When you can’t seem to attain your new years resolutions…
When you have a hammer, everything looks like a nail
I have a better “hammer” for you: it has worked for my multi-millionaire mentor, it will work for you.
What to do when all you know fails you? When the hammers don’t work, and you can’t seem to attain your goals?
I was on a radio show today. I was the “minor” guest, and as such, I did not prepare: I wanted to stay present to the conversation the “major” guest had with the radio host, so I can add my 2 cents worth, instead of taking the show to a different place. Continue reading “Got New Years Resolutions?”
How To Beat Depression Without Medication
You Can Beat Depression… if you recognize it as depression
I found this article when I searched for the phrase “beat depression.”
Many of us are depressed. Depression can be low-grade or raging… I am most interested in the low-grade depression, it is easier to beat depression that is low-grade without medication.
The writer of this article uses valid arguments for self-management, but misses a lot of factors, like what did he do, exactly, that allowed him to beat depression to begin with.
He says he took responsibility for his feeling down and out, ad he kicked the medications… so far so good.
But what he isn’t saying is that depression is a sign of something.
What is it a sign of? In my experience, as a once depressed person (for 40 years!) I have noticed a few common characteristics with my coaching clients.
- I lacked desire.
- I was not happy with myself
- I could not see myself clearly doing what I thought I wanted to do… the picture was there like fuzzy patches, but not like a movie.
So, how do you get out of these three interconnected and synergistic (negatively) states of mind?
I think that the easiest is to start with number 2.
Why? Because it is easier go get happy(er) with yourself, especially because you need energy for the other two, and having a good feeling about yourself will give you energy.
You can also start really small, like doing something that you consider hard to do, but still doable, like
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Feel Good About Yourself
Keep Your New Year Resolution? they say they are broken so often, they seem to be made to be broken.
Here is an article that I’d like you to read if your overall sense of life and your important areas of life is that they are stressful, and that you are never getting ahead. When you re-evaluate your projects with the method taught in this article, you will feel good about yourself, because you will keep more of your resolutions.
The method in this article can make a huge difference, and the time it takes is very small compared to you being stuck for a long-long time.
Joe (not his real name) made a new year resolution to stop smoking. He set the date, and he made a plan. Then he started to implement his plan. The plan was to gradually cut down. Then he kept on smoking.
We had our usual coaching call on Wednesday at noon. I asked: what would you like to accomplish in this call?
Joe started to talk about his weight… that one day he lost a pound, the other he gained 2… He weighed himself upon awakening every day, and he was mortified at the up and down nature of his daily weight. He was spending a lot of time worrying about that, he confessed.
Continue reading “How to Keep Your New Year Resolution So You Can Feel Good About Yourself?”
Many people walk around with an immense amount of knowledge. Yet, in their professional life, they jump from one thing to the other. They’re directionless because they zigzag. They go to this direction and then they go to that direction and they go in the third direction and then they return to the first one, and on and on it goes.
That’s how my life looked for years after I finished publishing the magazine and this is how my friend’s life looks.
He’s my chiropractor friend. He has a business, he’s a chiropractor. He has been a chiropractor for 23 years. He knows a lot about how to adjust people. He has added energy work and Ayurveda but his heart isn’t into it.
So he publishes a newsletter, he does self-improvement work, he volunteers, he follows a guru, he goes to India, he goes to ski, he does all kinds of things. He even recorded an audio-book for me, but after all this doing, you can see, that he has no direction, he has no path.
He has a lot of knowledge, a lot of possibilities, but no direction, no ‘Guidance from The Soul.’ Just restlessness, and a sense that it’s all fun, and it’s all good, but it isn’t going anywhere.
Here is this little story that may shed some light to what’s missing for him, and what may be missing for you.
Continue reading “The Wall, The Ladder, and Your Life’s Purpose: How do you get Guidance from The Soul?”
What’s your purpose in life?
I hear this question and derivations like “what’s my purpose in life?” “What was I meant to do with my life?” etc.
