As difficult as dirty dishes can be, they’re even worse when you let them sit for a while. And the longer they sit, the harder they are to clean.

This is life. Something that is potentially easy to clean up right after it happens – an unkind word to your father, a lie to your best friend, an insensitivity to your girlfriend – can become a difficult mess if you don’t deal with it now.

Do the dishes today.

I have been thinking about Kaizen a lot. Kaizen can be the saving grace for a lot of people, because Kaizen is a way of life, a non-threatening way, but it is an awake way, and most of us are not awake, get jolted out of our sleepwalking by big things only. I am awake, and Kaizen is for me.

So I decided to use Kaizen to ease back into exercising. Since I stopped exercising, my face aged 10-20 years. That is a lot. I used to have no wrinkles, now I have folds, and wrinkles inside the folds… not pretty.

I have no special occasion to be pretty at, I just think that looking into the mirror should be a joyous occasion, not an occasion to berate myself.

So I am now doing 15 seconds of the exercise I used to do. I am happy. It is starting to show on my face. Hm.

Another Kaizen thing: in airplane bathrooms there is a sign that says something like this: would you be so kind as to use your paper towel to clean the sink before you throw it away?

Very Kaizen. Imagine going to the bathroom and someone’s soapy dirty washwater is still in the sink. (The airplane sink stopper needs to be manually lifted, otherwise it stops the water from emptying…) I would never wash my hand again on an airplane. But with that little Kaizen note, most 99% of the passengers follow the instructions, and everyone washes their hand. (I think that sign also reminds people to wash their hands, which many people don’t see a reason for… ).

And the third Kaizen example I read about in a Kaizen book, and it is about Toyota. The factory. They learned Kaizen from Americans… who would have thought… from Americans.

At Toyota, manufacturing cars happens on the assembly line. Nothing new there. In a normal assembly line everyone is concerned only about their part of the assembly, and the occasional errors are noticed and corrected, or not noticed and not corrected at the quality control station.

Toyota’s then CEO installed a rope switch above every workstation along the assembly line, where workers were asked to pull the rope every time they noticed an error in the work on the half-assembled car in front of them. The pull stopped the assembly line, they corrected the error, and pulled again to re-start…

It was a heretic idea, going counter with mass production. American auto manufacturers, that relied on quality control, had thousands of cars recalled, paid billions in restitution for tiny errors that weren’t corrected right after they happened.

Toyota went on to become the most reliable car. 250K cars are still sold and they run the highways: it is commonplace, while even an ‘error-free’ American car would be proud to run till 200K.

Which leads me to the ‘boundaries’ part.

It is still my cat that is on my mind. Or my previous failed relationship. Or my previous failed New Year resolution. Where, in all circumstances, I ignored, put up with, tolerated, shut a blind eye to a small aberration, a small violation of my boundaries, a little mistake, a little skipping… and they all became the core of a snow ball and destroyed an otherwise hopeful relationship, or my health, or my results.

Do the dishes soon after they get dirty. And stay awake. I have learned my lesson.

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Want Change In Your Life? All Change Starts With Knowing Where You Are… What’s the truth about you?

The best doctors are the ones that diagnose correctly. When you hear the diagnosis and it resonates with you, your trust in the doctor doubles, after all correct diagnosis is 50% of the cure.

This is true in medicine, this is true in coaching, this is true in business.

Some jokes come to mind:

Michael is having a problem with his car. He drives to his mechanic. The mechanic looks it over and says: five hundred bucks. When will it be ready, asks Michael. In 15 minutes, answers the mechanic. five hundred dollars for 15 minutes? exclaims Michael. Oh, if you look at it that way, it will be ready next week.

or another one:

A new piece of machinery at the manufacturing plant is misbehaving and they call the experts. The experts dispatch one of their mechanics. The fee for the repair is $10,000.
The mechanic arrives, observes the malfunctioning machinery, asks for a hammer, hits something, and declares. OK, it’s done.
The plant manager complains. Ten thousand dollars for a hit with the hammer? Isn’t that too much?
The hit is $1. But to know where to hit is $9,999.

I have been looking at all kinds of “gurus”, healers, coaches the past few months. One thing can be said about them all: they do the same thing no matter what’s up with you. They don’t “diagnose” or when they do, the diagnosis is always inside what they purport they can fix. With whatever snake oil they have.

In my correspondence with students I see that students, when they are given a chance, can ask smart questions. The smartest question came from Diana: she asked: I have a problem with my husband. Can you fix that?

Why is that a great question? Because if I am honest, I will tell her I can’t fix her problem. I can’t fix any problem.

Problems are coming from the mind: in existence there are no problems.

