As difficult as dirty dishes can be, they’re even worse when you let them sit for a while. And the longer they sit, the harder they are to clean.

This is life. Something that is potentially easy to clean up right after it happens – an unkind word to your father, a lie to your best friend, an insensitivity to your girlfriend – can become a difficult mess if you don’t deal with it now.

Do the dishes today.

I have been thinking about Kaizen a lot. Kaizen can be the saving grace for a lot of people, because Kaizen is a way of life, a non-threatening way, but it is an awake way, and most of us are not awake, get jolted out of our sleepwalking by big things only. I am awake, and Kaizen is for me.

So I decided to use Kaizen to ease back into exercising. Since I stopped exercising, my face aged 10-20 years. That is a lot. I used to have no wrinkles, now I have folds, and wrinkles inside the folds… not pretty.

I have no special occasion to be pretty at, I just think that looking into the mirror should be a joyous occasion, not an occasion to berate myself.

So I am now doing 15 seconds of the exercise I used to do. I am happy. It is starting to show on my face. Hm.

Another Kaizen thing: in airplane bathrooms there is a sign that says something like this: would you be so kind as to use your paper towel to clean the sink before you throw it away?

Very Kaizen. Imagine going to the bathroom and someone’s soapy dirty washwater is still in the sink. (The airplane sink stopper needs to be manually lifted, otherwise it stops the water from emptying…) I would never wash my hand again on an airplane. But with that little Kaizen note, most 99% of the passengers follow the instructions, and everyone washes their hand. (I think that sign also reminds people to wash their hands, which many people don’t see a reason for… ).

And the third Kaizen example I read about in a Kaizen book, and it is about Toyota. The factory. They learned Kaizen from Americans… who would have thought… from Americans.

At Toyota, manufacturing cars happens on the assembly line. Nothing new there. In a normal assembly line everyone is concerned only about their part of the assembly, and the occasional errors are noticed and corrected, or not noticed and not corrected at the quality control station.

Toyota’s then CEO installed a rope switch above every workstation along the assembly line, where workers were asked to pull the rope every time they noticed an error in the work on the half-assembled car in front of them. The pull stopped the assembly line, they corrected the error, and pulled again to re-start…

It was a heretic idea, going counter with mass production. American auto manufacturers, that relied on quality control, had thousands of cars recalled, paid billions in restitution for tiny errors that weren’t corrected right after they happened.

Toyota went on to become the most reliable car. 250K cars are still sold and they run the highways: it is commonplace, while even an ‘error-free’ American car would be proud to run till 200K.

Which leads me to the ‘boundaries’ part.

It is still my cat that is on my mind. Or my previous failed relationship. Or my previous failed New Year resolution. Where, in all circumstances, I ignored, put up with, tolerated, shut a blind eye to a small aberration, a small violation of my boundaries, a little mistake, a little skipping… and they all became the core of a snow ball and destroyed an otherwise hopeful relationship, or my health, or my results.

Do the dishes soon after they get dirty. And stay awake. I have learned my lesson.

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Neurologist Steven Novella treats patients with  neuromuscular conditions where the brain fails to communicate with the rest of the body.

And as a hobby, he is a myth-buster in hot pursuit of the too good, too strange to be true — systematically proving that there is rarely anything new under the sun.

He says there is not a world of difference between his two lives. “What I’m doing in my day-job is more profound, but the underlying principles are similar,” says Novella. He is an assistant professor in the School of Medicine’s Department of Neurology. “Crop circles or neuromuscular conditions, we find similar logical fallacies, a susceptibility to delusion.”

He is president and co-founder of the New England Skeptical Society. He pursues with vigor unusual and  fraudulent health claims. But he also tackles subjects that are outside of his medical training — one example is, Ouija boards.

“We had a married couple that claimed they got useful information through a Ouija board,” he says. “They were blindfolding themselves with a handkerchief. But, you can still see the board  through a handkerchief, so we used real blindfold on them. Their powers disappeared.”

A magician, James Randi and his foundation offered a 1 million dollar prize to anyone who could show, under observation, that they had paranormal or occult power. The New England Skeptical Society and Novella assisted in properly screening entries for the prize offered by Randi, a veteran magician.

