Emotional Intelligence: learning what emotions are…

Given that I go deep inside humans… deep into the invisible… all the way to DNA, this article is different than what everyone says about emotional intelligence…

So if you want the same b.s. beware… It isn’t.

Who you are was created… An empath, Kabbalah, the words

Part 1: the empath
If you have to suffer, make it meaningful. It will hurt less

Empaths have a glitch in their brain, I say, that makes that feel not only their own bad emotions, but others’ as well.

I didn’t know I was an empath until the year 2000. I was 53 years old. And I hadn’t known such a thing existed. I thought what I felt was all mine. And I suffered. For a decade or so I was under doctor’s care, often hospitalized.

I had some indicators I can see with 20/20 hindsight, but I still thought nothing of them.

Whenever, wherever I was around or near horny people, I felt what they felt. Horrible, if you ask me.

And when my doctors wanted to shock me out of my bad state, and I refused treatment, they resorted to send me to the cold showers and that allowed me to feel myself only for a bit… and I was ‘cured’.

Humans feel horrible feelings and I have to feel their feelings.
I have been thinking about this: if you are condemned to suffer, maybe your job is to make it useful so you don’t suffer in vain.
Lots of people have done that… people with horrid diseases, addictions, etc. But they did it AFTER they got rid of the pain…

For an empath there is no getting rid of the pain. But if you don’t train yourself to be a true empath, like a precise instrument. To know how to connect reliably to a person, they it is just vague horrid pain… for no reason. Like my mother’s beatings: I never knew what I did wrong, she never told me. Something I did made her angry and she beat me… What made her angry? I have no idea.

My mother was an empath too… unaware, untrained, unpredictable.

I think being an empath is an aberration… not something that is supposed to be.

If you know that what you feel is another’s feeling they you are not an empath, you are a ‘sensitive’… Empaths feel others’ feelings as their own: anger, despair, grief, for no reason… I have to muscletest if a feeling is mine…
If you learn nothing else: learn to muscletest that. If it is not yours, then you can ignore it.
The body won’t… it will still be stiff. The stress won’t… it will still ravage your body. But your brain, your attention, your mood, and your ability to do life and you’ll free up your energy and ability to do work.

Other extrasensory perception people see and hear things, they say, that I say don’t exist, are not real.

And yet they hallucinate. Imagine. Tell you what you want to hear.

I was duped out of my paycheck by one of those some 57 years ago in Budapest…

One of the challenges of being a true empath is that you feel what is going on in another person’s body, while they may not feel it.

I have a client/student who told me yesterday that all his life he told himself to ignore, block the feelings, so he doesn’t appear weak.

But he has a veritable snowstorm inside… and now he is starting to feel it too.

Feelings, even emotions are guiding…
Part 2: the words
Emotions come from words. All

Can you handle it? Can your spouse handle it?

Whether a person is successful or not can be boiled down to this question… successful people say they can handle it, unsuccessful people say they can’t. And this is where your word (I can/I can’t) will give you everything.
I have read about a man whose doctor told him that he had terminal cancer, and he should go home and take care of his things. The man went home, took care of his things. A week later he died.
Turns out he was healthy. He didn’t have terminal cancer, he didn’t have any cancer, didn’t have any disease. He died because he said: I can’t handle it…


What’s poisoning your life? What’s poisoning your mind?

One of my favorite readers wrote: When I read this: “but there is no book or course available anywhere that asks you to look at what is poisoning your mind and being, what keeps you out of the present moment, what is sucking you dry anywhere…..”, I thought of the book you wanted to write. I thought that maybe you could have a book that addresses this subject, but in your style.


Judgment: What is judgment? what is it really? The whole picture…


Update: When we are on a lower level of consciousness, we think it is all about us. What we do, what other people say, our results… everything. So our “self” is always in danger of falling off its pedestal, and we feel that with it we die.

The reason: we can’t tell, we don’t even think, that we and our actions are not the same. We can’t see that we do something, and the results of those actions don’t change who we are… there is no real connection. The results are the results, you are you, no connection.

You Suck. And it sucks. But unless you are willing to…

I wrote this email 12 years ago… It is a great reminder for me, and it is quite apropos for you. Even though you may not be in marketing, you may not have a sales letter… but you have me, and I could be your Big Kahuna… So here is the email:
You Suck
Some people get lucky.