And given that her problem comes from her mind, the question is

Am I able to change her mind enough so what she has doesn’t occur as a problem, so she can be happy with what she has, or leave it and be happy without, somewhere else.

And this is the real question: If everything you experience has something to do with you, wouldn’t it be a good idea to find out what’s the truth about you?

Finding out what’s the truth about you will give us the diagnosis that you have been missing. It will provide us with the clue about the state of your relationships, about your health, about your money, about your internal state, about your whole life. With that diagnosis the prognosis for change will be valid, and mostly positive.

Here are some of the issues that you may be facing:

You are treading water, not being able to get from point A to point B? You make one step forward only to make two steps back.
Your money, your health, your relationships are strained, and your life isn’t going anywhere.
You are afraid to start something new, take risks, or maybe you take too many risks, you are spreading yourself too thin. But either way the results of your activities are disappointing.
You may be a perpetual seeker, seeker of peace of mind, well being, wealth, relationships, but you never seem to find, and feel at home with what is coming your way.

What is it about you that doesn’t allow you to win in life? To feel loved, appreciated, and valued?

Why is it that one moment you feel you are worth a lot of money, the other moment you feel worthless? Why is it that when push comes to shove, you don’t always even earn your employer the money they pay you? or if you have clients: you undercharge them? or they ask for a refund: and you know you deserved that?

What is it about you that keeps you the same in spite of all the thoughts about changing? What is it about you that hinders your every desire, your every aspiration?

The “IT” about you that gets re-enforced by your spouse, your parents, your friends… the “IT”, the ordinary, the small you?

And why is it that you can’t change, won’t change, even though it would serve you? Even if, maybe, you even want to?

No real answers. No idea…

Because it is not “natural” to be so hindered, so mired, so blocked, so stuck for a human being, and yet, you and ever other human experience the same thing, always, or at least some of the time.

What is it that wants to keep you the same? What is it that when you make a promise to change, or make a New Year’s resolution, instantly takes over and starts to pressure you, nag you, make you miserable, until you give up what you wanted to change, and resign to being the same. And for a couple of hours, maybe even days, you feel relieved… only to return to your familiar misery, the same thing over and over again, a life going nowhere, just marking time. Pretending that it’s ok, it’s fine.

You wonder what’s wrong with you, what’s wrong with life. You are looking, you are looking, but no real answers come to you… even though there IS an answer.

Your life is the way it is by design.

YOUR design, to be perfectly clear. This design wasn’t forced on you, in fact you created it. And if anyone tries to take it away from you, you protest, you leave, you call them names.

You say: “I am this way, and no one can take it away from me!”

But what is it in you that becomes this “never wanting to change” design, much like the Russian Doll toy, always returning to its stable station… no matter how hard you try to dislodge it.

You see, if you saw the design principles by which your life is now so predictable, you could be clearer about what you could do about altering the design, so your life can finally move to a “rail” that takes you to happiness, fulfillment, satisfaction, instead….

You would be clearer about
1. what is it that you hold self-evident, that you don’t even examine, don’t even try to change, because it is the TRUTH about you.
2. what it is that you do that perpetuates that ugly TRUTH about you
3. what are the seemingly insignificant ways you re-enforce your worldview, so there is no chance for you to change it to a healthier worldview and self-image

Let me give you an example:

As a webmaster I get to see thousands of passwords, user names, and email addresses. Those innocent little words? Yes. What your mind chooses for you there, sits right at the core of what’s keeping you stuck.

Sometimes it is poor self-image
Sometimes it is an attitude that shows your relationship to others and the world
Sometimes it shows that your life is about you and only about you
And mostly it shows a combination of the above

Just one of those elements will keep you wretched for the rest of your life. Two or more: you are the wretched of the wretched.

Why: because those elements that you use day in and day out, perpetuate your view of yourself and your image of you in the world.

They keep you in a tight little box where there isn’t enough room to breathe, let alone grow.

So there you have it.

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Three Feet from Gold and Muscletesting… there is something here for all of us.

The course I am currently teaching, Brilliance at Will, has come to a line of demarcation.

Suddenly it looks much easier and much more desirable for students to turn back and give up than forging ahead.

Much like the guy in the story from Think and Grow Rich (by Napoleon Hill) who bought a piece of land during the California gold rush and spent all his money and life searching for the big score, only to end up broke and broken, eventually selling off his claim to another prospector. The new owner of the claim brought in geologists and specialists to see if it made sense to continue mining the old mine since the original owner had not pulled out enough gold to even live on. What they found was that the original miner had stopped digging and gave up his mine and his dream just three feet from the richest gold vein in California history.

Unless you have a tool, an education, or an elevated view, you’ll never know how far you are from hitting pay-dirt.