“Magicians are skeptics because magicians are experts at deception. They see how people are fallible to optical illusions, misdirection, false perception,” Novella says.

To this day no the prize hasn’t been awarded, though lots of people have tried to win it. One contestant, for example, claimed he could control the flipping of a coin with his mind.  “We found he was making logical errors in his thinking,” Novella says. “He said he needed an ‘undefined’ period to warm up, then the ‘power’ would kick in, and after another undefined period, the power would disappear. He could pick a time  out of the middle, that fit his claim. That’s basically cheating.”

Whether the person claiming to have supernatural powers is a con artist or a true believer is not easy to tell… It would take being able to read the contestant’s mind, and, Novella says jokingly, he is not a mind reader. “When you catch someone cheating you guess they lean towards con artist but often you have no clue,” he says. “The coin flipper, struck me as sincere but naïve. The tests are  well designed for cheating, we see more true believers.”

The tests are videotaped. The person tested must agree to the test before it is run to curtail any claims that it was not fair. One ‘mind reader’ tested agreed that in case he guesses correctly 1% or 2% then they would have a more conclusive follow-up test. He got zero out of 20 correctly, but still complained.

There are people who say they can guess the gender of a fetus by looking the shape of a mother’s abdomen (I am one of them). Others obsess about crop circles and or rave about conspiracy theories.  Half of all claimants are dowsers claiming that they can find water or minerals, on site or even on a map.

They also examine phenomena such as stories of haunted houses or communicating with the dead. They recently concluded an investigation of two women claiming they could record the voices of ghosts. this is called EVP.

“They ‘hear’ the ghosts talk by amplifying the background noise.”

During a field trip to investigate the claim, he says, he realized how much background noise there is in a quiet room and how much that sound carries. The problem with EVP, he adds, is the listener has no idea about the source of the sound and there is no way to verify that the source a ghost.

Skepticism is a useful vehicle for teaching logic and science. But, surprisingly, people maintain their belief despite evidence to the contrary. This leads to another fascinating subject: the psychology of belief.

“Dowsers are an excellent illustration of self-deception,” he says. “You know what the outcome you are going for, it’s not open ended, and you can subconsciously create the effect you need: the rods cross or turn downwards. This is known as the ‘ideomotor effect,’ in which you make a small subconscious movement to match your expectation. You will always have water if you dig deep enough. It’s also known as ‘confirmation bias.’ Then you remember your hits and you forget your misses.”

“The need to believe is huge,” he continues. “It’s part of the human condition. Money is one motivator, but there is also a love of the fantastical, the special, the out of the ordinary. You want to be distracted from your ordinary life for a period of time. And people are uncomfortable with not knowing things.

The discipline of science is that we have to be comfortable with what we don’t know.”

Another sensitive subject is the furor over if vaccination causes autism, whether mercury-based vaccine is cause for the rising incidence of autism. Novella sees it as a scientific issue to be resolved with evidence and logic. After 70 to 80 hours of reviewing all of the current research, Novella claims he found no connection between the vaccine and autism.

“There is no evidence of an epidemic of autism,” he says. “Any increase in surveillance will increase the number of patients who are diagnosed. The number still hovers around 60 per 10,000.”

The parents desperate for a ‘cure’ resort to chelation to rid the body of mercury. Some try exorcism. “Considering other causes gives you something simple and straightforward to fix,” he says. “There is a strong human desire to oversimplify things, to make them manageable and controllable and to fix them.”

Novella loves science and sees himself a teacher and educator in addition to being a doctor. He wasn’t always a skeptic, he says. “I believed a lot of wacky stuff when I was a kid; I had curiosity, but I had no discipline. As I studied science I began to learn how to separate truth from fantasies and fiction.  I still like science fiction movies, I also know to separate entertainment from science.”

The New England Skeptical Society is small, 200 members. They want people to question and think more deeply about scientific questions. One issue that comes up often is faith.

