We are all born seeing ourselves as the center of the world. We don't know we are the center of our world... we just don't know there is any other vantage point to look from.
Most of us never learn it.
Like one of my students: every time I recommend anything, she answers: "I agree..."
She hasn't crossed that threshold, that divide between infant and even toddler... absolutely and completely ignorant to the fact that using the personal vantage point is ineffective, because it is delusional.
This is also true if and when you can see that other people see things differently from how you see them, but your view is accurate and theirs is inaccurate.
Same delusional, baby-view of the world. Continue reading "Cognitive biases, blind spots, a sticky point and a "remedy""
The original of this article was published a year ago... I have added new insights today
The secret of my being able to change, and be reborn with a higher frequency, a higher vibration, is that I have been able to keep in check the societal imperative to care about other people more than I care about myself. And in addition to that, I have been able to admit to myself all the errors of my ways that I can see. So I don't even want to look good to myself. I am willing to accept myself, warts and all... for all I am and for all I am lacking.
This comes with giving up the emotional impact of others view of me, of others opinion of me, of others praise or hate of me, and my opinion of me... especially when I make a mistake, a false step, or when I make a fool of myself.
This attachment to opinions needs to be actively given up: no epigenetic shift, no transformation, no energy remedy will make these opinions neutral: we do live in a society, and others opinion of you and your products determines your money: and your money determines whether you eat, be sheltered, have leisure time, and a lot more. And your own opinion about yourself will determine whether you are going to play fully... or shrink.
So opinions are important, but they are not important emotionally.
Fear is emotional. Careful, thoughtful pro-action is not.
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Continue reading "Updated: The secret of being able to change, and be reborn with a higher frequency"
- Why is rape so traumatic, while sex is so commonplace?
- Why is slave labor so traumatic, while working is so natural to us.
If you have ever been pinned down, not able to free yourself...
If you have ever been forced to do something you didn't want to do... anything...
...your trust of life, your trust in people, your confidence has dealt a big blow.
Recovering is not guaranteed, and the wound can be torn open again quite easily.
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Continue reading "Why is rape so traumatic, while sex is so commonplace?"
I watch, I observe people's behavior and the emotions that go with it.
Unless I can see what you did, your emotions and much of your behavior don't make sense.
And occasionally I get the opportunity to see both the actions and the emotions...
The most frequent behavior is you acting without looking.
Much like a drunk jumps into an empty pool... expecting it to be full.
You buy something. You are on the payment page. You assume you know what's there... you are not looking. You don't even suspect that you are singing up to a monthly program as well... and that you need to "un-tick" that if you don't want it.
Continue reading "Why you are not confident... Why you don't trust yourself... Why you aren't happy..."
If you are able to catch the point, have the power of distilling essence... aka called distinguishing, you have seen in all my work, and all of Tai Lopez's 69 steps, that every single session, every single article, every single video is about stuff you do, be, see, believe, think, feel, that keep you stuck.
So, in essence, all spiritual work, and all transformational work is getting you unstuck.
And all fake programs, all fake gurus are about getting you stuck... filling your head with useless crap.
One of my students sent me a laundry (long) list of what she should do...
It was her 67-steps answers... answer to one of the steps... I don't know what number.
It is not possible to do 100 things, especially in the thick of life. When you are in a hurry, upset, troubled, etc.
But it is possible to remember one or maybe two things you shouldn't do in that same situation. Continue reading "The path to anything you want leads through 90% blockage elimination and 10% addition"
Often anything can kick you into the horizontal plane . I got kicked into it... and now I am working my way off... it is not that easy. I can't even connect to muscle test... the horizontal plane is sticky. It wants you, all of you. I eats your life for breakfast.
Let me explain: Humanity (you!) lives on the horizontal plane at this stage of evolution. It is both the starting point and the end state...
On the horizontal plane everything is about comparison. More, better, different...
The good old days...
I want what they have, because I don't have it... and I want it.
Continue reading "Abundance Or Scarcity? Choose"
I am reading all the books by Michael Connelly.
I had read about 20 before getting to the last few I have on my kindle... these books stirred up something in me...
Suddenly, in these last few books, there is an unexpected twist: the last three novels have a similar element, not quite there, or maybe even missing from the previous ones: a friend or colleague is turning against friend or colleague...
Continue reading "Keep your enemies close... with friends like this who needs enemies?"
This article will upset many. Just please know, that if you are getting upset, it is indicating that your vibration is very low, and the anger is a smoke screen to avoid seeing it, and avoid being seen as such. As a pet owner, you are, probably, priding yourself of giving life to a pet, but the reality is much more sinister than that.
Consciousness is going to cost you something... a delusion? An illusion? Being asleep and oblivious? We shall see.
Another reason it is important for some of you to read is this: if you want to become and Expanding Human Being, if you want to raise your vibration, then you need to be effective. In order to become effective, you need to act on what's real, on what's so, instead of action on some delusion, some fantasy... like Don Quixote.
Continue reading "What Does It Say About You That You Have A Pet?"
Note: I could not find any pictures that would illustrate this principle or distinction, sorry. The illustrations are for simple self-awareness, or self-delusion, but they are funny... so enjoy. Sophie
I thought I was going to have a domestic day, you know laundry, dishes, stuff... and watch myself, my emotions, and have a good old time.
It's Saturday, and the weather is gorgeous. My neighborhood is even prettier in the fall than in the summer: you can see far and the contrast of the blue sky and the rusty color of the leaves is really beautiful.
The thought: "I could actually be happy" cured and hung in there for a few minutes. I made myself a nice cup of tea, and checked my email.
There was a note there from Youtube that I have a comment on my "Why are Jews smart?" video, so I went to check it out.
Continue reading "How Self-Awareness is the Key to Happiness, Effectiveness, Intelligent Decisions... The Sideways View"
boys... I always wanted to be a boy. They seem unperturbed, laugh a lot. Today I prefer to be a woman. But as a child I really KNEW something was missing, and for years I thought it was cut off... So I really love this picture.
I remember sitting on the potty waiting for my navel to burst. I knew it was only a matter of time. I was mutilated below, and I was mutilated there. I didn't know what was cut off, but I needed it.
I was 3-4 years old. My feet didn't touch the ground yet.
Continue reading "Boys, Girls, Gender, coming to peace - Tigers and Bears, oh my!"