People err on both sides of the equation: some throw good money after bad money, others quit too soon and never find out how far they had been from accomplishing what they intended to accomplish. Most are about three feet from gold.

What is absolutely stunning to me is that my students have the tool of muscletesting while connected to Source.

They could ask questions that would guide them. But instead they listen to the mind: the mind that is the enemy.

Imagine owning a gun and asking the tiger if you can outrun it… imagine having a boat but trying to ask the shark if you could outswim it… Wrong question, wrong “expert.”

Neither the tiger, the shark, nor the mind is your friend. They will advise you according to what makes them win over you, which is also what makes you a total loser…

I must admit that I came to this conclusion because I was myself wondering if what I am teaching isn’t working, if my students are not able to get it, use it, and conquer the “human condition” with it… or because it looked scary to their mind.

Then I calmed down, created a little distance between what’s happening and myself, and started to ask and muscletest questions.

I think this is the major difference between me and my students: I can remove myself from my mind, become emotionally detached, and just become the observer with only a mild curiosity… instead of thinking that my life, my carrier, my future depends on my next action.

I teach getting out of the mind in the drill calls… invaluable, but requires the insight that you are not doing it for me, you are practicing for times just like this: where creating a distance is what you need to keep your cool and ask intelligent questions.

Another “move” that allows me to keep my cool is that my life is not about my life.

Back in 1987 some teacher of mine “accused me” that my life is all about me and my life. I remember creating a huge possibility for myself that New Years Eve, not like a resolution, but more like a declaration. I declared that “my life is not about my life, my life is about others.”

Since then I have pretty consistently managed to live outside of “this is all about me” and create different context to different projects.

My context for “yourvibration.com” is to test and evaluate methods that could work for humans to become seed of the new humanity, and to inform Source on the inner workings of the mind.

It is my view that humanity has reached a point of no return. That the mind has taken over to such extent that it is dubious if anything can get done to remedy the situation. Humanity is entirely controlled by the Dark Side through the mind.

The experiment has been to determine if a small band of humans can change voluntarily to happy, joyful, individuals that can’t and won’t be controlled.

Muscletest says the experiment is not over yet. For the next humanity a lot more data is needed so the same mistake won’t happen again.

Are my students able to overcome the temptation to go back into slavery? We shall see. I am going to be fine either way.

I am using my tools, muscletesting, diligently.

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One of the hallmarks of a person who lives their lives rightly, is being an Expanding Human Being who is joyous in their daily existence, fulfilled, living a life worth living. Being an Expanding Human Being is in harmony with the The Original Design for humanity …

Of all the elements of growth this one is the most frightening to most.

Most other changes are between you and yourself, and no one needs to know about it.

You can sit and meditate, become the observer, go deep, connect to whatever you connect to, breathe however you breathe… it is a private affair.

Unless you are doing it on one of my webinars, your level of anxiety is low: you don’t even know if you are doing it right or not.

Of course, when you are on the webinars and I check what you are doing, your anxiety shoots over the roof, you become incoherent, you lose your rhythm, your self-confidence, you are afraid that I’ll point out that you are doing it all wrong, and you are right, you probably are… in that moment of anguish: definitely.

Now, enter “expanding human being” and you have added a whole slew of people that can see what you are made of. They can see if who you have been pretending to be, having it all together, cheerful, cool, smart, hip, whatever, has been just a thin veneer covering up that you are neither: you are just a frightened little girl or boy hoping to look good and make it in life.

We could safely say that you are exactly like every other person: wanting to look good and making it.

Just the idea of doing what expanding human beings do, that rattles your innards.

The bigger the pretense, the bigger the anguish. The bigger the pretense, the less likely that you will be willing to rock the boat. Expanding? No need…

Why fix what’s working, you think. But you are lying.

Your life isn’t working, your cheerful attitude is a mask, and you know it.

But the alternative is frightening. You may find out and expose what you already know: that you don’t have it all together. That you may not be as smart, as confident, as good at what you do as you pretend.

And no matter where you are at the “expert” continuum, you have to face the exact same thing.

Whether it’s about putting a few intelligent sentences together, or it’s about publishing your first book, hiring your first virtual assistant, organizing a seminar, or competing in a singing competition, what you are afraid of is that you will need to act on what others may find out.

You are afraid that you will need to do something to become as good as you pretend to be.

Now, let me share with you why I am writing this article, right now.

I have been going through hard times. I am running out of options what I can do to have people come to my site, read my articles, do my courses, participate in my webinars.

Up till May I had no problem. Since May: it is like I don’t exist.

This morning I watched a short video that taught a method of bringing more traffic to a website, by answering people’s questions.