“Our position on faith is that it’s a personal choice. We believe in freedom of religion. The issue we deal with is people crosings the line and trying to apply faith to science, like creationism. Intelligent design is very clever wording, and deceptive, but it’s creationism, not science. They are talking about God, they’re just  coy about it.”

At home with his two children Novella allows them Santa Claus, the Tooth Fairy, the Easter Bunny and whatever else they might absorb from the culture.

“They’ll figure out that these things are not real,” he says. “It will be a good experience for them.”

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Update in the footnotes! ¹

I was guided to this TED presentation today. It’s the best gift I can give you for thanksgiving.

Enjoy.

Dr. Brené Brown ² calls what she found in successful, well-adjusted people “Wholeheartedness”

This wholeheartedness is what my Activate Divinity Program causes. We find the incidents where you denied and abandoned a part of you because of shame or pain, and re-integrate it into your self, so you can become whole, complete, no parts missing, Wholehearted.

You will never believe you could be like that. Nothing needs to be suppressed, no addiction, no compulsive doing anything, eating, sexing, working, arguing, dominating, anything.

You’ll wake up one day and you will be enough. You will be perfect the way you are: imperfect and it will be OK.

It’s the best and most affordable program on the planet, but more than that: it is the only place where you can do it for yourself what no one can do for you.

No energy guru can gather and re-attach your missing pieces, only you can do. But other “energy gurus” don’t know what you do in your mind, behind your closed eyes, because there is only one “True Empath” on the planet at any one time, as far as I know.

I can guide you, tweak your connection until you get it right. I can use your suppressed emotions to guide you towards the area where you’ll get the fastest and most valuable reward for your search for your missing pieces.

The course starts in December, but accepts new participants at any point: it’s an ongoing discovery and integration mission.

Go and sign up. https://www.activatedivinity.com

There is a monthly option, if you can’t afford (or don’t want) to risk a whole $97 for a lifetime membership. Email me for the link.

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First off… I have been getting emails that people could not sign up. So here is the correct link… if that’s you.

What’s the truth about you? – A workshop

Tuesday, November 20 9-11 pm EST

Update: want me to run this workshop again? Just ask for it. I love doing it…

Second: There is a new way to connect. The connection is much deeper… there is one more difference: it is much less mechanical than the previous method, so most people will need to practice getting out of their minds for a while before they can connect for any longer than five seconds.

The calls are free… https://yourvibration.com/drill to register

I recommend that you start as soon as you can. My next course, the Activate Divinity Course will not work unless you can stay connected for at least five minutes…

I have come up with a dirt cheap way to get into that course where you have a chance to re-integrate your abandoned “fragments” to become whole and complete again. Invulnerable, impervious, joyful, calm and serene…

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What’s the Truth About You?

At first I was surprised. Very few people want to find out what’s the truth about them. It was stunning to me, given what I know about life: Unless you know what you are up against you will shoot in the dark when you want to change direction, or results.

But then I looked again.

People don’t want to do the work. And they especially don’t want to do the work if it means they have to look at their own ugliness.

Don’t be mistaken: we are all ugly inside. Ever since Adam and Eve put on the fig leaves as costume, human being are trying to cover up, hide, and pretend that their shadow side doesn’t exist. ³

You learn, real fast, if you live in a country where people wear clothes, that being a girl or being a boy is not a physical thing, it’s a behavior thing. It’s not that you have a different equipment, it is that you are supposed to play with dolls if you are a girl, and you are not allowed to cry if you are a boy.

No one talks about your privates, as if they were a dirty secret, something to be ashamed of, something to hide, something wrong.

And those “privates” become much more interesting than dolls or toy soldiers: anything that is not allowed becomes more interesting than what is allowed.

So, if you didn’t start earlier, you start building a whole life of secret fascination with your own privates, other children’s privates, other people’s privates. And depending on your inclination to be obedient and fearful or proper… you will feel horrible about yourself, a fraud, a fake, a bad person.

Now, add to it that you are not allowed to run, yell, curse, jump, climb on things, wrestle, or anything that little puppies, little lions are allowed, to be prepared for life, to learn about the other, to learn to co-op… and you are definitely doomed to deny to your body what the body developed in millions of years of evolution, and live out of your mind: the newest addition to this thing, called human.

