You want it effortlessly... Want thrilling, want pleasure, want abundance...

surviving the weekI read a lot of books. About 100 books a year. Cover to cover. I don't subscribe to Tai's reading method...

I left a 2000 book library when I left Hungary. that was 34 years ago.

Every book is an opportunity to shatter my view of the world. And many do. Sometimes not directly... sometimes through the effect the book has on other people.

This is what is happening with this book I am currently reading, The Upside of Your Dark Side. And previously with the book "Curious"

My view of others got turned upside down... sideways... OMG. Talk about upsetting my apple cart! lol.
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Cognitive biases, blind spots, a sticky point and a "remedy"

center-of-the-universe-2011We are all born seeing ourselves as the center of the world. We don't know we are the center of our world... we just don't know there is any other vantage point to look from.

Most of us never learn it.

Like one of my students: every time I recommend anything, she answers: "I agree..."

She hasn't crossed that threshold, that divide between infant and even toddler... absolutely and completely ignorant to the fact that using the personal vantage point is ineffective, because it is delusional.

This is also true if and when you can see that other people see things differently from how you see them, but your view is accurate and theirs is inaccurate.

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Dyslexia - the good news and the bad news...

steven-spielberg-dyslexiaUPDATE: I have some underachiever friends and students. I suspect that they may have dyslexia. It just occurred to me... after two excruciatingly difficult conversations in a row... where the partners in the conversation felt stuck, dense, and their level of comprehension is low.

Both are men, both are making a living in their own business, both shy away from learning anything new.

It is one of the worst things for me when I try to teach someone something that they need, and they nod and yes me to death, only to do the opposite or nothing.

Every human wants to make a difference, wants to matter, more than anything, and this flies in the face of that...

But maybe they are dyslexic. Hm.

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Judgment: What is judgment? what is it really? The whole picture...


Update: When we are on a lower level of consciousness, we think it is all about us. What we do, what other people say, our results... everything. So our "self" is always in danger of falling off its pedestal, and we feel that with it we die.

The reason: we can't tell, we don't even think, that we and our actions are not the same. We can't see that we do something, and the results of those actions don't change who we are... there is no real connection. The results are the results, you are you, no connection. Continue reading "Judgment: What is judgment? what is it really? The whole picture..."

Many people grieve continuously. What do you grieve for? Is it grief or is it depression?

grieving lossBelieve it or not, grieving1 is ALWAYS for what could have been. For the loss of a future.

Whether it is in a relationship, or adventure, or riches, or living a fulfilled life. Opportunities missed, a life missed.

If feels like an occasional hiccup like desire to weep, hiccup from a deep sorrow base.
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  1. from Wikipedia: Grief is a multifaceted response to loss, particularly to the loss of someone or something that has died, to which a bond or affection was formed. Although conventionally focused on the emotional response to loss, it also has physical, cognitive, behavioral, social, spiritual, and philosophical dimensions. While the terms are often used interchangeably, bereavement refers to the state of loss, and grief is the reaction to loss, along with nostalgic longing for something or someone that probably won't return.

    Grief is a natural response to loss. It is the emotional suffering one feels when something or someone the individual loves is taken away. Grief is also a reaction to any loss. The grief associated with death is familiar to most people, but individuals grieve in connection with a variety of losses throughout their lives, such as unemployment, ill health or the end of a relationship. Loss can be categorized as either physical or abstract, the physical loss being related to something that the individual can touch or measure, such as losing a spouse through death, while other types of loss are abstract, and relate to aspects of a person’s social interactions. []

When Creativity Is Not Flowing... How Did I Unstuck Myself From a Rut?

creativity dried up stuck I haven't written much, haven't produced much of anything of creative nature on this site for a few weeks now.

What's my insight?

I mean, it is becoming obvious that I am in a rut.

I am the unstuck specialist so let's take this "rut" apart, tear it to pieces, so we can choose an effective unstuck method.

Like any "operation" for change, this needs to start with assessing the situation and diagnosis.

Of course when I diagnose it in my head, it goes real fast, but for the sake of teaching something, I'll do it step by step, so when you get to any situation needing a "surgery" you can do it on your own.

So: what is the fact? I don't feel like writing, I have no desire, no creative juices, I just want to be left alone. (lol) Continue reading "When Creativity Is Not Flowing... How Did I Unstuck Myself From a Rut?"

Will Practicing Compassion Make You A Better Human Being?

compassion, an entirely human god qualityHow To Raise Your Vibration? Become A Better Human Being, Practice Compassion

What is good: the definition

The first question that you should ask when I suggest you become a better human being, is "what do you mean: better?"

So far I have never had anyone ask that question. Why is that? Because we live our lives based on assumptions.

One assumption is that we fully understand the meaning of the words we hear.

As a foreigner I learned every single word. And struggled mightily with five-dollar words that describe a better human being.

I came to the USA when I was 38 years old. I had 29 years of academic study under my belt. I had read thousands of books. I had watched hundreds of movies. I spoke 4 languages fluently, and 3 more badly. Continue reading "Will Practicing Compassion Make You A Better Human Being?"

What Is The Technology to Change Your Future?

change your futureWhen you track your current path on the map you will notice that it has a trend. The exact way you can tell from a short section of rails the direction they are heading. If you tell the truth, where that path is heading is not where you want to go... So what is there to do to change your future?

Let's use the map of the United States for the sake of the visuals among you.

tools to change your futureIf you want to build a railroad from where you are to let's say Seattle, what are the important things you need to know?

  1. Where exactly are you?
  2. What is the terrain like between where you are and Seattle?
  3. What are the means that you can use to build your rail?

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The Wall, The Ladder, and Your Life's Purpose: How do you get Guidance from The Soul?

guidance from the soulMany people walk around with an immense amount of knowledge. Yet, in their professional life, they jump from one thing to the other. They're directionless because they zigzag. They go to this direction and then they go to that direction and they go in the third direction and then they return to the first one, and on and on it goes.

That's how my life looked for years after I finished publishing the magazine and this is how my friend's life looks.

He's my chiropractor friend. He has a business, he's a chiropractor. He has been a chiropractor for 23 years. He knows a lot about how to adjust people. He has added energy work and Ayurveda but his heart isn't into it.

So he publishes a newsletter, he does self-improvement work, he volunteers, he follows a guru, he goes to India, he goes to ski, he does all kinds of things. He even recorded an audio-book for me,  but after all this doing, you can see, that he has no direction, he has no path.

He has a lot of knowledge, a lot of possibilities, but no direction, no 'Guidance from The Soul.' Just restlessness, and a sense that it's all fun, and it's all good, but it isn't going anywhere.

Here is this little story that may shed some light to what's missing for him, and what may be missing for you.

In this story the job is to put a ladder next to a wall and that is the job to do. The manager gets the workers put up the tall ladder and then they are working for instructions to what to do next. Except that they put up the ladder against the wrong wall. What happened?

The idea came to put up the ladder, but the wall wasn't specified. It should have come, but there was no leader...

The leader is the person who decides on the specific wall. The manager is the middleman who makes the workers put up the ladder against the correct wall, and the workers are the people who do the work.

When we are talking about your life's work, or your life purpose, your path: who is the leader, who is the manager, and who is the worker?

The What, The How, The Who of achievement: Guidance from The Soul

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