You hire a virtual assistant. She finds questions on the internet for you to answer, you answer them in an audio, she transcribes them and posts them in your name. Takes a few minutes a day, and you create a lot of contacts, a lot of goodwill… sounds wonderful.

But, here is the kicker. I am still a human being, and anguish, anxiety, fear set in. What if I don’t know as much as I think I know? What if I can’t answer those questions? What if people will find out that I am blah blah blah…

When you catch yourself thinking like that, you have two options: back away, and continue the slow painful process of being a walking dead. Or take a deep breath and say: Well, it is all for the better. If I find out I don’t know something: I’ll have a chance to get better, won’t I?

You’ll feel scared and alive.

Medical people say that scared and excited have the exact same physiological symptoms: heart palpitation, elevated temperature, dry mouth, trembling, sweaty palms.

I’d rather call this state excited, if this is true.

I am starting the process of hiring a virtual assistant today. I can’t wait to find out where I am lacking. Where I have an opportunity to grow.

It’s time to return to being an expanding human being…

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This is a video to explain how I experienced a definite reduction in creativity, Life Force, well-being, and what it is that I plan to do to reclaim it.

I also noticed that my eyes have deep dark circles… it all comes from the same place: leaking energy to unimportant places, betraying my Soul’s purpose and not acting on my Divine Assignment.

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A student of mine, actually the best-performing student of mine asked me to check this guy, Mastin Kipp out.

I have a prejudice. The prejudice is that when someone is looking for a place to love and be loved, they barely got my Unconditional Love Activator. What does that mean? Isn’t getting it the same as listening to it?

No, not at all.

An activator needs to get to and accepted at all levels of your being, your conscious mind, your other than conscious mind, which is mistakenly called “subconscious mind,” your ego, your soul, your body, your heart, your history level, which is all your blood relatives, so it is a complicated affair.

Most people listen to the recording with their conscious mind, maybe even cry, thinking that they got it. I myself only got it 70%! I still cannot feel being loved. I feel loving, but not the “love” that comes towards me, whether it comes from you or from Source. I can feel caring, concern, gratitude coming towards me, but not love. It’s blocked. That is the missing 30%.

The Unconditional Love Activator takes out the linchpin or cornerstone that keeps your miserable, puppet on a string, rat on the machine existence together. That is why aspects of you resist getting it.

I have been experimenting at different methods to make the percentage higher, and found one that propelled one student from 20% to 37% in just one take. I call that method “Activate Divinity” because that is how it feels.

Now, let’s return the Mastin Kipp and his Daily Love…

Mastin Kipp: personal vibration: 200, just on the borderline to take of becoming an expanding human being, not an iota further. Teaching others like him… he appeals to a crowd with an average vibration of 170.

At 170 (or even at 200) you have a habit of giving lip service to love, but you don’t have any capacity to love. Your world revolves around your needs, and love (the love I am talking about) is not needy; you love for no reason. It is not possessive. It cares not whether any love comes back. It is an overflowing of your fullness, and we call that love. It is asking for nothing in return: it just wants to flow out, empty you, so you can go back refilling yourself again.

It’s beautiful. It’s pleasant. It’s a joy for its own sake.

I’ll make my new “Activate Divinity” process (includes the Unconditional Love Activator) on Saturday, November 3 at 11 am, I am still working to make it a wholesome product that can guarantee that It will do the “job.”

The way it looks right now, it will be a four-module course, so it won’t be free, but because it is so important for you to become free to grow and live as a human BEING, it will be inexpensive. I promise…

Watch here for the announcement.  Clear your schedule. It will be only available to people who come to my monthly “Brilliance at Will” webinar, no exceptions. (This free online workshop is scheduled for the first Saturday of every month.) If you have attended this webinar before, you can come again, or let me know and I’ll give you access to the paypal button, once the course is ready.

You can sign up to the November 3 webinar. Make sure you include your cell phone (mobile phone) number so I can send you a text message an hour or so before the webinar, so you don’t forget. OK?

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What is the real you? Your Facebook persona? Your failing, lonely, fat and clumsy one hiding behind the computer?

A really interesting article about the state of “you” in this new world of “jack of all trades, master of none.” My experience echoes his. Please read and comment.

Are You Losing Self to Your Virtual You?

We have something of a major shift in our society right now with all the social networks like Twitter, and Facebook. Often people associate more with their online identities than their actual identities in the real world. As the coordinator for a think tank which operates online I’m beginning to see a rather troubling challenge which lies ahead. You see, when folks fill out their applications to join, they have all sorts of ideas, but they have no practical experience in the real world.

