Carrot and Stick: Becoming someone who can

winning a life as your bestWe'll have the third webinar in the Carrot and Stick series today. The results are mixed, but I am excited. Because it has made people to show their true colors: good or bad.

M from London, an Filipina writes:

Hello Sophie

I want to share with you that what we did last Wednesday (in the Carrot and Stick webinar) is now having an effect on me. Just saying UNWILLING in my mind has some some effect on my body something like a burst of energy and the feeling of 'I can't have this same life any more.'

This morning, I don't know if this is part of the the plan of the universe for me to feel the disgust on how I behave and live my life by accident, I watched something on the internet that made me question how could I live the way I live.... I cried for hours until I felt I could not cry any more.. I have headache and my eyes hurt. I've never cried like this before. I feel so disgusted the way I live my life.

In case you are interested this the video that made me feel disgusted with my behaviour and attitude in my life. she won XFactor Israel. The song she sang inspired me which I will keep on listening at the moment to remind me the feeling of disgust with the way I live my life

Thank you so much Sophie. Stick works for me.

Watch the video below that inspired M...
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Carrot and Stick or how to win at New Year’s Resolutions

new year resolutionsWe all know this, it is too common to think that you don't have it.

You find yourself attracted to some kind of project. Maybe a new habit, or an exercise regimen.

It feels like it is all yours, done deal, it is in the bag... and then you wake on one morning, maybe next day, and all the inspiration is gone, and you are back to being pedestrian plus ashamed, baffled, and deflated.
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New webinar series: Your concerns act like an anchor…

your anchor your concernI am morphing the free webinar series into a more advanced topic. Until now we've been looking at your context, we examined what context you could invent to alter your life. But where people have been stumbling is this: they weren't able to live by the new context, no matter how right it was for them.

The past got into their eyes.

What is the past? We could say all the things that happened to you, but we would be wrong.
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Life is like a waterfall. It is exhilarating when you are in it, crushes you when you get in the way.

crushing-waterfallLife is like a waterfall. It is exhilarating when you are in it, crushes you when you get in the way.

Life, your life, is the way it is... you have what you have, you do what you do, it looks the way it looks.

The problem is not with life, not even with your life. The problem is with the questions that you ask.

In my free webinars we list areas of our lives that don't work well. When we look, there is one common denominator in all of the student's issues, and that is the questions that they ask.

We, humanity, think that questions are just questions, and the don't make much of a difference.

The truth is, that the question you ask will be more important than the answers you seek.

With regards to our lives, we mostly ask why questions. Why am I the way I am, why can't I...? Why doesn't he love me? Why do I procrastinate? Why don't I love my life?
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What’s your context? I just have to look at your life and I can tell. Can you?

context is decisive. what's your context?The biggest price Positive Thinking junkies pay is this:

You can only have power in any situation if you are looking at what is so!

Why do I call positive thinkers junkies? Simple: they are, just like heroin addicts, unable to deal with the momentary feeling bad about anything, they need an escape from reality, at the expense of their life, their health, their relationships, their money.

When you are a positive thinker, your default context is that reality is just plain should not be the way it is.

For you it's wrong, for me it is just what's so... you are powerless, I am powerful.

Finding the silver lining is not available to you, until you see the reality of the situation. For example, yesterday I screwed up something and lost a lot of money. I saw what I did, I appreciated that this wasn't a good time to lose money, and then I looked for a silver lining: it was a learning experience.

I always return to this two moments in my life. Seemingly insignificant moments, but turning points nevertheless.

The first one was when I saw a poster in a chiropractor's office saying something like this: "In order to get to the next level, you need to give up who you have become."

And the second was a poster with a dark sky with a tiny sliver of light showing through. The words said: turn your face to the light...

The first one is the principle of transformation: everything you are, everything you know is in your way of having what you want, what you are striving for. You need to give it up. Painful, frightening, but it's so.

The second one is the idea of escape. Clinging to hope, clinging to "there is help", clinging to being an effect, never a cause. The opposite of power, the opposite of transformation, the essence of positive thinking: the biggest enemy you have ever nurtured on your chest.
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Tonight’s Webinar

First off... I have been getting emails that people could not sign up. So here is the correct link... if that's you.

What's the truth about you? - A workshop

Tuesday, November 20 9-11 pm EST

Update: want me to run this workshop again? Just ask for it. I love doing it...

Second: There is a new way to connect. The connection is much deeper... there is one more difference: it is much less mechanical than the previous method, so most people will need to practice getting out of their minds for a while before they can connect for any longer than five seconds.

The calls are free... to register

I recommend that you start as soon as you can. My next course, the Activate Divinity Course will not work unless you can stay connected for at least five minutes...

I have come up with a dirt cheap way to get into that course where you have a chance to re-integrate your abandoned "fragments" to become whole and complete again. Invulnerable, impervious, joyful, calm and serene...

I hate making mistakes!

what's the truth about you? why are you making mistakes?Correct Diagnosis is 50% of the Cure in any area of your life

In this article I am going to show an area of my life where diagnostic skills and tools have saved the day, and in fact proved to be 90% of the cure.

The process of growth is not linear. It is more like layer by layer. No matter where you are now, in order to get to the next level, you need to completely explore the level or layer where you are.

I have been relative successful for a while now, and like any other "normal" human being, I had the illusion that I have arrived to the place where it is smooth sailing from hereon.

The mind will always think that. Whatever is the newest experience, the mind will jump into conclusion and declare that life is going to be like this from here onward.

When you screw something up, the mind tells you that you are a lost cause and you'll never going to succeed. When you do something right, the mind tells you that you are the best, and you can now expect the best.

I've been telling you over and over that the mind is a stupid machine, but it is one thing to understand, and it's a whole other thing to discredit the mind, actively, when it says anything bombastic and summary like that.
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