When you decide on an organizing principle, aka direction for your life, you'll suddenly find yourself with obstacles blocking even your view of the horizon, let alone your path.
This article is about that...
Some ten years ago I learned a valuable way of looking at making life meaningful, or living a meaningful life. The teacher suggested that we pick a horizon, a direction, and then look what's blocking the way of getting there.
Since then I saw that even seeing the horizon is blocked... Blocked by seven boulders, lined up one behind the other, blocking your view, blocking your movement.
So, in my coaching practice, when I ask people to set a direction, and they can't see any, I am inclined to suggest that they choose the direction: living a meaningful live, or a fulfilled life... without specifying what it is.
... Or how do you destroy your life, little by little...
There is nothing more significant in destroying your self-image than starting something, with all the hopes and aspirations it takes to start something and abandoning in before it is finished.
Even if you knew yourself as a great person deserving of the dream you set out to accomplish with the project, by abandoning it, by leaving it in the middle, you declare yourself as undeserving, someone less than a match to your dreams.
When you don't finish a project, you set yourself up for more of the same, it is a self-strengthening cycle.
When you change the way you see things, the things you see change!
The measure of intelligence is the ability to change.
I have a disproportionately large number of people asking for their numbers, whose soul correction is "Sexual Energy"
I could ponder why the Kabbalist named the soul correction that... but instead of that I'll say: How you do anything is how you do everything... meaning whatever your attitude to one thing in life, will be visible in every area of life, including sex.
The main attitude of this soul correction, "Sexual Energy" is: It is my due. One may say "I deserve it". I heard the expression "Magiya li" in Israel a lot. 1
The subject of this starting point measurements is young, still in school. Yet I don't know her.
Because she is so young, I went into more details than I normally would, because it is going to be easier for her to change and get on the strait and narrow that leads to a good life, than for an adult. It is also a guidance more for the mother than for herself: I don't even know if she knows that I measured her starting point measurements.
OK, the insight is similar to what I saw last time, but it's, maybe a little more defined. Finish What You Start hasn't had the courage to become a person. He looks outside to see if he is doing OK... needs approval.
At the merest suspicion that he should do something different, he is going to jump... and exhaust himself or herself. Doesn't open up a conversation... and the people they live with learn to direct them with just a glance.
This is, by the way, the reason they don't have fulfilled projects: they get distracted by their spouses, bosses, and don't follow their inner calling... either don't have the courage, or don't have a calling...
New insight 10/7/2017
I break a lot of eggs every day. I like to eat the yolk separate from the white. So I separate them. The egg white is like snot... No definite shape, no commitment, sneaky.
This is how "Finish What You Start" behave, like the egg white... Avoid being called to account, avoid to be a person who can be counted on.
This seems to be the crux of this soul correction.
I see this soul correction on Scott toilet paper as well: it kinda sorta has a sheet size, it kinda sorta has perforation, but it won't tear at the perforation... It tears where it wants to tear...
A "Finish What You Start" product, avoiding any accountability, whatsoever. lol... frustrating to me, who likes to have things done.
Looking at the vise... try to control egg whites with a vise... ugh, ugly.
New insight 5/20/2017 courtesy of a student:
Today some new things came to mind..
I realized that i live in a vise like pressure i put myself in.. i always do for some reason.. i'm looking at why. i feel its false adopted beliefs.
How i noticed is that thinking about all the reading and the diet the saying no to things and yes to others .. being disciplined and adding structure feels like work , like i have to make it happen.. then i remember my life before.. i was pulled in a thousand directions at once and completely running myself down on things i (wanted) to do..
So today i imagined what it would feel like if i didn't have anything i had to do or not do.. i ended up thinking id have a nap or just go for a slow walk.. then i realized that the reading and listening and structure and the diet.. all the things i (have ) to do, will make my life so much easier and meaningful than it has been , and i started to actually feel like it is my vacation , my relief. Continue reading "Updated: Soul Correction: Finish What You Start"
Your tendency is to remember the story. Not what happened but your story. And to tell the story in a predictable manner... always the same way, always showing you in the same role, the same exact way.
A story is a narrative of reality. It talks from one particular vantage point, and therefore it is distorted. Always. Inherently so.
Your tendency is to remember the story in a way that agrees with your soul correction.
Soul correction, it could be said, is this slant of reality that lets you get away with murder, lies, laziness, blaming, simply said: being less than giving your best.
My story can be summed up with three elements: a hero succeeding in the face of incredible odds, and also complaining: "no matter what I do... I can't this or that". And the third: I don't know if I can trust myself.
Almost succeeding, but never doing things long enough, hard enough, to actually succeed. Why? Because it would kill the story.
In matters of the spirit a little goes a long way.
One of the most puzzling things about Kabbalah has to do with the proportions of worldly to spiritual. It says it is 1%, as opposed to the 99% spiritual. Therefore if you do your job in the 1% reality, then the 99% reality will to its job. It is like putting in $1 to a self improvement fund, and your company would match it with $99. Good deal, isn't it.
It may be a good deal, but very few do it.
Why? Because your mindset has to be certainty, instead of waiting for it to come, or hoping, or wishing, or at the other extreme, thinking that you can only count on yourself. Or strong desire... or hoping... or "faith"... or praying... or all the happy horseshit gurus teach.
I am republishing this article... Because I am writing another article with a different approach about the same result... Being able to live a principle driven life... Principle can also be called "the big picture" of your life.
Gurus teach to look at life this way... but obviously even they don't quite get it... The order of things is this: Being creates the kind and type of doing and the doing creates the having... If this didn't make any sense, you are not alone... billions are in the same place of WTF does that mean?!
be - do - have
But getting it would make all the difference for you: suddenly finding constructive actions, actions that actually lead to what you want... And between you and me, that is not a small thing. I get lots of requests to muscle test for people if the actions they decided lead to self-growth, a better future, or not.
So, it is obviously not easy to see.
As any living thing, your first and main concern is you. What you have, how you feel, how safe you are, how happy you are.