We, human beings, want to do the right thing. It feels that if we did that, then all ADD, all restlessness, all depression, all jumping-around and inconsistent behavior would disappear.
We would joyfully do what we are meant to do, finish what we start, jump our of bed with eagerness, right?
Only if we just could find the one thing we are supposed to do. Be certain, stop doubting ourselves, settle down…
Now, though this is almost the truth, it is not the whole truth, and there is also a lie hidden in its midst.
What? you ask, shocked. You are pulling the rug from under my feet! I thought that the moment I find out… life will be bliss. Continue reading “What’s your purpose in life?”
Wretched = (of a person) in a very unhappy or unfortunate state.
“It’s not enough that I should succeed — others should fail.” David Merrick
or how to be wretched, be on the competitive plane and be miserable, succeed or fail… Desire for the self alone
According to Kabbalah, the Light can give you anything, as long as it doesn’t already belong to someone… The Light will not take away something from someone to give it to YOU.
Context, Mindset, Backdrop… why should you care?
This is going to be a mind-bender, and at the end of it you’ll come up a lot smarter, and with a lot more power over your life… interested?
It is all about mindset! Context is decisive… and what the heck is a backdrop?
Let’s start with backdrop. Why? Because it’s the easiest to see what’s going on.
I say that the backdrop is more important than what happens in the foreground.
- Someone says something to you and you are hurt.
- Your boss assigns someone else to an important assignment.
- Your experiment at making money with your first product is a flop.
- You continually have trouble and emergency in your life.
The above statements are the foreground.
Depending on your mental attitude (mindset) you say it’s bad, or it’s good, or you have no opinion.
So far so good… are you still with me? Good. Continue reading “Context, Mindset, Backdrop… why should you care?”
Do you feel stuck? Are you trying to do everything but you still are stuck at the miserable place instead of where you are your best?
If so, you are not alone.
One of my clients used to be in constant survival.
He could see that he wasn’t doing what he really wanted to do with his life.
He knew he loved to learn. He knew he loved to be in conversations about deep issues where he could distinguish, for himself and another what they were looking at, deeply, precisely and in a way that it altered life. He loved that.
And he loved teaching.
These were the activities he loved to do, and he hoped that people would, at some point, pay for it. Continue reading “Do You Feel Stuck?”
Stuck in a rut? Would you like to find your way out?
First off: You are not alone.
My coaches, mentors, teachers, friends, and clients are stuck too, from time to time.
Take one of my teachers: she has been dealing with some downward spirals, that completely felt as something that has no solution.
Their expensive, and almost brand new RV suddenly needed major repair, and the funds weren’t there.
To add insult to injury, there started to be some legal issues, then health issues… so it looked bleak, and devastating.
In our conversation I went through a series of tools I have in my tool-box… and when I got to the question: do you know the 9-dot exercise, the light bulb went off for my teacher, and she came up with a solution that, if not solved it, made the situation bearable.
So what is this tool box, and what do the 9 dots mean? How can YOU use this to get out of a predicament, a situation that seems to have no solution:
Continue reading “Stuck in a rut? Would you like to find your way out?”
Regrets, I’ve had a few … .How many of us are stuck in ruts because we cling to past slights, traumas, missed opportunities, and betrayals? The best way to let go and move forward is to acknowledge and accept those negative things you did (or had done to you) as steps on the path that brought you to where you need to be today.
Today, recall the pain of your past. Allow yourself to get to the point where you can accept that they were blessings; the perfect things that helped you build a new you. If you can release your grip on the anger, sadness, and regret, then it will be easier to spot the Light in the darkness. (quoted from daily kabbalah tuneup)
Interesting that this would come up just now.
I am working with a client/friend, let’s call her DD. She has been doing great. She has gotten in touch with the light in herself and her power to choose.
She is severely overweight and it’s effecting her overall health, but effects more than anything, her self image. Continue reading “Regrets, Resentments, and other vicious Life-Killers”