Intrapersonal emotional intelligence, the ability and willingness to look within and see accurately

People with intrapersonal emotional intelligence are adept at looking inward and figuring out their own feelings, motivations and goals. They are quintessentially introspective. They analyze themselves and seek understanding. People with intrapersonal intelligence are intuitive and usually introverted.

A year or two ago I saw a rather amateurish but good Singaporean TV show (The Truth Seekers) that shook me to my core… and woke me up.

I may be a conspiracy seeker… but I have a hunch that we, humans, have been trained, for millennia,  by society to look the other way, to deny human nature, and escape into nice-nice, and sugar and spice, instead of confronting head-on what we call human nature. Continue reading “Intrapersonal emotional intelligence, the ability and willingness to look within and see accurately”

What can you learn from the cult classic, The Mind Parasites by Colin Wilson?

Can you learn how to have peace of mind, productive, and maybe even happy from Colin Wilson and from the book The Mind Parasites?

Colin Wilson died a few years ago. He left a legacy of of many many books, some of them I have read. His vibration was 200, and yet the book can leave you a lot more empowered than Colin Wilson ever was…

This article is about that… how to be empowered by that book, the idea that there are parasites, mind parasites that have their own agenda in your brain. Continue reading “What can you learn from the cult classic, The Mind Parasites by Colin Wilson?”

What is wrong with right and wrong? Are two billion pages all mistaken?

First, let’s clarify what is the meaning of “wrong”…

Many people look at me dumbfounded. There are wrong things and there are right things… everybody knows that… so what can be wrong with what everybody knows? Right?

But you see,

If you want to look for what makes everybody miserable, you better look at what everybody says… and use it as a guidance… either to how to be miserable, or how to get clear of misery.

One thing everybody agrees upon is this: some things are right, most things are wrong and the wrong things need to be fixed, killed, stomped upon, suppressed. And it is very real… except… wrong is made up. Continue reading “What is wrong with right and wrong? Are two billion pages all mistaken?”

What’s important to you? Do your actions mirror that?

Just look at your actions. Words are cheap. Only what you do counts, only what you do testifies about what is important to you.

It seems that being right, looking good, avoid domination of anyone or anything, including your own word, hoping, expecting the impossible… etc, etc, has been really important to you.

Where you are is where you are supposed to be, given all your actions.

Do all actions count? Talking, thinking, watching videos?

Only to a certain degree.

One of the people who have inspired me for many years is Werner Erhard, the founder of the est training.

What did he do? Continue reading “What’s important to you? Do your actions mirror that?”

Case study: Disappearing your racket?

I have been complaining that my bills are higher than my income.

Now, complaining is the tip of the iceberg, the visible part, that indicates an iceberg underneath, under the water level… the kind of iceberg that sunk the might Titanic.

For the most part we ignore our complaints… whining, we may call them. Sissy, we may call ourselves. Cruel, we call the world. But paying attention? No, that we don’t do.

Why? I am not sure. I have some guesses, but your guess is probably as good as mine… as far as guesses go.

So I have decided to observe myself… after all there must be a benefit in living with myself… right? lol. Continue reading “Case study: Disappearing your racket?”

Why aren’t you happy most of the time?

It’s not what you could see, hope to see, it is what you actually see, consciously, that define your actions and therefore your results, your thoughts, your mood…

What you see is called “occurrence” and is made up of a little bit of reality, and an awful lot of words.

Words that explain, words that interpret, words that give meaning of what is actually happening: reality.

What is Reality? Collective hunch at best, but we can define it in a funky way: everything that a just arrived Martian can see! Then stick to that definition, like the seasoned umpire sticks to his… I’ll explain it later…

If I set out a caption contest, everyone would give me a different caption, depending on what they see. And you don’t see things as they are (reality), you see them as YOU are… full of meaning, interpretation, drama, emotions, full of hot air. Reality is simple, a woman standing by the railing of a bridge… or maybe a balcony. No words, no emotions.

This is the job the Playground is about… to carefully peel away the veils (words and marker feelings = emotions) YOU add to reality to make you, ahem… miserable, for the most part.

The three umpires story needs to be told again here…

Continue reading “Why aren’t you happy most of the time?”

How to keep your vibration high at Christmas?

I am sitting at my computer, observing the emails I get, observing people’s behavior.

It seems that the (Christian) world is disappearing into two main fantasy lands, two main unrealities: Christmas, and making cash infusion into their lives.

All horizontal plane, all hurry, all puppets on a string. All based on the unreality of lack. (I will write about this lack issue in another article… it’s important, so I may even email you to let you know…)

Your life is dominated by the separation of the two selves: the higher self is sent into its room for these last days of the year, and the lower self is throwing its weight around. Continue reading “How to keep your vibration high at Christmas?”

The allure of fast… fast money, fast success, fast learning, fast reading

I write about what is not obvious…

I have said before, that when you feel envy, when you feel a pang of envy looking at someone’s result, accomplishments, you feel guidance.

You want what they have, and it points to an area of growth, an area of training where you have enough energy to get to the same level, or maybe even beyond.

A year or so ago I was still a blob… Overweight. I saw it mostly on Tuesdays, when I looked at myself in the big wall covering mirror in during the exercise class.

One of the women, long white hair, was my opposite: shapely. She even had a waist… lol. I didn’t.

I looked at her, and said to her: I want what you have.

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Are you working on your pretend self? Trying to make it better? Read this article for clues…

I have students at all different stages of their personal paths.

I, as a coach, can do only so much. I answer their posts, and then I write my articles. And the rest happens where I am not. Inside them, in their interaction with people, in their interaction with stuff.

This is the hardest part.

My soul correction is Forget Thyself… meaning I want to be personally causing stuff… I did it, Me, Mine. Talking over people, having no patience for people doing things the “wrong way”.

I have been gaining ground in my soul correction, but it is still wicked difficult. Especially when someone has a good result that has nothing to do with me… lol.

So my first reaction to a student breakthrough is feeling let down… I didn’t do it… lol.

This is what happened this morning.

A student of mine had a glimpse, a momentary clarity of who and how he really is… His real self…

Here is what he wrote: Continue reading “Are you working on your pretend self? Trying to make it better? Read this article for clues…”