Principle guided life… OK… but what principles will make you happy?

When I wrote the article about racial, ancestral identity and its importance, I touched on something that is not valuable for most people... because I didn't go deep enough and I didn't accurately identify what it takes to be proud of who you are, where you belong.

I got on the phone with one of the people who was very unhappy about that article... I was eager to talk, because it is near impossible to go beyond the visible by yourself. It is a whole lot easier when you get input... because what is invisible to you can be visible for another.

The conversation was fruitful... And the insight to me was: it is not virtues, it is principles that form the basis of a happy life... I will elaborate...
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Reality… the pragmatic approach that makes you happy

Back in the early 70's I had a live-in boy friend, who was a philosophy student. His father was a famous philosopher, was a Hegel expert.

Hegel, I hear, is one of the most impenetrable philosopher to me. The family, father and three sons, had regular philosophy lessons.

I am not interested in philosophy, not a debating/argumentative person, but lately I am encountering philosophical questions that are at the root of my teaching: teaching you to be in harmony with life, teaching you to live a happy life.

One of the most important questions here is what is reality, what is real, because all that unhappiness we experience comes from what is not real.

Of course, given our sensory organs and their limitations, the fact that most of reality lives in the invisible, and given our propensity for having thoughts that have emotional effect on us, we have NO IDEA what is really real what isn't.

I am a pragmatist...

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And the winner is: innocence… what most of my readers want assistance with

Innocence is word a lot like freedom: you can have freedom from and you can have freedom for...

And then there is BEING Freedom, Being Free... a sacred state of being... a context, that is available at any time for people whose word and Self connect strongly. Whose word creates their beingness.

Same with innocence... there is innocence from, I bet this is what my readers have in mind, then there is innocence for...

And then there is INNOCENCE... a state of being. Having been untouched by the "stuff" that makes you dirty, discolored, jaded, altered, and prejudiced.

I live in that state of innocence 30% of my awake time. The rest of the time: I am judging, reacting, or know already... just like you. Continue reading "And the winner is: innocence… what most of my readers want assistance with"

What can the Nobel Prize winning physicist’s story teach you?

What can the Nobel Prize winning physicist's story teach you? OR What did Frank Kern learn the hard way?

First, before I get into the story itself, let's ponder the meaning of teaching so we are on the same page, shall we?

As someone who attempts to teach, let me tell you what it's like for me: I find a thousand different ways to say, demonstrate, frame what I want to teach. I invent thousand and one stories, I find books that hint on what I want to teach, I sing it, I make it a comedy, make it a tragedy, I make you read, I make practice activating your eye muscles and the related brain areas...

And if I do it long enough with enough enthusiasm, I may get a few people to learn what I teach... but most of the time it is a real uphill battle.

So what I mean to convey: teaching doesn't equal learning. Continue reading "What can the Nobel Prize winning physicist’s story teach you?"

Getting to the bottom of the iceberg… It is like the One Ring that controls all

I had an impromptu (unplanned) conversation with a long time client yesterday. Unfortunately my recorder decided to run out of battery... so I didn't record it.

This woman is one example of the perfect client for me.

So what is a perfect client? A perfect client is one who is able and willing to do what they need to do to fulfill on my promise to them.

"My aim is to take you to a place where you are able to be well and stay well, make money and keep on making money, and feel good about yourself and keep feeling good about yourself"

Joel Salatin said: "I don't mind carrying a man, but I don't want them dragging their feet!"
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Mindfulness? No. Meditation? No. Meditative living? Yes

It was my shopping day yesterday...

Through bad design, I have my webinars on the same day as my shopping day.

And yesterday I felt creamed by the experience.

I dragged myself through, slept like a baby, but I am still exhausted today.

The difference for me between tired and exhausted, is my breathing. If my chest is not willing to expand, I call that exhaustion...

Anyway, I went to lie down about an hour ago, and opened a new book, 10-minute mindfulness, or something like that... on my kindle.

Five minutes into it I suddenly I realized what happened, what I didn't do...

OK, first I am going to tell you what others teach you to do to be more present in life and less swept up in the drama of the day.

Then I will tell you what works... what I normally do, and what I didn't do yesterday. OK? Continue reading "Mindfulness? No. Meditation? No. Meditative living? Yes"

Everything You Ever Wanted Is Coming To You Through Other People.

Henry David Thoreau wrote

The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation. What is called resignation is confirmed desperation.

What is the meaning of desperation?
Desperate means "having lost all hope." ... If you are in a desperate situation, it means things are really, really bad. Desperate... Both desperate and despair come from the same Latin verb as despair.

I remember clearly what that is like. It wasn't long ago where I was wholly resigned and therefore had nothing to look forward to...

It was about 10 years ago that I had a turning point.

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People go on talking about freedom, but they don’t want freedom exactly, they want irresponsibility

getting a firm knowledge foundation

I have spoken about the holes in your education in other articles. I have also spoken about the holes in your health.

Both cause you to cope with life poorly, to have less and less freedom in life.

And interestingly, both came from the desire to have more freedom, and to give our offspring more freedom than we had ourselves.

The problem can be summed up in a word: choice.

We think that the more choice we have the freer we are. Continue reading "People go on talking about freedom, but they don’t want freedom exactly, they want irresponsibility"

The only way to affect real change is to change the root cause of what you want to change.

the three great mysteries of life

The Three Great Mysteries: air to a bird, water to a fish, mankind to himself
~ Hindu Proverb

We live in an age where, we could say, are poised to move our inquiry into areas where it could make a difference. Not yet... obviously.]

I say in every area of the mystery that we call life and Universe.

In health. In well-being. In climate change and caring for our planet. In evolution, genetics, and feeding all these people. In psychology. In human growth and self-actualization.

We are still on the surface, and everything you buy, everything you read, everything you can think is still not cause, and doing it won't make a difference... except...

Some ideas, some theories are closer to the source than others. Continue reading "The only way to affect real change is to change the root cause of what you want to change."

It ain’t what you don’t know that gets you into trouble, It’s what you know for sure that just ain’t so

It ain't what you don't know that gets you into trouble, It's what you know for sure that just ain't so"It ain't what you don't know that gets you into trouble, It's what you know for sure that just ain't so".
~ from the movie "The Big Short"

Why is it that people don't like this quote? Can you guess?

I see it all the time. People are quite certain that what they know is true, and are puzzled by the fact that they don't feel good about themselves, about their place in the world, about their lives.

This includes smart people, and this includes people who are not that sophisticated.

We, as a species, are full of knowledge that just isn't so. And when we build theories, actions, futures, arguments on those untruths, then things don't work. Continue reading "It ain’t what you don’t know that gets you into trouble, It’s what you know for sure that just ain’t so"