And through the mind you learn not to trust your body, but trust “experts,” doctors, lawyers, politicians, gurus, not yourself, not your experience… which is, by now, is so impoverished that it is limited to some vague misgivings felt in the chest, difficulty breathing, frequent need to go to the chiropractor for stiff neck and shoulders. I know, I often hang out in your body, feeling your misery…

You can’t smell anything, you can’t feel anything, and you spend 90% of you time, including sleep, in your mind.

The mind only knows about the past and about the future. It is completely unable to relate to the present, so it dismisses it, and covers it over with the past.

You say “I love you” but there is no feeling there. You say “I am grateful” but there is no feeling there.

You have amassed a dozen or so personas, each situation you call upon a different one. You are different when you are alone, when you are with your birth family, when you are with co-workers, with the boss, with friends… who are you? You don’t know, the only thing you know is that you are a fake, and you know the ugliness of that.

When you come to my calls, I can barely stand the amount of fear, anguish, anxiety, trepidation, guilt that you bring to the call. You are never just there: you bring the whole cacophony of misery with you.

The Original Sin was not eating from the Tree of Knowledge, no, not that. The Original Sin was covering up your privates as a symbolic act. You’ve been covering up your real self ever since, in layers and layers of stinky lies… to your own detriment.

You can’t be joyous: It is not possible to be joyful without removing those layers of pretense.
You can’t love: it is only possible to look for someone to possess, to exploit, to use… so you don’t feel alone.
You can’t love another: how could you: you hate yourself!
You can’t experience being loved: how could they love you, you are so ugly inside; if they only knew…

In my programs on www.yourvibration.com we gently peel it all off, layer after layer, so you can re-claim your life from the machine, from this perpetual trying to cover up the fact that you cover it all up machine.

You’ll find out that the source of joy and happiness is never from the outside: it is always from the inside. You’ll understand why no gifts, no weddings, no children, no new job, no wealth has made you happy… maybe gleeful for a few moments or days. Maybe.

Through connecting to Source, your Source, my Source, our Source, you’ll finally experience who you are. You discover and experience freedom, grace and ease, and true abundance that is independent from the world, from the people in your life, from your job, from the amount of money you have.

Will you have to work for it? You betcha! A lot? Yes.

How do you start? The best way to start is to come to my What’s the Truth About You webinar. It’s free, for the time being.

You’ll learn about my next course in it, the Activate Divinity Course… It’s a Discovery and Recovery Mission… you’ll have a chance to reclaim yourself, layer by layer.

It’s on a limited introductory special price now: $97 for lifetime.

If you can’t afford to pay the lifetime admission, you can choose to pay $97 monthly. I will raise the price soon to $27.

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Become who you were meant to become

Really nice and really loaded title, would you agree? It means that you are not who you were meant to be. You are someone else, and that flies in the face of determinists.

Determinists say that your life is scripted, and you have no choice about it. You choose what you have in store for you. You have no free will.

But the truth is that humans do have free will.

So what is this “who you were meant to be” stuff? Determinist or free will stuff… good question.

Every choice is somewhat pre-determined by the past, by the family you were born into.

The past gets into the choice by the mind storing everything that happened to you and placing it in your future as something to avoid, or something to repeat.

When you get hurt, or laughed at, or feel ashamed about, you vow never to do that again. That places it square into your future, and it sits there, blocking your view, preventing exercising your free will, it sits there like a golem, ⁴ it sits there as the only choice there is.

There is a favorite example I learned in a born again Christian magazine I picked up at a train station some 15-20 years ago. It has made a profound difference in my life. It has nothing to do with religion, and everything to do with explaining why our life looks the way it does, why we are the way we are.

Here is the story

Imagine driving on a mountain road that bends around the mountain climbing higher and higher. On one side the mountain, on the other side the abyss… the ravine, the depth.

It’s a beautiful morning, your radio blasts your favorite music, and you love your life.

As you go around yet another bend, you see, horrified, a car crash on the road. The road is narrow, and you need to choose how to avoid your certain death.

Now, if you are like most people, you’ll choose to look at the obstacle you want to avoid.

