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What is self-awareness?Is it feeling what you feel, thinking what you think, doing what you do, and knowing you are feeling, thinking, doing that?
I think self-awareness is beyond that. self-awareness is a positional shift for the self that is aware. Positional meant in a physical sense, in a physical movement of the vantage point.
This morning my main computer quietly died.
Times like this are the real tests whether the capacities are working or not.
Suddenly I had no access to anything that is on that computer, not the data, not the software, and I had a few choices: go crazy, go out of business, or bring resiliency, aka mental toughness to carry the day.
It’s Tuesday, and a few minutes after the death of my trusty computer, I went downstairs and to my weekly outing to the chiropractor and to the grocery store.
These excursions, the conversations with Sarah, the woman who drives me, and my chiropractor, could have been opportunities for complaining, and although I shared it with both, and both offered their help, I said thank you, and continued with the day like nothing happened.
I managed not to drag the issue to areas where it didn’t belong.
Continue reading “Swim or sink… do or die”
Did you know that every revolution has been, historically, just a re-shuffling of who is going to have power over who?
When I first read Osho’s book, Rebellion, Revolution and Religiousness, I actively worked on understanding.
In Hungary we learned a lot more history than American students do, and I personally have seen revolution, and reform and all that never changed anything on the long run.
It’s like making a dish, turning it on a plate… and thinking that now it’s different. No. it is the same dish… just what was on the bottom is now on the top. Continue reading “Activism, reforms, revolution… a timely inquiry”
I have been leading a webinar for quite a while, and it has always been brilliant, both to participate in and to lead.
It has always delivered on the promise:
It’s worked for years… and this past weekend it didn’t.
I have now spent hours looking, and finally I see it. I see what happened. I see what I did differently. I missed the most important job of the workshop… Continue reading “Only failures, only mistakes teach you anything useful”
While writing this article, unexpectedly, I managed to break through a self-imposed barrier I have had… It’s unexpected… Bear with me till the end, please…
In this step of the What’s Missing workshop, the participants’ task is to look at an area of life that isn’t working as well as it could… and look how it will look in 5-10 years if nothing changes.
Rule is: You won’t change your actions… or how you do your actions. You won’t change your attitude…
Result 5-10 years later: homeless, fired, alone, dead, in jail…
These are just examples. Some results are worse than this. Unfulfilled is the worst…
Turns out that the saying, the observation that ‘how you do anything is how you do everything’ finds its roots in this exercise.
Continue reading “One step of the what’s missing workshop is sobering. As in a horrible wake up call…”
People ask: what is the spiritual practice, the spiritual work that allowed me to climb up to the skinny branches of the Tree of Life, and allowed so many spiritual capacities to turn on? To raise my vibration…
All these years I’ve been asked, and all these years I didn’t know what to answer. I didn’t know what to suggest that you do, that I did, until this morning.
This morning, while and after I was leading the workshop “What’s missing” I realized something profound:
Life is not set up to challenge you to turn on new capacities. The box you live in has no room for new capacities, and offers no challenges.
So how are you going to grow?
You can learn to swim by being thrown to the deep end of the pool, and it’s life or death… sink or swim. Not a pleasant experience, and will probably scare you away from swimming again, for life.
This is when the need for a new capacity is thrown at you. You are unprepared, and you are not at your best… because of fear. Incoherent, and reactive.
It is too late to dig a well when you are thirsty… and it is too late to summon empathy, or courage, or resiliency, or other capacities when you need it, unless you already have it.
This is how it works with capacities.
Continue reading “What is the spiritual work I did to raise my vibration? You can do it too…”
In my inquiries, I find that more and more capacities that I’ve assumed we all have, it turns out, we don’t.
The question that has been puzzling me is why certain ethnic groups that were persecuted at any one time don’t recognize a similarly persecuted other ethnic group as comrades in suffering. Why one victim can’t and won’t give you a hoot about another victim’s misery.
I mostly see this in movies nowadays, but I used to participate in groups and in big seminars, so I have been seeing this forever.
But this was the first time I asked the question: why is this?
Are these bad people? And I guess that is what I have been stuck with until yesterday.
Yesterday I asked the question: is it a capacity to see the same fate in another?
The answer was yes. Hm… but then what is the capacity? Is it the seeing or is it the appreciating of it?
Continue reading “Empathy… Life’s most important capacity to master”
Why is it that the tangerine technique works for some and doesn’t for others?
Why is it that PhotoReading works for some people and not to others?
The culture says that we are all the same, and therefore, THEREFORE! we should get the same results form what we learn to do.
Hogwash.
If that were the case, we would all be Einsteins.
You are like a dull knife, a sharp knife or a surgical knife… do you think the three knives will cut the same?
No.
But even people with the same measured IQ will fare differently.
Why? Because there is more to life than the measurable IQ.
Continue reading “Tangerine Technique, Tangerine Method: can you hack it? Can you do it? Will it work for you?”
When I owned the magazine I published for 10 years, I was looking to hire an assistant.
One of the test assignments I gave to the applicant is to sort the stuff in a junk drawer. I gave them no pointers… it was a big drawer, a lot of things to sort.
Every single applicant failed to find something relevant to sort by. I finally hired a girl who was nice, but useless…
Sorting is a life skill. Deciding on a relevant criteria to sort by is a life skill.
I learned life-skills in Landmark Education.
Previously I was like a nerd, an idiot savant.
One of the life-skill I learned is to be able to keep to what is relevant, to what belongs to the conversation.
In meetings at Landmark Education, they choose a “conversation manager”.
The two jobs of the conversation manager is to
I am always dumbfounded by people’s inability to see what belongs to a conversation.
Continue reading “Hijacking the conversation… inside and outside”
