Are you tired or are you weak? Revealing the root cause of inaccurate vocabulary…

I am starting to see why my students loved me, rallied for me back in 2012-2013-2014...

It'd been puzzling me... what did I do differently then?

Today I saw it.

I had a private call with a brand new client from Australia, and it was a video call on zoom (don't ask... first time zoom user myself!) so I could see her, and the changes the conversation was creating in her. Continue reading "Are you tired or are you weak? Revealing the root cause of inaccurate vocabulary…"

You may know the price of everything and the value of nothing

I had a very interesting conversation, in email, with one of my long time students.

It belies one of the fundamental needs of a human: being paid attention to.

You could say: every child is paid attention to, you work for them, you clean them, to feed them, you put them to bed, but being paid attention to is different. It is a need to be personally noticed, considered, and in some way validated... or something breaks inside.

It is hard to estimate how many children suffer from the lack of fulfillment of this need. Continue reading "You may know the price of everything and the value of nothing"

Delusion of choice, bread of shame, perpetration-withhold… dynamics in the invisible reality

what is your level of vibration?I am like a dog with a bone... and this bone, even though I have talked about it, is going to get some chewing done on... because it is coming up and is in my face.

OK, what am I talking about?

We have been talking about reality... a lot, but mostly we have been talking about the visible part of reality, what the Martian can see.

Now, that is just great, but what about the invisible part of reality, the more than 90% of reality?

Really good and tricky question. The invisible part is, by the way, the "don't know that you don't know" part of reality.

But, luckily, we do know some stuff from that invisible part due to some incredibly observant people who can connect the dots... visible, invisible, principles that are true in either area. Continue reading "Delusion of choice, bread of shame, perpetration-withhold… dynamics in the invisible reality"

What is a soul-mate? Who is your soul-mate? Are they unconditionally nice-nice, or accepting?

One of my students is asking a really good question.

She has two friends whose soul correction is Forget Thyself... and she has a good relationship with me... and I have that same soul correction.

She asks:

Sophie, after I read your last article I checked my last 2 friends' soul corrections. My one friend who pushed me to a certain level had a soul correction Forget Thyself. My friend now, whom I met this year, also has a soul correction Forget Thyself. Interesting. Do we get attracted to certain soul corrections or maybe we get along better with some soul corrections that matches our soul correction?

The answer is not that simple.

  • We know that we have two selves. One self doesn't change. We can call it the soul. Or the Self. Or whatever you want to call it, it is unchanging. It is the same in you, it is the same in me... it is, maybe, the Self of what's possible for the human species...
  • Obviously your other self is far from that, it is changing, it is reactive, put together, selfish, and complaining, and haughty, and bossy... all the things you see everywhere.

You are BEING that other self. Continue reading "What is a soul-mate? Who is your soul-mate? Are they unconditionally nice-nice, or accepting?"

Weeping looking back at the path — republished

I wrote this article in 2015. I am republishing it... because it is important to read now... given the next article I just wrote... It will make it easier to get.

Here I am this cool Saturday morning, weeping.

I observe. What is there? Pain, definitely. Sense of loss, yes. Sadness, no. Regret, no. Resentment, no.

I have had a hard life. The hardest part is the last 30 years. Maybe 33... Since I left Hungary.

In Hungary I had friends. I had people who would want me around, who would walk with me, who would vouch for me.
Continue reading "Weeping looking back at the path — republished"

Are you a nice person? Let’s take a look at that

Is it fear? Or is it unwillingness?

The human DNA isn't a DNA for kindness, caring, or any of the "nice" stuff we are supposed to be.

In fact, it will take changing the DNA to go to the next level, to the level of human being, to be able to be kind, caring. For altruism...

Our "soul correction" is the path.

Continue reading "Are you a nice person? Let’s take a look at that"

What is the real meaning of “we are all one”?

People's instincts are good... but your actions following are only as good as your interpretation of the instinct.

Instincts are sign language... with no well-defined sign-dictionary... on second thought, most words are like that too...

So you have an instinct, that you need to team up with another human if you want to grow... if you want to feel good, if you want a life you can love... and then you go south...

Oh, I need a lover, I need a wife, I need a child... and then you follow the yellow brick road to unhappiness.

The instinct says: TEAM up... and you say, ok, teams are about something, sex, security, blah blah blah... and they aren't. Continue reading "What is the real meaning of “we are all one”?"

Co-creation. Connecting to Source. What is YOUR context that leaves you unfulfilled?

This is an audio that will explain a lot... and you'll hate it. If by any chance you'll love it, you just found the secret of a well lived life.

Transcript

Okay. It's Friday morning, and this little talk I'm doing today will not make you happy. Why? 'Cause it's going to upset the apple cart. It's going to wrinkle your sheets. It's going to be trampling on your beliefs.

So, what am I talking about? Continue reading "Co-creation. Connecting to Source. What is YOUR context that leaves you unfulfilled?"

How to live your life’s purpose: today

your life is like a trainThere is an audio I recorded six years ago but it is as sharp as anything I do today...
It is about how to live your soul's purpose, and how to start, finally doing something substantial, worth being called your life's work...

In this old audio I address something really important: your being, your attitude, at any moment, is correlated or very influenced, so much that it is given by the future you are heading for.

The future you are heading for is destination towards which the rails of your train go... If you are on a train to Chicago, chances are you are going to arrive to Chicago.
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What if you have something blocking you from growing? The Seven Boulders principle

BoulderWhen you decide on an organizing principle, aka direction for your life, you'll suddenly find yourself with obstacles blocking even your view of the horizon, let alone your path.

This article is about that...

Some ten years ago I learned a valuable way of looking at making life meaningful, or living a meaningful life. The teacher suggested that we pick a horizon, a direction, and then look what's blocking the way of getting there.

Since then I saw that even seeing the horizon is blocked... Blocked by seven boulders, lined up one behind the other, blocking your view, blocking your movement.

So, in my coaching practice, when I ask people to set a direction, and they can't see any, I am inclined to suggest that they choose the direction: living a meaningful live, or a fulfilled life... without specifying what it is.

The goal is to see the first boulder that blocks your view, that blocks your path.
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