You could crash into the car wreck. You could crash into the mountain. Or you could choose to fall into the abyss.

Putting all your effort to avoid anything will do that to you. You’ll crash, certain as that the sun will set on the West.

Looking for the open space doesn’t even occur to anyone. For you to find that, you would have to take your eyes off of what you want to avoid. Not an easy task, but do-able.

Some 25 years ago, at a week long course in the mountains of New York, I learned the grace and ease that comes from looking and moving towards the open space.

We were 117 people asked to walk around and not bump into each other. The room was small and the task looked impossible. “Maybe if we pretended that we are sheep, and all walk into one direction…” the mind was guessing.

Then came the instructions: “Move towards the open space…”

And in the coming 20 minutes followed the most incredible experience of my life. Finding and moving into the open spaces, without ever even slowing down, without being bogged down with what (or who) were the two people enclosing the open space.

Exhilarating. Glorious. Unreal.

If we lived this way, we could all experience a life of grace and ease.

“The other is hell…” someone said, and greater truth has never been said.

In life we all try to move towards the other. But the other wants what they want, and it is NEVER what we want, never what we would want them to do.

But human being, conditioned by society, conditioned and regimented by the mind, always moves towards the other, hoping that this time it will be different.

It never is, and it never will.

But the space, the space in between that no one talks about, sets you free.

In my programs, “Become who you were meant to be,” I teach you to liberate yourself from this compulsion and start to return yourself to the person YOU were meant to be, so you can live a life of grace and ease.

Can I hand it to you on a silver platter? No.

You will have to work for every inch of this battle. I can’t take you there. I can only lend you guidance on how to do it.

How do you start?

Step 1:
On the “Drill calls” I teach you three things:
1. to step out of the mind.
2. to find your Tangerine Spot with your attention, not with your mind
3. to connect to Source

Step 2: Get the Heaven on Earth Energy Bundle in a bottle.
It will help you stay out of your mind.
The unpleasant feelings that you experience 24/7 don’t allow you to be well and out of the mind… and if you remember, the mind is interested in keeping you the same. So it’s mandatory that you spend a good part of your day out of the mind.

The Heaven on Earth addresses and weakens or eliminates all 40 feeling components that are known to human beings.

Step 3: Get the “Unconditional Love Activator”
It’s delivered on live calls, and all calls are recorded.
It will take you out of the needing to, having to, wanting to be different than you are.
It’s a revolutionary activator: once you get it at least 40% I can guarantee that you’ll get to the other side of this human condition, this human misery and slavery.

Step 4: Learn to recognize and release the machine.
This is a 16-session video course and workshop

Step 5: The Activate Divinity Process
This is an ongoing process that will begin soon.
You’ll find out the different elements that the mind filed into the future, fragmenting you, and creating you barely hanging on to life.

You were meant to be whole and complete, but in the process of life, in traumatic moments, you lost fragments of yourself. Without reclaiming and re-integrating these fragments, you are stuck with your experience of yourself: not good enough, not loved, not wanted, not ok.

I will add the links to these steps in the coming days.

If you want them urgently, just email me… don’t hesitate.

And if you are available on Tuesday, November 20, or Saturday November 24, I will have an online workshop, free of charge, where you can have a sense of what we do here, how I teach, and see if you can click with me or not.

What’s the truth about you?

or if you don’t have time, you can get a recording of a previous webinar at https://www.activatedivinity.com

the link is on the bottom of the page.

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A few years ago, (maybe 3?) I went over the list of people I was angry at, or disappointed by. I made an all-out attempt to liberate myself from the bondage anger or disappointment creates.

Anger, resentment, disappointment: all symptoms of ego/mind, all symptoms of thinking of the future and feeling threatened. Look at how the Indonesian Mimic Octopus makes sure that they don’t fall prey to having any reason for anger, etc. But humans are not as intelligent: they willingly put themselves in that position… Don’t forget to read the rest of the article once you are done watching the video

I knew, in theory, that no one can do anything to you. That it is not what they do that makes you miserable, it is what you say about it. That it’s always your ego that is bruised.

