How to disappear all of your past… so you can have an empty future?

I was looking for good pictures to go with this topic, and I was struck to what degree people think that what they have as their past is what happened in the past.

100% of what happened, what you say happened, what you remember happened, actually didn't happen. You only remember what you said about it... the meanings, the interpretations. Not what happened in reality.

Getting to see what is in reality, what was in reality, takes work, and a serious change in how you look.

This article will be most useful for my students, who have been doing that work for a long time, some of them as long as a full year...

So if what I am saying doesn't make a lot of sense... consider that it should not... You don't have the foundation, the skills, the capacities that only practice can give you... Real practice. Deliberate practice.

If you want the results my students are getting, you need to do the work my students are doing... in the Playground. Day in and day out... Continue reading "How to disappear all of your past… so you can have an empty future?"

Pretense… authenticity… the zig-zag path to become yourself

  • don't wish it was easier"Don't wish it were easier: wish you were better. Don't wish for less problems wish for more skills. Don't wish for less challenge wish for more wisdom" said Jim Rohn
  • I want to be loved just the way I am... say most people.
  • You are already perfect...
  • The marriage of these three differing points of view is the state of humanity right now: rampant pretense... and utter misery.

The pretense prevents most everyone from becoming better. From building skills. From attaining wisdom.

The pretense is like a 2 feet by 4 feet jail cell... tight, restrictive, unpleasant. Continue reading "Pretense… authenticity… the zig-zag path to become yourself"

What does that nice cup of coffee or tea have to do with having a Self?

How much voice do YOU have in the chorus of the voices that live in your head?

It's Thursday morning, and I am starting a new experiment.

Yesterday I discovered that I have no idea what it is like to eat when you have an appetite. I observed myself, and I solely eat, have been eating, for taste. Texture. The mouthfeel.

But my physiology wants me to eat for appetite. 1 Bummer, I don't know the first thing about appetite... 🙁
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I look at different languages to get a clue... In Hungarian appetite, the word, says "the desire to eat". Hm. In other languages there are appetizers... that grow that desire to eat, or maybe to wake up the dormant desire? Continue reading "What does that nice cup of coffee or tea have to do with having a Self?"

Your Dark Side: Desire To Receive For The Self Alone, Cutting Your Nose In Spite Of Your Face

All religions are against selfishness. All parents, all people tell you that you are a better person if you are about others rather than being about you.

The problem with this universally accepted principle is that we actually don't know what we are talking about. It seems that what we are asked is to be selfless, to give up our selves, our self-interest.

Selfless can mean two things, both are a crime, a sin 1 , a horrible thing giving you a horrible life:

  • 1. We now have and know no self. This is a widespread phenomenon 2 in this day and age, and I was a victim of this phenomenon for many decades.

I literally did not know what I liked, what I wanted, what turned me on, what floated my boat, what I was excited about, what would have I wanted.

I knew fairly well what I didn't like, but just like with everything, there are a thousand ways to miss the bulls eye, but only one way to hit it.

Knowing who you are, what you want, what turns you on, what ticks you off, what your preferences are, what your values are is mandatory, if you want to be on the path to become a human being.

Without that you are just unconscious sheep. 3

  • 2. Giving up your own life, on your own life, on your own interest, on your own enjoyment, on your own fulfillment... for others' life, interest, enjoyment, fulfillment, whatever...

You cannot be a human being giving away your own life: it is against your nature, you are suppressing your nature, and anything suppressed will get its due: you either will go crazy, sick, or raging angry at the most inopportune times.

It is only your ego, the one that says: "but I am good..." enjoys it.

Human Being, (not just by looks and physiology, but by consciousness,) a Human Being, takes 100% responsibility for his physiology, for his needs, and takes care of those, without abusing anyone, without taking away anything that belongs to someone else.

A real Human Being does not suppress: instead uses his intelligence to express the needs, fulfill the need at appropriate times and in appropriate places.