They care very much about what’s going on in the world, they want to see alternative energy, and they enjoy reading all the online newsletters, and articles on science, philosophy, psychology, innovations, space, infrastructure, geopolitics, and the like. They have so many ideas on the best way to run a civilization and/or what products should come to market and be fast tracked in the innovation process. That’s all well and good but they’ve never actually taken a product or service to market, and they’ve never worked in a company at the level where they were actually making decisions.

Much of their observations comes from their friends on social networks who haven’t done anything either. Worse, because all their friends tell them they are smart, they assume that they are, but the reality is they’ve adopted all kinds of information they’ve heard the media, heard from a politician, or comments that someone left on their social networking page, as their own thoughts. But that information is available to everyone, it’s not unique to them, however apparently if they have lots of friends on their Facebook page they think they must be very smart.

Not long ago, in Kurzweil’s Accelerating Intelligence online newsletter titled; “The Dangers of E-Personality” which was posted on March 11, 2011. The article stated; “Excessive use of the Internet, cell phones, and other technologies can cause us to become more impatient, impulsive, forgetful and narcissistic according to a new book on “e-personality,” says psychiatrist Elias Aboujaoude, MD, clinical associate professor of psychiatry and behavioral sciences and director of Stanford’s pulse control and obsessive-compulsive disorder clinics, in a new book, Virtually You: The Dangerous Powers of the E-Personality.”

Indeed, this would be a great book to read, and perhaps it speaks to my own observations working at our think tank. We have a real problem out there. One thing I’ve noticed is when I asked questions of individuals, or what they think, they immediately go onto Google, and look at the subject, and e-mail back with their relative decision. What they don’t seem to understand is that everyone in the world can do the same thing, and anyone who knows about the topic, or works in that industry already knows all that information.

The problem is these individuals aren’t thinking, and yet they think they are smart, when they don’t know much of anything, and have never done anything in the real world. I’m not sure if that is relevant, and I think it’s even worse when people prescribe to the self assessment and unearned ego as an achievement into their intellectual capacity. That’s false ego, and it can be quite dangerous. Indeed I hope you will please consider all this.

Lance Winslow is a retired Founder of a Nationwide Franchise Chain, and now runs the Online Think Tank. Lance Winslow believes writing 22,700 articles was a lot of work – because all the letters on his keyboard are now worn off.

I am in the middle of preparing a new activator that activates the counter-force of this surface identity by installing and activating capacities and habits that cause you to be deeply connected to who you are and to choose to use those capacities instead of the “online chatterbox” that will never be able to make a satisfying life, a fulfilling relationship, enjoy “real” life, real people, real food, real inspiration…

That activator will help you to become a real person without the pretenses of your online persona.

And so that you know I am not speaking of book knowledge, I am not speaking of organized religion oops, education, Watch Steve Job’s video on what’s possible when you go within and dig out the best in you, the innocently ambitious you that wants to leave a mark. Not just on the computer screen of someone you don’t even know, your Facebook “friend.”

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Tapping Into Abundance By Carol Look And Tapping – A vibrational review

I am working on an abundance activator, and therefore I am very interested in anything that is happening in that topic.

I didn’t buy the 195 dollar product, so I am only able to provide my thoughts and my muscletesting results.

Carol Look personal vibration: 190
she secretly doesn’t believe in what she does, she secretly fears that she is a fake. Reason? her own changes are not conclusive, in fact they are hardly any.

She teamed up with MindValley (just like Christie Marie Sheldon) because the MindValley people are excellent marketers.

Just like any method, tapping produces some results, under 1% of the people that tap actually get the results they are tapping for.

Does the process raise your consciousness? No. Why? Because tapping is a mechanical process. You can do it without any transformation, without any rise in your consciousness.

Why are there any results if it doesn’t work? Because of a simple reason: If you put your search light on an area of life that you aren’t dealing with, the sudden awareness moves you into action. No mind shift is required, it is just a natural phenomenon.

In my latest course we are listing a bunch of complaints we have. One of my complaints was the state of my apartment: disorganized, cluttered, and hard to clean.

Just by looking at it, I found myself throwing stuff out, reorganizing, and cleaning a bit under the moved furniture.

Did you notice any mind shift? There was none. Try it out, put your attention to a complaint you have, one where you can see that you could do something about it. Watch as suddenly you will start to do something about it.

But what about beliefs? Can tapping change beliefs? No. Just like Theta Healing Technique cannot change beliefs, tapping can’t.

Is there anything that can change beliefs? Yes. I have found one method that probably does, but the results aren’t coming from the belief change.

The results come from a much more conscious level: aligning yourself with a different picture of you. When your self-image changes, you are willing to do things that previously you weren’t willing. And the willingness produces results that previously thought impossible.

