Self-Discipline and Brilliance: what is the connection?

I wrote this article in 2013… My self-discipline/attention was 10% then. I have grown since then, but what I write here is still OK… although I have found conation not being innate…

It is still worth reading.

Brilliance: what is it, and how is it connected to the Original Design, your vibration, and your worldview?

If you have been borderline a failure, but you think you are smart, this may be the article that you need to find your brilliance and your power to act on it.

I play the Self-Discipline Avatar State audio in the background. 24/7.

I am dealing with several issues, among others I eat the way a chain smoker smokes: from the moment I get up till the moment I go go bed. There is always something in my mouth, food, or tea, or water. It is a defense mechanism to the onslaught of feelings I have difficulty dealing with, given that they have nothing to do with me, they come from other people.

I would like to restrict my eating to a few hours a day. Why? To demonstrate my power over my behavior. And I could use dropping a few pounds, eh, about 10 or so. I am having the hardest time, though with the self-discipline audio it is a tad easier. I have already dropped 10 lbs, that’s why I have only 10 more to go.

Yesterday I had an insight:

conative_peoplethe self-discipline audio activates the self first, and then it activates your ability to learn new things, new ways of being, new ways of doing thing. I have no idea what that means to you, but I’ll tell you what I have been noticing.

I am a quick-start by nature, shoot first, no thinking.

A jumping jack. I have been taming it, or better said, I have been trying to tame it. It cuts an awful lot of work out when I take a moment or two to look first. Not look and look and think and think, just look. Much like in PhotoReading, you don’t quite look at the pages, you look behind them, and make your eyes fuzzy.

What sees the pages is not your conscious mind, it is your ‘other than conscious mind‘ and it is faster than your conscious mind by far. It is very different from what you call ‘mind’, the other than conscious mind doesn’t try to understand or evaluate, or compare, or opinionate about what it sees, it just gets it, it just sees it and that’s it. This is what I always ask you to use on my live calls, so far to no avail 🙁

When I can successfully nudge myself to look at what’s in front of me that way, the inner guidance, the inner knowing gets really strong, and I can do no wrong…

But my soul correction is trust based, specifically: I have no trust  🙁

So I need to nudge myself to look before I leap.

The interesting thing I see is that I don’t need to change myself, I only need to sneak in that brief moment of not-looking-type-looking, the other than conscious mind looking, so I don’t jump into the rocks or an empty swimming pool.

What does this have to do with brilliance? A whole lot.

In my definition, brilliance is being guided by that ‘other than conscious’ that knows it all. But it can only do its work when you know and honor your base nature.

Kathy Kolbe calls your base nature your conation. Conation is your motive power. It just works differently in all of us.

Your conative energy, your native and unchangable nature of how you get things done, how you solve problems, is largely ignored in today’s science, behavioral psychology, business training, everywhere.

Every person thinks that every other person on the planet is like them, from the point of view of how to solve things. Big mistake.

Education, formal education forces you to use a conative energy, a strength that you may not have. Your family, your workplace, they all force you to be differently than you are. That includes your coaches, your guidance counselor, your psychiatris, your case worker.

Kathy Kolbe created four clear classes for this innate energy. These are the classes:

conativeconnection1. Fact Finder
2. Follow Through
3. Quick Start
4. Implementer

Inside these classes you can be
a. Insistent
b. Accommodating
c. Resistant

You can be anywhere on this insistent-resistant continuum in any of the four classes… not the same in all four classes.

If we said that you have 20 units of creative energy, that is what you have to work with, you distribute that 20 units of energy according to your conative nature… and you are best performing when you are allowed to chose tasks and jobs and methods that closely match your nature.

I am a quick-start by nature, and I have a mild resistance/I am barely accommodating in most other modes: I can use them, but I don’t enjoy using them. I don’t enjoy research, I don’t enjoy follow up and systematization, and definitely don’t enjoy creating stuff, including videos, models, charts, etc. That’s why I hated architecture, by the way. For 22 years… lol.

Now, if you are having difficulty getting started in any new thing, if you think fear is stopping you, if you live a life of quiet desperation, then just knowing how you roll, so to say, knowing your Kolbe index, is a lifesaver and a potential turning point.

I have a lot of students who think that they are procrastinators. When you think of yourself as a procrastinator, you hate yourself. You despise yourself, You can’t have high self-esteem, self-respect. You think you should be different, that you are all wrong, and you despair.

If you are one of these people, I recommend two things: start using the self-discipline activator, and after a while you will feel the pull of the self, to start doing things your way. Because your way works for you. Because your way is where there is the most harmony between your nature and your actions.

And if you want an even faster path, to know what is your nature, order your Kolbe Conative Index, the A index. The site, kolbe.com has a ton of information.

Once you buy it, book a 15-minute session with me… I’ll help you understand it… to the best of my knowledge.