You need to own that you are built on animal body, and consciousness, nothing will change that.

Making your nature wrong kills you, kills your body, kills your spirituality, but feeds your ego.

Unless you are Self-ish, your life won't matter. Your self-expression will be pretentious and fake, or non-existent. Your creative powers will be un-expressed, unused, or frittered away.

Now, let me talk about something that no one talks about: another price of suppression: ego.

Ego, in its eagerness to make you special, make you successful, is doing a horrible number on you.

All Soul Corrections deal with this very issue: I am going to explain it here.

Desire to receive for the self alone is what modern psychology calls ego. Ego desire. Being right, making the other wrong, dominating, avoiding domination, avoiding responsibility, and all the other ego moves. 4

Instead of being Self-ish, (knowing who you are, knowing what is your unique expression, knowing what you need and what you want, without EVER violating another's right for the same) you have suppressed Self-ishness, and now you feel justified to trample on other people's rights, interfere with their lives, or withhold what you would naturally give them.

I can see this clearly in conversations, namely in all podcasts, all Playground partner calls... It is so obvious to me, so invisible to the offending person.

Most of your life is about gaining power over others... a clear violation of the base law which is: you can have anything you want without taking away another's right for self-determination, for fulfilling their purpose, to earn their living, to live in peace and happiness.

Your main ambition in life seems to be making people miserable, upset, feel bad about themselves, get sick, lose the will to live.

I mean it. This is your main occupation, your main, albeit hidden purpose in life, unless you are Self-ish.

When you are Self-ish, you are busy creating, you are busy Self-expressing, or just living.

People suffer servitude, or animosity around you, and you pretend that you have nothing to do with it.

You won't really do anything else, lest they have some fun, some benefit, feel like they can just live their lives. No, you won't allow that!

Let me give you a recent example:

I have recently released a revolutionary audio recording, called Harmonize The Planet. Originally it was meant, like the name suggests, for harmonizing the planet. I asked people to join in and I was collecting a "donation" to be able to make a difference in the world.

Making a difference in the world is something very important to me, given that humanity has accelerated the pace with which it is destroying life on the planet. And there are not a lot of people whose activity can make a difference in that arena. I was excited that I could create something, and I thought that people will be excited to be able to contribute. After all this is OUR planet. And I supposed that my readership consisted of high-minded people.

Then something unexpected happened: the audio turned out to be doing two other things, on the level of the individual, things I didn't know it would do or even could do..

  • It turned out to be an effective antidote for the common anguish and anxiety... Trust me, I had tried everything before, and nothing worked like this audio.
  • The second thing that it does is even more valuable. You see, to go to the next evolutionary level, humans need to use the mind as a tool, instead of being used by the mind... like puppets.

People use their minds to understand things, to listen, to see, to see what they feel. The mind is not a suitable tool for that, so people are completely cut off from reality, and the culprit is the predominance of the mind.

This audio, The Harmonizer, shuts up the mind. It creates a welcome pause, a silence, in which the Beyond can talk to you, in which you can contemplate who you are, in which you can feel your feelings, listen to your inner guidance, hear what others are saying, or just rest.

The audio cost a pittance, but only my students were buying it.

When I muscle tested why other readers don't buy it, I got that people resent that they have to pay for others' benefit. They'd rather stay anguished, or riddled with a busy mind, lest others benefit from what they are doing.

Now, whether they are thinking of their mother-in-law, their "best" friend, I don't know. I know one thing: if it benefits another, as well as them, they don't want it.

Here is another example:

Some 25 years ago I had a lover. Every time I wanted to have sex, he refused. He said he felt used. He said that I was asking for it because it was good for me.

What he could not see, did not see, is that he, a man, always enjoyed sex, whether I did or not. But he preferred that he was the only one enjoying it.

Somehow it made him feel better if he was the only beneficiary of the "act."

The people that say: no, "I won't buy the Harmonize The Planet audio, because it also helps others," are just like this one-time boy friend of mine.