That new result either changes your beliefs or not, and that is my point. Beliefs are a thin coating for doubt.

I once read a very empowering statement: heroes are ordinary people empowered.

The real question is: what are the methods that can empower you to go beyond your beliefs and do something unimaginable without the empowerment.

And just like you need to eat every day, the food you ate yesterday will not nourish you today, yesterday’s empowerment won’t work for today, you need to learn self-empowerment methods if you want to be a consistent producer, if you want to raise your vibration.

I am not interested in 1% results, and I am not interested in raving testimonials within a week of a course. I am interested in teaching people self-empowerment, and I am interested that they own the methods and never think of acknowledging me, they just grow and become and expanding human being, happy, satisfied, fulfilled, with abundance.

No single magical technique will produce that result.

The path I see for lasting transformation has steps that cannot be skipped

1. taking a hard look at what is so about you and your life
2. uncovering the hidden layers of your machine, its motivation, its moves, and how you, unwittingly help the machine to keep you small, miserable, and the same.
3. when step 1 and 2 are reasonably done, we build your self-empowering methods, which are fun, and versatile. And as long as you remember to use them, they work, and work, and work.

This is how I got myself from 150 to 990 on the vibrational scale. I took long breaks, 4-5 years occasionally, including the time when I had my brain damage.

You can do what I did, I am teaching the methods I have been using and perfecting over the years. They work. My classes produce 30-70% results. Why not 100%? Mostly because people quit before they are done…

You need to hang in there, and most people don’t.

Do recording produce the same results as live classes?

Unfortunately the recordings are like your tooth brush: unless you use them they don’t do anything. People need to be self-motivated, self-starters if they choose the recordings route. Chances are that you aren’t. I must confess: I buy a lot of stuff, and don’t complete more than maybe 10-25 percent of them. I do much better in live classes. Just the thought that the leader knows I am there gives me the energy to follow through and get things done. I also like to shine, and when you are on your own, there is no one to shine for… got it? A big motivation is lacking when I have only my computer and videos.

All in all, my truth value for this “Tapping into Abundance” product is 190/1000

Let me measure your vibration?
Click on the link to request a vibrational reading…
The Map of Consciousness will show you what it means.

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I don’t have a lot of trust in floating sentences like that, but yesterday I had a glimpse that it might be so.

I don’t trust them either because they are probably taken out of context, or they were made up by someone because they sounded good… after all what does your relationship with your parents, probably a long time ago, has to do with your life today? Right?

But yesterday made me look at this sentence, again, and made me want to ponder it.

Here are two examples where completing your complaint against your parent would mean the beginning of a free life, a life of your choosing. I’ll start with my own example, where life began when I did what I would call completing with my mother.

My example of how I completed with my mother

My life turned around in 1992. Twenty years ago.

My father died in May. My mother and father divorced 20 years prior, but my mother never forgave my father for leaving. She wanted to read my father’s letters to me.

She came to visit my, all the way from Hungary, to read those darn letters. I refused. I said they were private. There was nothing private in those letters, my father never mentioned my mother… I could have shown them to her. But I hated her. I wanted her to suffer some more.

But then something happened, that altered my perspective. My mother lost all the money she brought: after paying for some item in the mall, she stuffed her wad of cash (carrying cash in the US? What were you thinking, Mom?!) between her fanny pack and her body, instead of the fanny pack. It slid out, of course, and she called me crying.

At first, in my mind, I thought that she was a knucklehead, I mean, my mother. But bit by bit I managed to shift my perspective to “this little old woman, from Hungary, clueless, lost all her money by being a knucklehead.”

For the first time in my life I felt warmth and sympathy for the poor thing. She became human, vulnerable, and lovable.

A few days later I drove her around showing the magnificent view of Manhattan from the Jersey side, when she asked: “Was I a horrible mother?”

She was. Beat me, mercilessly, locked me out, called me names, refused to feed me, refused to take me home from the hospital… yeah, she was a horrible mother.

I took my time answering. I had this little old lady sitting next to me and I could have crushed her with what I say. The question suggested regret… I became merciful.

“No Mom, you were the perfect mother for me. Whatever you did lead me to turn out. Thank you.” I said, without looking at her.

Was I lying? Depends where you are looking from. If you consider truth simple, a fact, an undeniable fact, then I probably did.

But truth is not accessible to humans. Everything we consider truth is an interpretation of something that seems to have happened.

By altering my vantage point, by moving my point of view to look through the lens: all the horrors prepared me to be a great coach, a compassionate human being, then she was the perfect mother. I was wholeheartedly willing to have that new point of view my “default” view of my mother and my life.

Not much after she died.