But there is a difference between theory and practice. You know it, and I know it.

When you say you forgave someone, you, mostly lie. You may smile, but your insides cringe, or tighten some recognizable ways, and as an empath, I have no doubt. You can’t deceive me: it is not possible to fake emotions, or even emotionlessness.

Someone who has truly cut those emotional ties is like an ocean at 6 pm: smooth, mirror-like. No ripples, no waves. A deep inner peace.

Returning to the story, I had one person I had a hard time forgiving. An ex boy-friend.

I spent only three years with him, most of it was hell, most of it was need or no choice.

This is the guy that implied in so many ways that we were going to get married, and once the m-word was uttered, I found myself in slavery and bondage.

It is not that I loved the actuality of marriage: I never did. I always thought that “marriage is two people’s joint venture to solve problems that would not exist without the marriage.” Simone De Beauvoir said that, a fiercely independent French writer and philosopher.

I found the statement both hilariously funny and very instructive.

But marriage, at the time, would have brought me goodies I could not get any other ways, so I enslaved myself.

The marriage never happened, instead a hellish, nightmarish cohabitation did, where I found myself non-creative, suffering, stupid, and hopeless.

I broke out of it after three years, but the resentment remained. It felt that it was his doing, not mine.

So, three years ago I called him on the phone and told him that I forgave him, and that I loved him. He hurriedly ended the conversation, and I was still left with the resentment, forever in bondage.

Forgiveness is tricky. On one hand they have never done anything to you, and you don’t need to forgive them. On the other hand taking responsibility for everything that happened in the relationship is superhuman. People mostly pretend having forgiven.

The reason this is so damaging to you is because you left a fragment of yourself, a fragment of your soul in that resentment, and you are not whole and complete, like a bicycle wheel lacking a spoke. Anything and everything can damage you, anger you, upset you, throw you out of balance. The integrity of your life is suffering.

In one of the “Activate Divinity” processes I reclaimed myself from that relationship.

It felt very innocent: I forgave myself for doing what I did, I forgave myself for offering myself to bondage.

Last night that ex called. He spent a large chunk of the 45 minutes on the phone apologizing, and reminiscing over his loss. When we finally hung up, he was as incomplete as when he started. Telling me he loved me and asking my forgiveness didn’t do the trick for him.

And whether it is the outer matching the inner, I don’t know. But it just so happens, that he is losing his eye sight. He is on permanent disability. Can’t drive. Lives at the mercy of his parents.

When I looked into him, he’s been poisoned. Toxic emotions can do that to you. So can wine: somehow a lot of wine seem to have heavy metal in it, I think it comes from how the barrels are treated, but I could be wrong.

If I cared enough, I would suggest to him to join the Activate Divinity class. But I don’t care that much.

It is his life, and I am not a do-gooder. When he is ready, he will.

Update: he called again today. I am sending him my eye remedy infused with the Heaven on Earth. I am sure it will help his eyes. Maybe his emotional vulnerability.

It is not time for him to do the Activate Divinity Course yet: he needs to bring himself up to the level where he has enough energy and courage to look at his life.

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3-way history:

• The Way I Remember It,
• The Way You Remember It, and
• The Way It Actually Was.

you are three different persons:

1. The person you believe yourself to be.
2. The person others believe you to be.
3. The person you really are.

This means there is:

1. the person I see when I look in the mirror.
2. the person you see when you look at me.
3. the person God knows me to be.

• The Sophie I See lives in my mind.
• The Sophie You See lives in your mind.
• The Sophie God Sees lives in God’s mind.

(I’d like to meet that Sophie, wouldn’t you?)

On the free webinar on the 20th you’ll get a chance to see some of the you…

First Name:
Last Name:
Email:

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I have never done anything with the Silva Method, except a presentation imagery with Laura Silva that I found ineffective.

Here are the vibrational frequencies of Laura and Isabel Silva and the method itself.

Laura Silva vibration: 250
Isabel Silva vibration: 240
the Silva philosophy: 230
the Silva Method: 200

Let me measure your vibration?
Click on the link to request a vibrational reading…
The Map of Consciousness will show you what it means.

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