A direct result of pretending all your life to be generous and selfless... while you withhold yourself and wish everyone dead around you, so you can finally have your day.Get your Harmonizer audio

PS: Misery loves company, the crab bucket are examples of desire to receive for the self alone. Each soul correction has their unique way of sucking the life out of life... maybe I should write an article about that. Do you know what is your soul-correction?
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Reader question answered: Why have I been unable to grow? Soul fragmentation?

Dear Sophie,

I have been unable to grow, to learn, to move from A to B. I have been spending a lot of time reading your articles, doing your courses, and yet: no result.

Is there anything I am missing?

Your case reminds me of some hopeless health cases just before I discovered that there is such a thing as energetic attachments.

The client would stay out of balance, leaking energy left and right, in spite of all the things we did...

Then, finally a client arrived who felt that he was systematically abused and life force siphoned away by his ex. Continue reading "Reader question answered: Why have I been unable to grow? Soul fragmentation?"

Activate your divinity… restore your Self to wholeness

Things happen... They happen when you are young, and when you are little, a little boy or a little girl, every happening is very very very significant, and everything that happens seems to say something about you, and about your chances to make it... to live, to be well, to be loved, appreciated, considered valuable, etc.

You seem to be completely at the effect of everything and everyone, with a very limited number of moves of your own... you can cry, you can refuse to eat, you can talk, but they all seem to be ineffective: you have no power.

Then you grow up, and things still happen to you. And you still the effect... not the cause of any of it, or not much of it.

You are reduced to the one who can talk about it, but not the one who caused it, or can even contemplate causing anything.

And that is the typical, 99.99% reality for people on the planet. Continue reading "Activate your divinity… restore your Self to wholeness"

The straitjacket of your identity

The identity you invented is preventing you from living the life you want 1

What identity? you ask.

That person you deeply believe that you are. The good person, the helpful person, the nice person...

Or the superman
Or the intelligent, well spoken person
Or the smart person...
Or the humble person...

But there are questions, because those same identity traits are at the root of some of your complaints, so there is a disharmony somewhere. Continue reading "The straitjacket of your identity"

Are you tired or are you weak? Revealing the root cause of inaccurate vocabulary…

I am starting to see why my students loved me, rallied for me back in 2012-2013-2014...

It'd been puzzling me... what did I do differently then?

Today I saw it.

I had a private call with a brand new client from Australia, and it was a video call on zoom (don't ask... first time zoom user myself!) so I could see her, and the changes the conversation was creating in her. Continue reading "Are you tired or are you weak? Revealing the root cause of inaccurate vocabulary…"

The difference between information (knowing) and transformation

As you know, I have been learning the difference between information and transformation the hard way...

Even though I have "known" this difference already ten years ago (I have a video of myself to prove it,) even the knowledge of that isn't transformation.

Transformation is when your actions are consistent with the new knowledge, consistently.

My basic training is architecture, and my five year training, plus the two years to do all the calculations (a second graduate degree), it was all about doing, very little about knowing.

I had classmates who knew all the formulas, but couldn't solve the problems. I could solve all the problems, if someone gave me the formulas, which I consistently and stubbornly refused to memorize. Continue reading "The difference between information (knowing) and transformation"

Do you spend time with yourself? Or are you trying to be busy all the time? What does that say about you?

Your soul, your spirit, knows right from wrong

If it only had an opportunity to talk to you, to be heard, you'd probably consider stopping doing the wrongs that you do, if only to have peace inside, to have less tension, to have more joy.

The two selves we all have are twins separated at birth... one grows according to DNA, the other according to outside influences... nature vs. nurture.

The further "nurture" makes the one twin (self) go, the worse the relationship becomes, the more, whenever they get to see each other, the one hates the other. Which one is doing the hating, you ask? Continue reading "Do you spend time with yourself? Or are you trying to be busy all the time? What does that say about you?"