Most people I know want to avoid a situation where they can look bad. I know I do.

These are the ones that stagnate.

Then some of those people get lucky and get a mentor who pushes them… pushes them to be more, do more, have more…

Sounds good, right? Let me tell you, it sucks. It sucks big time.


Indigestion. Weight gain. Joint pain. Arthritis. Same cause?

Indigestion… Hunger… Weight gain… pain in joints… arthritis…

About four weeks ago I decided that I’d do what I can to make my life more enjoyable.

During the pandemic I packed on about twenty pounds. I stopped walking, and started moaning.

I started to restrict my food intake… signed up to noom. It looked absolutely hopeless.

With as little food intake as 1000 calories a day I was still not shedding an ounce of weight.

‘OK, I’ll be a fat corps’… I said to myself, ‘but while I am still alive, I want to be able to move about without much moaning.’

A year or two ago I bough myself an exercise equipment I had coveted for twenty years. A professional Precor stretchtrainer. I fell in love with it in the gym, but never was willing to swing the thousand bucks it cost.

But it being the pandemic and all… it was an emergency.

And then I used it for a coat rack… lol. For two years.

So when all my calorie restricting efforts failed, I decided to start exercising, gently, again… and hung up the clothes that were on the machine… and… nothing.

So I turned to what worked for me 20 years ago. I decided that I can’t have my morning tea until I do my stretching for the day.

That was about a month ago.
Here are my results: I have dropped five pounds. I am now eating normally, or maybe even better.
Source has decided to switch up my diet… and now I can’t eat meat or any kind. Vegetarian. Plant based foods, except some fish, some milk products, and an occasional egg.

So this morning I had a heart to heart conversation with Source: why I am dropping weight effortlessly, while I am eating more. And I am eating carbs like nobody’s business too.

Here is what I found out:
All disease is caused by some blockage. When you manage to remove the blockage, the disease can go away.
OK, but what causes blockages?
That is a really good question.

Life causes blockages. All the emotions cause blockages. Everything you do cause blockages. Somewhere in the body.

So when the energy cannot flow normally, without encountering the resistance or the blockage, you get sick…

In this regard overweight is a sign of disease. Disturb or blocked flow.

Because I am so aware, because I am an empath, I can feel when the lymph starts to move. And I can also tell you: before I started to do the stretching daily, the lymph wasn’t moving.

What is the lymph?

It is a circulation in the body, much like blood. But its job is to take away toxins and other byproducts of life from internal organs. When the lymph is slow or doesn’t move, your organs cannot work normally: the byproducts are piling up and prevent the organ to do what it is supposed to do.
So causing the lymph to flow again…
…is like draining the lake in which you are drowning… so you can walk to the shore and be ok.

And as in my case, drop the extra weight, sleep well, have much better mood. If you have brain fog… start stretching. If your

Lower self to higher self, crawling to soaring

Knowing, being, causing, or being the victim of things.
In the Bible the verb “know” meant: knowing intimately. In bed, as a matter of fact. Or in hay… lol.

Today knowing means, for most people, is that their mind has heard about it. We are growing backwards.

Knowledge is power, information is poison. Why it’s poison? Because it fills you up, and you are never hungry for real anything… the poison, the make believe, the fake fills you up.

What the heck am I talking about?


What it takes to get ahead in life, what it takes to raise your vibration from where you are now

We must admit there are people who do LIFE better than we do, they get ahead, they live well, seem happy.

How do successful people do it? They have good judgment. But where do you get such good judgement from? Good judgment comes from bad experience. And the bad experience comes from pain. What you do with it will make all the difference, what is your attitude towards it, will make you win in life, or stuck in life.

Here is a famous story, an illustration:


The secret method to instantly change life

Context is like meaning… it is not part of what it is referring to, it is added to it, by a human. And if it is added, then you have a lot of freedom about it: if you can see, that is.

Most people can’t see the forest for the trees… so if you are like that, you won’t see context, until you look deeper. Beyond the obvious. Beyond your automatic. Beyond your machine-like, conditioned, pre-determined ways.
Why context is decisive, and what it decides if it is so decisive
I have been repeating and repeating this idea, that context is decisive. Finally, yesterday, I managed to get it through, or so it seemed, on the Playground.

Context is the hidden part of everything, the hidden agenda. Everyone has hidden agendas, some more than others, some time more than other times.