Become all you can become with Sophie
He that won't be counselled, can't be helped
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What is Transformation?
On the very outside of the onion called transformation, is the ‘wow’ layer. Wow… what just happened? Wow… that’s not how I’ve been seeing it… An experience.
It is miraculous. It is reality changing in front of your very eyes. Continue reading “What is Transformation? How it’s like an onion…”
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If you need encouragement to become X you’ll never be XContext, of course, is decisive… Arbeit macht frei is true… but…
On the gates of hell, on the gates of Auschwitz, Dachau, Theresianstadt that principle feels like mockery. The slogan: Work sets you free through Crematorium number 3. Sob, sob. Weep, weep.
Continue reading “If you need encouragement to become X you’ll never be X”
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You have two selves. Everyone has two selves. One is your real self, impervious to attacks, slights.
‘That is not true’, you say. ‘I feel like I am attacked, I feel every slight is an attack on me.’
Yeah, this is all true what you say if you identify yourself with your precious I, the second self.
Continue reading “Your real self is impervious to attacks, and slights”
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Bad news. On my way home, climbing the long stairway off Euclid Avenue, I was listening to Step 21 of the 67 Steps. It’s about the superpower of being able to get into a relationship with people. Get into a relationship because you can see how their machine works. and because you see it, therefore you can speak their language.
Everything comes to you through people… and…
I have been resigned about my ability to get better at dealing with people.
Resigned means: I have a fixed mindset about it, that says: it may be possible for you, but it’s impossible for me. Continue reading “How bad news can be a godsend or how to eliminate neediness?”
Do you know the difference between a feeling and an emotion? You don’t? I hadn’t, until recently.
So I would have never thought of asking this question prior to reading Margoczi’s books, Feelings and Words a few years ago.
Before, I learned in Landmark Education that regret, remorse, resentment, the ‘infamous’ three R’s are useless, and harmful.
But today I dare to differ. Continue reading “Guiding feelings. Are you guided to look away? Run?”
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If you were a cabbage… would you allow yourself to be trained to become a cauliflower? Roman Cauliflower… like the picture to the left? What prevents you from that?
You want to be more, know more, but you prevent yourself from it… But how?
But how do you prevent yourself from learning, being trained, getting better, growing as a person? Continue reading “What prevents you from becoming all you can become?”
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When you ask that question, How did you get to be the way you are? people say: my family, my religion, my past, what happened to me.
But maybe not. Maybe what makes you, every moment, the way you are is not the past, but the future you are living into.
What future? The future you decided on back when you were little…
Let me explain: Continue reading “How did you get to be the way you are? Do you know?”
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We used to think that if we invented ourselves as something great, we could be great.
In essence, that is what we thought Landmark Education was teaching, and maybe on some level they did.
The formula was ‘Invent a possibility for yourself and your life… so you would say: I am the possibility of being smart (whatever)…’
But what our ego heard is this is how to fix our puny, worthless self, and we either said ‘nah, can’t do it!’ or we got again entangled in the fixing cycle… Continue reading “When you find yourself in a hole, stop digging”
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Without great love you can’t have hate.
And without great love you can’t have courage.
Most of my clients, and I suppose most people are cold fish. The don’t feel deeply, there is no great love and there is no great hate in them.
Are the people who are ‘pro-life’ lovers of life, and haters of death? No, they have no love in their hearts, therefore the hate they espouse is fake. They just want to be right.
The enemy of love is indifference. And the enemy of hate is indifference.
And what allowed for every single evil to happen in the world is indifference. Continue reading “Without hate you can’t have love. Or is it the other way?”
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You live a sheltered life. Either restricted to a small area of the world physically, or to a small area of the world experientially.
So you, just like your cone of vision would predict, have a very narrow slice of reality (the pizza pie) ever seen, heard of, played in, experienced.
One of my 67 step coaching clients says in her reports, on average 10 times each report ‘Wow! I have never thought of that’. ‘I have never considered that’. ‘Hm, I’ve never heard that before’.
Each time she says that her slice of pizza becomes just a little bit bigger. Continue reading “What do I intend to leave behind as my legacy?”
