Why is rape so traumatic, while sex is so commonplace?

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  • Why is rape so traumatic, while sex is so commonplace?
  • Why is slave labor so traumatic, while working is so natural to us.

If you have ever been pinned down, not able to free yourself...
If you have ever been forced to do something you didn't want to do... anything...

...your trust of life, your trust in people, your confidence has dealt a big blow.

Recovering is not guaranteed, and the wound can be torn open again quite easily.

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Time to reinvent yourself as someone you can love

try-time-to-reinvent-yourselfYou live in a world of your own design... Time to reinvent yourself as someone you can love

Your own design is like a filter you look through. You can't see the filter, just like you don't see the window unless you touch it...

A filter is like a pair of glasses...

A filter is also like a pair of glasses... They can be dark tinted, they can be yellow, green... and the world occurs differently with each pair of glasses. You can't see that it's the glasses that make the world look the way the world looks to you... unless you can take it off...

You can see only the ripples. The indication that there is something there...

It's the ripples that we don't like... we don't like the things we do, the things we think, the things we feel. We want to change the ripples. But the ripples are the surface of the iceberg... hidden, invisible...

But you can't change something that you don't know. You can't change something that you don't see.

We all want to reinvent ourselves, our world. Because what we have now is not working too well, not serving us too well. We can't have what we want, and we suffer.

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Learning lessons the hard way... or the easy way... Part 2

thought experimentThe brilliance in the movie, "It's a wonderful life" is that the angel creates a thought experiment what the world would be like if our hero hadn't been born.

Thought experiments are uniquely human: animals don't do thought experiments.

The minimum intelligence required to create a thought experiment is 70... and I am not talking about IQ measured intelligence, I am talking about overall intelligence.

The average intelligence in the world is 50... But all my site's visitors qualify.

So let's look at that movie and see what is a thought experiment:

If X were different, in the movie take out the main character... and then look at different elements that you know how they are... the marriage, the loan bank, etc. The amount of happiness, the amount of difference.

Now let's look at different examples of thought experiments, all in the area of my work of becoming someone who loves life, and lives it successfully.

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Living Dangerously: The habits that keep us feeling safe, small, bankrupt, and feeling dead UPDATED

detective-with-search-glassI had a one-on-one session with a student yesterday.

Sometimes I notice something "out"... something that doesn't fit the picture, and just like a good detective, I latch onto it, and watch it, and if I can, I use it to unravel the mystery someone's life is.

But sometimes it takes a while to really identify what it is that doesn't fit... it is just a hunch, it is just a feeling... like the faint scent of death for a search dog...

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Who or What is calling the shot in your life? Commitment - new thoughts, new experiences

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This is a continuation of the c-word article... and the getting ready for a breakthrough article. Read them first or this article won't make sense completely

Displacement of your commitment:

As I have written before, the "universe" or the aspect of you that conspires and is in kahutz with the Universe, will put up obstacles in your path, so instead of doing stuff that's consistent with your commitment, you are now on a detour path: handling your obstacles.

Alex, a friend of mine, is dealing with his server and his websites being hacked... a moment after he made a commitment to growth. So he feels forced to deal with that, instead of following the path he set for himself.
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Sometimes all you need is a tiny nudge... and you can go from unhappy to happy.

christmas-carol-25As you may know, I am doing my second round of the 67 steps. In step 13 Tai says something like this: if you are not happy, don't throw everything away. It is possible that the unhappiness is due to a mismatch of your current lifestyle with your social needs...

Huh?

So I went back in my memory to different stages of my business, or the different businesses I had. And lo and behold, I found something totally freaky: I was happiest when I had at least one person cooperating with me in my business. Even if the cooperation was minor, and we didn't interact much. Just knowing that I am not alone transformed my experience.

Now, this is a big surprise to me.

It is counter intuitive. I didn't know that I didn't know. I wasn't even looking in that direction

And it is something that I can easily apply, easily accommodate without changing anything else.
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