It’s hard to be silently brilliant, lots of thought occur when you open your mouth…

Make sure you send me the four digit konan number you got, example 4493. That is mine…

Why is awareness the predictor of future success, why not skills or knowledge?

shearling-coat-2The first few steps in the 67 steps are long, rich, convoluted audios. Why? Because no matter how long the audio, you’ll only get one little thing, if that, because the cone of vision of your awareness is as wide as a pencil.

Did I notice, did I take in all he spoke about my first time around doing the 67 steps? No. I didn’t.

It is like traveling in a car. If you look out the window, you miss the conversation in the car. If you take part in the conversation in the car, you miss the whole trip. If you read, if you are hungry…

The goal is to expand the cone of awareness so it’s wide. So you can see the view, partake in the conversation, and maybe even be hungry…

Now, that is, increasing your awareness is the goal… but how does it effect success?

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Theta Mode training… first take

2009I have been under the weather… mainly because of withdrawal symptoms after I stopped drinking milk. Lost my voice…

But I promised to make a video, so made a first take… not very good, but it will hold you over until I feel better and record the real training.

I am also planning on doing a webinar or two, to check if the instructions are working for you… so wait for the announcement, probably will do the first this coming weekend.

OK, here comes the video
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The Pleasure Principle and winning in life

tumblr_ni0hxucPbU1u23a8fo1_1280Psychology, as a science and as a practice has some tools: Observation and brain scans.

But the problem with either is that the human element, the interpreter between what is being seen, their mindset, their attitude, their approach, is crucial.

But, of course, this is true everywhere, except with psychologists, we expect them to interpret what they observe accurately… except they don’t. As a rule.

And then there are some outliers… like Freud. Continue reading “The Pleasure Principle and winning in life”

No One Is A Prophet In Their Own Land, in their family

Passover and Easter around, you’ll spend time with family. You’ll see examples of “No One Is A Prophet In Their Own Land.”

You’ll be on both sides… by the way. But if you are one of my students, you will feel that you have something to teach your family: and no one will be interested. Get prepared!

In fact they will try to discourage you from continuing to pursue what you pursue when you spend time with me or my writing.

I’ve been teaching the Original Design for five years.

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The feeling that you are insufficient for the task that is in front of you

3052758966_aff579c03d_zThis feeling can be colored by fear, dread, can feel like anxiety, but at the root of most fear is a sense that you are insufficient for the task that is in front of you.

Not big enough, not smart enough, not fast enough… Not enough = insufficient.

Now, for most people, feeling this is all they need to run for the hills.

For some people, they can hang in there, waiting for the feeling to subside.

For some people, unless they feel up to the task, they won’t even start.

For me: I know that unless I feel that and go beyond it, doing what I don’t feel I can, several times a day, I am not growing.

to your computer… Link at the end of the article

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Updated: Why are there so many fake gurus?

I had an interesting insight today.

Recently a man from Switzerland came to the site, bought some of my energy audios, and even came to a call. Although his vibration was very low, he had interesting ideas, and I was excited to work with him.

Today he wrote me  a “Dear John” email, saying

Sophie, …you probably wondered why I did not attend the seminar yesterday.

when trying to connect, my computer refused the connection. this expresses a change of mind I felt yesterday.

I knew, that this path is not for me. therefore I will sign off , thank you for accepting.

I also thank you for a life-changing week and wish you the very best

I felt grief, pain, sadness, and allowed it to just be there… I felt that this incident is going to take me to a place I hadn’t seen before.

And it did… here is what I saw:

to your computer… Link at the end of the article

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Second Wind: Abilities or effort? The role of effort

second windEveryone can get to the good life, but not everyone will get to the good life. Why? Because not everyone is willing to do what they need to do to get to the good life.
Tai Lopez said that. What he didn’t say: you need to go beyond where you are comfortable, so you’ll need a second wind.

And it is true on certain conditions. Continue reading “Second Wind: Abilities or effort? The role of effort”

What will it take for you to change?

8837c29244da8a55f79f9377b28b36deWhat is learning? (If in spite of all your efforts to learn, change, become a winner, you haven’t succeeded, this is an article you need to read! You’ll find out why nothing has worked… )

There are two kinds of “learning”,

  1. one is what you’ve been considering learning: information added to your mind
  2. the other is through doing, looking, examination…

If you were good in school, then you were probably good in the first kind… live in your mind, in a narrow cone of vision way. You do life the same way… because how you do anything is how you do everything…

Your vibration is really low, even though you think you are really smart.

But vibration is most correlated with how wide your cone of vision is, how many questions you ask, how much you see.
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What is the bane of your existence? What kills your joy?

life-is-either-a-daring-adventure-or-nothing-5What is the bane of your existence? What kills your life? Your joy, your fulfillment, the love in your heart?

It is everyday arrogance.

What is everyday arrogance? It is simple, and so everywhere, all the time, that it is invisible.

You see something. You hear something. And you know what it means. Continue reading “What is the bane of your existence? What kills your joy?”