Most people, to one degree or another, are ruled by fear. Most of that fear is fear of nothing-in-particular, just fear. And some of that fear is being afraid of getting hurt, of being laughed at, of looking foolish, of making a mistake, of losing face.
But fear is fear, and on the horizontal plane, for the horizontal self, there is nothing more important than to listen to the fear and avoid doing anything that awakens fear.
Result: your life is stagnant, your self-respect is disappearing, and you shrink, and shrink. It doesn't feel good.
Fear is getting stronger, and you are getting weaker.
We all have at least two distinct and recognizable selves that we switch back and forth between.
In this article we'll look at intelligence, but we could also look at the character, the attitude, the moral fortitude of the selves... but because I look at the world through the frame of smart and stupid, and only secondarily through loyal/disloyal, I'll write this article on the intelligence level of your two selves.
OK, the insight is similar to what I saw last time, but it's, maybe a little more defined. Finish What You Start hasn't had the courage to become a person. He looks outside to see if he is doing OK... needs approval.
At the merest suspicion that he should do something different, he is going to jump... and exhaust himself or herself. Doesn't open up a conversation... and the people they live with learn to direct them with just a glance.
This is, by the way, the reason they don't have fulfilled projects: they get distracted by their spouses, bosses, and don't follow their inner calling... either don't have the courage, or don't have a calling...
New insight 10/7/2017
I break a lot of eggs every day. I like to eat the yolk separate from the white. So I separate them. The egg white is like snot... No definite shape, no commitment, sneaky.
This is how "Finish What You Start" behave, like the egg white... Avoid being called to account, avoid to be a person who can be counted on.
I see this soul correction on Scott toilet paper as well: it kinda sorta has a sheet size, it kinda sorta has perforation, but it won't tear at the perforation... It tears where it wants to tear...
A "Finish What You Start" product, avoiding any accountability, whatsoever. lol... frustrating to me, who likes to have things done.
Looking at the vise... try to control egg whites with a vise... ugh, ugly.
New insight 5/20/2017 courtesy of a student:
Today some new things came to mind..
I realized that i live in a vise like pressure i put myself in.. i always do for some reason.. i'm looking at why. i feel its false adopted beliefs.
How i noticed is that thinking about all the reading and the diet the saying no to things and yes to others .. being disciplined and adding structure feels like work , like i have to make it happen.. then i remember my life before.. i was pulled in a thousand directions at once and completely running myself down on things i (wanted) to do..
So today i imagined what it would feel like if i didn't have anything i had to do or not do.. i ended up thinking id have a nap or just go for a slow walk.. then i realized that the reading and listening and structure and the diet.. all the things i (have ) to do, will make my life so much easier and meaningful than it has been , and i started to actually feel like it is my vacation , my relief. Continue reading "Updated: Soul Correction: Finish What You Start"
The world is mundane. Ordinary. At least through ordinary eyes. It is just the way it is.
Some people see beauty, some people see truth, some people see goodness, but for the most part you see reasons to justify why you only trudge through life, never really seeing any poetry, any romance, anything really uplifting.
The Beyond, The Divine, The "Spirit" gets through to you through one of those, truth, beauty, goodness, and how you know it got to you because something echoes in your Soul.
You cry, you laugh, you shut up... words don't come close to express it.
When I work with people on their life's purpose, on the meaning of their lives, especially when I do it in a private call, I need to work a lot.
I shared this with the woman who drives me to do my errands on every Tuesday, and watched her emotions (remember, I am a True Empath!)... the emotions were "holding your breath, playing possum: I am not even here... Nobody home, I didn't hear you..."
I pondered it until I saw it: we don't like our bubble burst. We want our self-image to stay the way it is, so all of life can stay the same.
This is a four years old article. I am rewriting it to include fixed mindset, the distinction from Carol Dweck's book, Mindset.
When the mind takes over your perception you see what your mind wants to see.
We have all experienced how the mind tricks us into believing that something other than what's happening is happening.
When you are dizzy, sea-sick or drunk: the room seems to be spinning. When someone tells you skinny is good, you start liking skinny. When someone tells you you are ugly, you start seeing ugly.
Here are some examples:
1. You are not allowed to see what your mind doesn't allow you to see...
...this is why Japanese soldiers could not see, till the end, that they were beaten.
More than that: Japanese soldiers enlisted into the Japanese navy, but never considered that they should learn to swim: the option that their vessel would sink never occurred to them: after all their emperor was invincible. They would not even make any moves to get a life preserver when they were under attack: their mind told them that nothing can, nothing could happen to them... and they died by drowning... victims of the mind hiding reality from them.
It is puzzling to watch people not taking any actions that would make a lot of sense for them to take. They will cling, tooth and nail, to some status quo that only they see: it seems that they don't want to find out that they can, and they don't want to find out that they can't.
This relegates them into the status of has-been, or never-been. You can't hold onto anything, because anything that isn't growing is dying. And you can't become something more without growing.
I learned something today. It's a big catch. And instead of being ashamed... I am happy. Because we can all get better because of it.
I don't know about you, but I am always surprised when I learn something new. What there is to know rarely show up as something that is missing... and most of my reading rarely results in substantial learning.
But today, two major things... What a day, eh?
One I can share about, the other: I am in the middle of it, so I'll share once I have made it instinctive part of my life.
This one, the one I can share, is about digestion and well-being.
This article distinguishes the most important thing you need to know about growing.
Without growing you are dying. Every minute of every day.
Survival is dying.
The purpose of life is living.... not dying.
Most people I know are either stuck or are coasting... They are going noplace... fast or slow... it is unsatisfying and yet... starting to move in the direction Life wants you to go, or even where you want to go is near impossible... Just look at most people...
This article will reveal a secret... the secret of taking your life where Life wants you to go.
I have been clear that Life wants each of us to go someplace... not necessarily physical, not necessarily to a life-purpose, and yet it is a place. A non-physical place.
When I ask myself where Life wants me to go, after the almost immediate fear-reflex, I feel that I am where Life wants me to be. Doing what Life wants me to do. Afraid that I am not going to succeed.
But then again, Life is not a life-coach who talks you to death with goal setting, and specific, measurable results, and milestones, and bold audacious actions...