I grieved her death. I grieved of what could have been.

My health crashed. In 20/20 hindsight, my body started to get rid of the accumulated results of my hate and resentment and self-pity to make room for a glorious, free, self-loving life.

Now, why am I sharing this? So you can see the contrast.

Here are two examples: one botched, for now, and the other one well on its way to success

Last night I was privy to one coaching session and personally conducted another coaching session.

In the first where I was an observer, the coach was attempting to get to the root cause of the woman’s perpetual sense of futility, feeling beaten, and discouraged. Familiar? It should be. Most of humanity tries to cover it up, the same despair, with fun and games, complaining about current issues, partners, economy, and such. But it is a smoke screen, to cover up the deep despair.

The coaching session didn’t produce the result it could have. Why? The coach didn’t have the courage to act as a surgeon, or maybe they didn’t know how to be a surgeon, or they didn’t love the woman enough to go out on a limb, maybe she was protecting something akin despair of her own… either way, the expression on the woman’s face and in her heart was deep resignation. Yet another program that wouldn’t make a difference for her.

The second “coaching session” happened in the car, with my friends, on the way home, an hour long drive, late at night. We could have chatted, listened to music, tell jokes, but instead I chose to volunteer my services as a “psychic surgeon” and cause the rest of my friend’s life to be glorious, if possible.

He is 70 years old, and if nothing changes, he will have to work to the day he dies, without much fun, without ever experiencing grace, ease and power… your birthright.

We managed to dig down to get to his mother, and her controlling behavior and his reaction of resisting it.

His mother will be 92 in 9 days and he is visiting her. I suggested that he gets a new point of view and forgives his mother. Not because it matters to her, but it matters to him.

It would be the crucial act of cutting the invisible ties that keeps him a puppet on a string, doing everything as a reaction to an imagined control and force.

The energy that will animate him after that will be his own. The fear? Maybe he’ll find out that he forgot how to run his own life. Maybe he’ll find out that there is less energy in initiative, acting on desire, than in resistance.

Either way: he has a few more years to live, and the rest of his life could be his own. He could choose… whereas until then there was no choice, only options. Much like when you travel on train. You can “choose” to look out on the window on the left side, on the right side, in the front or in the back, but you have no choice about where the train is going, unless you get off the train.

It is time to get off the train so you can start claiming your life back.

Life will become an adventure. You’ll win some, you’ll lose some, but it will be living.

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Restriction, Small Pleasures, Snacking: How The Way You Live Renders You Low Energy and Tired For Life

‘Why am I tried all the time?’

The most frequent complaints I hear is that people don’t have enough energy for life. They feel drained, tired all the time.

The two items little corner stores have to stock and re-stock are cigarettes, little bits of chocolates, and energy booster packages. People buy them like without them they can’t continue.

All the ‘raise your vibration’ sites teach methods to pick you up: obviously you need pick-up if you are low on energy, if you are tired.

It’s an epidemic. And eating super foods, ginseng, exercising, laughing, and all the stuff ‘they’ recommend are treating the symptoms not the cause. Just like Western Medicine, they try to change the fruit without changing the root… Trying to get apples from a cherry tree…

This article deals with that complaint from an unusual angle. We are going to shed light at the invisible roots of this condition, so you can get your energy, if you are willing to change the roots: your behavior, and say good by to tiredness.

Now, because I start, let me make sure you understand: It is not your fault.

You live in society ruled by what society believes is the right way of being, and you learned that from your parents, teachers, doctors, and peers… They are doing the same thing. And they are all unhappy, unhealthy, unfulfilled, at best putting up a cheery front. But with the following information you can separate yourself from the crowd and start to live a life where your energies will not leak every hour of the day, where your energies will be available to you for something that you would like to accomplish in life.

So, here is the article. Fasten your seat belt.

There are thousands of wrong ways, and pretty much only one right way to anything.

This above statement is true in all of life, but it’s especially true to the path of enlightenment, spirituality, connecting to Source, All of it.

There is a book I used to love, The Path of Least Resistance, that teaches that if you make what you truly desire have so much energy that your relationship becomes equivalent to a mountaintop and the valley… just like the river you will go down the path of least resistance and get to the valley.

Except…

Imagine trying to gather a cup full of water from falling rain… may take you months!

If you hold your cup under the downspout of the gutter: it may take seconds.

The gutter acts as a restrictor, it prevents the water to go on the path of least resistance, it restricts it.

Hunger, the desire to breathe, desire to feel good are like the rain: if they are restricted, they are a mighty power, but if they are not, they will literally starve you while you seem well fed.

Let’s take hunger. Nowadays no one is ever hungry, at least not where I live, in the United States of America.

