author is a designer, and looks at life through a designer's glasses.

The article "You live in a world of your own design" is one of the favorite articles on my site. People want to design their lives.

The popularity of the program, Mind Movies builds on that desire to design... but the requirements for design are not there, not there for 99.99% of humanity... What is there is something else, something that doesn't allow for design.

The basics of being a designer is what is most missing in life... if you really look, you can see it. Continue reading "How to find your real self… instead of honoring your false self as yourself"

Did you get stuck at a 3-year old’s level, and you are still behaving like a 3-year old child

Did you get stuck, ontologically, at a 3-year old's level, and you are still behaving like a 3-year old child

Ontology is being science.

It looks at the grounds of your being. Here are a few examples: "I am an object in the world of objects." "I am not free to be myself!" "There is something wrong and it needs to be fixed!" "Don't tell me what to do!" "I already know!" "It's mine!" "I am a girl" "I am not loved" "Life is dangerous" "I can't count on anyone" "I am worthless"

Your life is built on the grounds of your being... like a house. You don't like your life? Examine your grounds of being: the issue is there. Continue reading "Did you get stuck at a 3-year old’s level, and you are still behaving like a 3-year old child"

Patterns… or Why do billionaires read books on physics, the ice ages, the shorelines of our planet?


There are many ways to deal with the Universe, with reality, and most of them are ineffective.

The more effectively you "deal" with reality, the more you get out of your life.

Billionaires Warren Buffet and Charlie Munger, Bill Gates, read books on physics, the ice ages, and the shorelines of our planet... and I see how it helps them in dealing with reality. this is what this article is about.

The Anna Karenina Principle applies here. That is what a principle is: it applies everywhere.

A principle is a pattern. Big pattern, small pattern, it IS a pattern.

"Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way." By that, Tolstoy meant that for a marriage to be happy, it had to succeed in several key aspects. Failure on even one of these aspects, and the marriage is doomed . . . the Anna Karenina principle also applies to ecological risk assessments involving multiple stressors.

One of my students suggested that the linchpin capacity that humanity isn't exercising is allowing. The 12-step programs say: Let go - Let god...

I have been pondering this ever since I got the email with the suggestion. At first I didn't see the beauty of it, but it is growing on me.

Yeah, if you could let life be life, the Universe be the Universe, spring be spring, the weather be the weather, if you stopped fighting it, trying to fix it, tame it, control it, then you would be able to fall into a rhythm, a harmony, a flow. Continue reading "Patterns… or Why do billionaires read books on physics, the ice ages, the shorelines of our planet?"

What you value and in what order…

your load... intrinsicallyA lot of why's are answered here... why you can't get well, why you are not happy, etc.

People are the highest value in the universe. Why? Because they are able to be all levels of values, the thinking mind (systemic), the extrinsic (create tools, cook food, provide pleasure), and the intrinsic.

You live, predominantly on one level, and value what is on that level most.

Depending on how closely your valuation matches the valuation that is "godly", or the Original Design, you fulfill the purpose of being human.
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Many of you don’t have a Self… here is how to find your Self

We all have two selves. One is real, the other is made up.

The bigger the distance between the two, the less authentic, the less happy we are.

When you love yourself: you love your life... said in another way: when the two selves are in harmony, you love your life.

The soul's (the real self) job is to cause character, the soul's job is to help you find out who you are. The Self. The person you are...

Many of you have not managed to distinguish a Self from all the ideas of who you should be, who you want to be, who you fancy yourself being... The precious I, the delusional self.

A Self is your "I" that is independent and defensible from other people's opinion, and from even your own opinion of you... when you make mistakes.

I know this is a mouthful, so let me elaborate:
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