I was looking for good pictures to go with this topic, and I was struck to what degree people think that what they have as their past is what happened in the past.
100% of what happened, what you say happened, what you remember happened, actually didn’t happen. You only remember what you said about it… the meanings, the interpretations. Not what happened in reality.
Getting to see what is in reality, what was in reality, takes work, and a serious change in how you look.
This article will be most useful for my students, who have been doing that work for a long time, some of them as long as a full year…
So if what I am saying doesn’t make a lot of sense… consider that it should not… You don’t have the foundation, the skills, the capacities that only practice can give you… Real practice. Deliberate practice.
It’s really hot here. I don’t use air conditioning, and I don’t sweat. So I am really hot. And I am still digesting a lot of things… and it’s not a good idea to write about half baked stuff… or not often.
I don’t feel like writing. But I feel like telling you something, so I whipped out my headset and made an audio… a podcast if you will.
I learned this method from MY mentor, Robert Plank… you can talk a lot faster than you can write… and it gets you over the hump…
It was inspired by this article and this TED talk.
There are emotions and then there are the effects of emotions. But
all emotions can cause incoherence.
You know you are incoherent when your decisions are wrong, and take you down the path of self-destruction or hurting yourself or someone else. When you can’t hear what someone is saying. When you find your attention wandering. When you are not present.
Some emotions’ energy goes outward, other emotions’ energy goes inward.
Either type of emotions,
in a weak person, wreak havoc and cause devastation. A strong person can harness their outward emotions to move mountains, to accomplish, to achieve, to grow.
And a strong person can accept their inward going emotions as not necessary, not rolevant, and let them go.
And it is either an inside job, or an outside job.
I am more motivated, more nudged on to do a move, to do something, to make a change in behavior by the stick than by the carrot… the inside stick…
Most carrots promise you some goodies… goodies you don’t already have, or more of what you already have. But human preference is not in that direction. No matter how trapped you are in desire, wanting, being induced to doing anything for what you want is really rare, unless it is for instant gratification. 1
The world is mundane. Ordinary. At least through ordinary eyes. It is just the way it is.
Some people see beauty, some people see truth, some people see goodness, but for the most part you see reasons to justify why you only trudge through life, never really seeing any poetry, any romance, anything really uplifting.
The Beyond, The Divine, The “Spirit” gets through to you through one of those, truth, beauty, goodness, and how you know it got to you because something echoes in your Soul.
You cry, you laugh, you shut up… words don’t come close to express it.
When I work with people on their life’s purpose, on the meaning of their lives, especially when I do it in a private call, I need to work a lot.
I had a one-on-one session with a student yesterday.
Sometimes I notice something “out”… something that doesn’t fit the picture, and just like a good detective, I latch onto it, and watch it, and if I can, I use it to unravel the mystery someone’s life is.
But sometimes it takes a while to really identify what it is that doesn’t fit… it is just a hunch, it is just a feeling… like the faint scent of death for a search dog…
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