I shop once a week, and have the habit of watching what people buy. For the most part they buy 70-80% snack items, and only 20-30% meal items.

Meal items, in my world, are the ones you combine to create a nourishing meal. Meat, fish, vegetables, eggs… they are raw and need preparation.

People are never hungry. They feel hungry, but they are only starving for nutrients, not just any food. The tiny pleasures of snacking rob people the hunger that is required to prepare good food, eat it, and digest it. Yes, without a real hunger, a real fire in your belly, you can’t digest your food properly.

Same thing with breathing. On the drill calls, which are essentially breathing meditations to step out of the mind, I teach people to breathe deeply, into the belly, so all the anguish, fear, despair that block their chest can disappear.

As an empath I can tune in and experience, with you, exactly how you breathe.

People are shallow chest breathers. They empty and fill about 20% of their lung capacity at every breath.

A hundred years ago the air had over 30% oxygen, nowadays it’s down to 17%. You need to breathe deeper and longer today so you can be well.

Oxygen is what made life possible on this planet. Not enough of it: your health will suffer. Your clarity will suffer. Your whole being suffers.

My hope with teaching your breathe is that through breathing you’ll learn a huge distinction: you are leaking your power and energy through almost everything you do. The result is you are tired, low of energy, underachieve.

It takes energy to live a life worth living! But your energy level is so low, you subsist on it, for the most part.

I watch people and they seem to run on the pilot light… at best you can maintain your miserable existence on that level of energy! Dragging yourself along, tired all the time. Maybe even depressed…

Another area where you leak energy is sex. If you observe yourself, you have sex as a tension reducer, as an ‘I deserve a little pleasure’ activity.

Your sex life lacks passion, lacks depth, lacks real pleasure. Often it’s not more satisfying than say going to the bathroom, but it does reduce your tension, does reduce your get up and go… it puts you on a ‘oh well, life isn’t working, but at least for a few minutes I am not worried about it…’ like a junkie that is looking for a quick fix.

You tie up your energies on one hand, leak them on another.

Let us look at the way you tie up your energies, shall we?

In my coaching practice, and in the conversations I have, I can tell that people’s favorite activity is stuffing-it.

Stuffing their feelings. Stuffing their resentments. Stuffing their grief, fear, sadness, jealousy, envy, greed, etc.

Even perpetual complainers complain on the top of a mountain of stuffed grievances.

Whenever there is another (which is always, any other person is such) you experience thwarted intention, undelivered communication, unfulfilled expectations, about yourself, about the other, about life.

At work, at home, with friends, in crowds… you are offended, violated, put upon, passed-by, insulted, looked down upon: life is full of smaller or bigger insults: and then you stuff it.

I remember growing up angry. I suppressed it.

The rule of suppression: you can’t just suppress one thing: you suppress it all when you suppress. Hate, anger, love, like, compassion: all of it.

It takes mountains of energy to suppress it all. You put a weight on your emotions so you don’t accidentally express yourself, your real feelings, your real self.

Why? You are afraid of the consequences. You lie and you pretend and you put on a face then another one and then another one.

By age 30~35 you have no energy. You have no capacity to love, to enjoy, to get out and make something happen.

You may sign up to some courses, workshops, but you withhold, wall your insides off: you don’t want to find out that you are not as pretty as you want to look to people.

Some course, for a time, release a lot of that suppressed energy, like the Landmark Education Forum for 20-30% of the participants. The rest of them is not willing or not able to let the inner pressure up.

Unfortunately, just like you need to brush your teeth every day, you continually need to reduce the inner pressure.

As you see, your energy is both lost, and tied up. In any case, it is not available to you: you are running on empty.

It often masquerades as depression, depression is an energy insufficiency disease.

The antidote to depression is desire. Desire that is big enough to lift you up from the hole you’ve dug for yourself.

Your chemistry adjust to the patterns of you life: no wonder Thoreau said, about you:

‘The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation. What is called resignation is confirmed desperation. From the desperate city you go into the desperate country, and have to console yourself with the bravery of minks and muskrats. A stereotyped but unconscious despair is concealed even under what are called the games and amusements of mankind. There is no play in them, for this comes after work. But it is a characteristic of wisdom not to do desperate things.’

My programs, especially the Unconditional Love Activator, can change the picture I just painted and restore you to life.

It removes most should’s from life, so you’ll resort to leaking your energy less often, so you will be less hurt by other people’s thoughtlessness towards you.

Life becomes a whole new ‘ball-game’ after the receive the Unconditional Love Activator.

Warning: It takes about 40 listening and re-listening for the Unconditional Love Activator to fully replace the unhealthy inner habits that are fueling your misery.

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