When you decide to do something for yourself... to grow...

992c7c4d24d13d506d6c5fd87c3f536cBetween two chairs I find myself fallen and sitting on the floor

I don't know if you can recognize this situation, but my hunch is: you should.

Your attention is divided. Your intentions are divided. And NOTHING gets done.

It should be a daily concern... if it is not, you are probably in a rut.

What is a rut? A trench... you can either go forward or you can go backwards... Or stand still, hoping that it will give you a sense of being alive.

Whenever you add a new task, you have to go through this state: if you don't, then you didn't mean to add the task.
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Breaking into a new field... how to do it right... or wrong

breaking into a new careerSometimes we learned one profession but we want to change... and it is not that easy...

Here are two examples: one is my own, the other is a student of mine...

In the end I'll ask for your input... please be generous.

After I came to the USA, I worked as an architect for about 30 months.

First I scoured the help wanted ads, and went on an interview with a prestigious Midtown Manhattan firm. They were impressed with me, my experience, and hired me on the spot with a salary that was four, nearly five times higher than what I made in Israel.
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Telling the truth will set you free. The counter intuitive path to happiness

Some people won't adhere to a diet that would make them healthy.

Stupidity? Yes, stupidity on a very deep selfish gene level.

It's not that they don't understand the price they are paying.

It's that they make choices that the genes are making: not making waves, not bringing attention to themselves, not being different, fitting in is more important than being healthy, having energy, feeling good, calm, intelligent.

Almost everything "social" is gene directed. I say "almost" because I am humble. I don't know any social that is NOT gene directed, but there could be, maybe.

So what do the genes want?

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Dyslexia - the good news and the bad news...

steven-spielberg-dyslexiaUPDATE: I have some underachiever friends and students. I suspect that they may have dyslexia. It just occurred to me... after two excruciatingly difficult conversations in a row... where the partners in the conversation felt stuck, dense, and their level of comprehension is low.

Both are men, both are making a living in their own business, both shy away from learning anything new.

It is one of the worst things for me when I try to teach someone something that they need, and they nod and yes me to death, only to do the opposite or nothing.

Every human wants to make a difference, wants to matter, more than anything, and this flies in the face of that...

But maybe they are dyslexic. Hm.

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Why those giants became giants and not you?

1673296-poster-physicsYou are Stuck...

Stuck without a solution, stuck in a tight spot, stuck in a relationship, stuck with an irrevocable promise, stuck in a job, stuck.

This is the landscape of our life. NORMAL.

Whether we verbalize it or not, we feel stuck... life seems against us, and we feel, to ourselves a poor match to deal with what we need to deal with.

Please, to enjoy this article, look at your life for a moment or two and see how in many different aspects of your life you feel stuck.

I am doing the same thing, now that I have redefined what it means to be stuck.

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Republished: What if what you are most proud of about yourself is what holds you back in life

how to get unstuckUpdate August 2016: I think this article goes really well with my "giants" article, so I am republishing it, yet again. It is germane, apropos, relevant to the new discovery I am sharing in that article today.

Update: This article was written two years ago, and a lot has happened, but we never again addressed these life-suckers... Since we are working on anchor-to-doom and the actions necessary to live a life not determined by the doom... we probably will need to talk about these minor anchors... the topic of this article. These keep us stuck, suck our aliveness, curtail our successes, and make us inauthentic and pretending. So they are important.

We'll use transformation to get unstuck: transformation is caused by making the invisible visible...

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