Being judged

We are judged all the time. Justly, unjustly, the feeling of being judged is familiar to all of us... and some of us is bothered and paralyzed by it more than others.

What's painful in being judged is that the judgment contains a kernel of truth (or more) and the other part is the judging themselves: in judging they place themselves above us... simply unbearable to the sensitive Precious "I".

This story is about my very recent "bout" with being judged... and shows what is on the other side of judgment... how to free yourself from it so it doesn't sting quite that much... maybe not even at all.

OK, here we go:

If you've known me for a while, you know that I don't do housework, or really shamefully little. Continue reading "Being judged"

There is a secret switch at 200 vibration… so secret you miss it unless you are told fact, without that secret switch you can't really get to 200 vibration, and if by accident (siphoning someone else's energy) you got there... you'll lose it... because to get to 200 and stay there... you need this capacity...

Everyone has a good firm suggestion what is the most important spiritual capacity of a person who'll go far... very far, or at least as far as experiencing the good life goes...

Because the good life is not very far... no matter what anyone says.

The main difference between someone who is living the good, the excellent life, and someone who is struggling, trying to get to the good life is not on the outside. Continue reading "There is a secret switch at 200 vibration… so secret you miss it unless you are told"

How To Stay Broke Forever

If you ever wondered where guidance comes from, here is a great example, from about 10 minutes ago.

In an email conversation, one of my "interns" was commiserating with me... because the refrigerator died again, and this time there is no excuse: it needs to be replaced.

But... in order to bring in a new one, I have to push stuff aside, clean the old one from now rotting stuff... and I feel very weak to even contemplate doing it.

So she says (my intern): "and everything feels heavy when you're weak."

Lucky formulation of a sentence... because it woke me up. This, what she says, is true across the board. It is true in the physical realm, and it is even more true in the "psychological" realm: if you feel weak you'll do little.

And most people feel weak all the time. Their intellectual and physical exercise is from the car to the grocery store, or from the couch to the refrigerator. Continue reading "How To Stay Broke Forever"

Without the Big Bundle I would be…

Some 10 days ago I ate some food from my suddenly broken refrigerator.

I was on a coaching call, so I was distracted. Turns out the meat was tainted and I fell ill.

Not your usual bacterial type of food poisoning where you get diarrhea and maybe vomit... no, this one was from dead bacteria... And it promptly proceeded to destroy my intestines.

Have you ever seen roaster red peppers? The charred skin over the succulent flesh of the pepper?

Imagine this happening in your intestines... and unless you can remove the charred skin, unless you can keep the "flesh" from being eaten alive, you are going to die.

Of course no sane medical doctor would know what to do with that, or even that this is what was happening, without cutting you open, and killing you by exposing that virgin "flesh" to pathogens. Continue reading "Without the Big Bundle I would be…"

How do you know what’s important to you?

How do you know what's important to you?

Just look at your actions. Words are cheap. Only what you do counts, only what you do testifies about what is important to you.

Do all actions count? Talking, thinking, watching videos?

Only to a certain degree.

One of the people who have inspired me for many years is Werner Erhard, despite his many shortcomings.

What did he do?

He had hundreds of projects at different stages of development. Some were just ideas, others were ready to run on their own without much input from him.

What he did is this: he "injected" some energy, with some action, into each of them, at least a few times a week.

Tiny actions. None taking longer than two minutes of his time. Continue reading "How do you know what’s important to you?"

What do you need to learn to become a Self?

No one looks at Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs as showing you what you need to work on next.

And given that only a minuscule percentage of the population ever reaches the higher levels of the needs, that is a stupid thing to do.

You don't automatically advance to the higher levels, no matter how much "high" desire you have, no matter how empty you feel, how locked in you feel, how much you hate that you are meek, or abused, or have no freedom.

It takes work, courage, and ingenuity. f... RIGHT?

Ingenuity? You surely don't have that. You can argue, you can fight, you can yell, you can complain, you can run away... but ingenuity? Not something you engage in. Continue reading "What do you need to learn to become a Self?"

What is the difference between identity and Self? Do you have a Self?

Let's talk about identification a little more... the identification that gives you the illusion that you are a person, but in fact it what is standing between you and becoming a person.

So what is a person? A person is someone who has a consciousness, a Self, that guides their actions, their relationship to life. When you ask: who is he? show is she? what comes up is not what they do for a living, what awards they won, how well or poorly they do their job... but something deeper and constant... They are that everywhere, on the job, in the public, in the bedroom... everywhere.

If you identify yourself with stuff on the periphery of your being, on the horizontal plane, what you say about yourself, what you want people to know is that you have won an Emmy, three time...

Or that you have had HIV for twenty years going
Or that you are gay
Or that you are black

And alas, it leaves you with no Self. The stuff you identify with has no consciousness, and have no defining power on your character.

Let's do a little quiz: Which of these people/characters have a self?

Continue reading "What is the difference between identity and Self? Do you have a Self?"

Awareness… When you are here… be here. But you aren’t…

If you found out in which quadrant you chose to live in, beauty, truth, goodness or power... and now try to argue, or you are worried, or you are resigned... consider that you are just doing what you are doing: you want to be where you are not... or more precisely: you never what to be where you are, you never what to think what you are thinking, you never want to feel what you are feeling.

So you do what you are doing, think what you are thinking, feel what you are feeling only so-so... A student of mine coined the phrase: in the neighborhood of truth.

If you can't physically stop doing what you are doing, etc. then you withdraw into the cave of your mind, and languish there.

It is a safe prison... more like a tomb. You don't have to be with yourself.

Why don't you want to be with yourself? Because when you look into yourself, you find evil inclination, you find ugly, and ultimately you find empty. Not empty as in nothing, but an abyss. You get scared and you run back to your periphery, where it is so busy, you don't have time to even contemplate that there is nothing inside... that there is no you.

One of the big interruptions, potentially, are the times when you get sick.

When you are sick, your job is to be sick. And be sick. Allow the body to do the work, it is equipped, 90% of the time, to do the work with proper nutrition, proper hydration and no medication, not even herbal. Continue reading "Awareness… When you are here… be here. But you aren’t…"

How did you end up in the quadrant of Beauty, Truth, Goodness, or Power?

How? You choose it... and you choose it by your early life experience.

Of course, it is not what happens to you, but what you say about is, is what is your life experience. And it is influenced by your intangible capacities, even at that early age.

Let's see an example or comparing two similar incidents, with two different choices.

  • Little boy wants to go left in the street, parents want to go home, which is straight... parents go straight, little boy is left on the corner.
  • Little girl goes too slow for mother's taste, or maybe she is running late. But the mother decides to go ahead at her own pace, and leaves the little girl in the street.

Obviously both kids were picked up and taken home.

  • The boy said: there is no truth. I have no power. I have to manipulate them better... I will choose beauty.
  • The girl said: I am heavy, I am worthless... I choose goodness. I don't need to be carried. I'll go it alone if I must.

Continue reading "How did you end up in the quadrant of Beauty, Truth, Goodness, or Power?"

Compounding interest… the secret of exponential growth…

There is a controversial saying by Charlie Munger, who said: to get what you want, you need to deserve what you want.

This is controversial, because the verb, deserve, is bastardized in our culture. What he should have said:

to have a chance to get what you want, you need to earn what you want. And then say: to earn what you want, you need to become the person who can earn what they want.

And this last sentence is what this article is about: the kind of person who can earn what they want.

One common thread that I notice among my clients and students is that they let their life hang on one or maybe two activities, which is not to be the kind of person who can earn what they want. Continue reading "Compounding interest… the secret of exponential growth…"