Resistance, ego, and meaning… the dynamics of your suffering, and misery explained

laugh with them at yourselfFeedback is a 13th floor (Tree of Life) phenomenon...

If someone mocks you, laugh with them. It is obvious that humans, on the current level of evolution, live in comparison. I am better, smarter, richer, etc. than you/others.

So they mock you, judge you, try to change you. Normal.

You allow your ego to resist: you suffer. You allow your ego to fight back: you suffer.

The best way to deal with it is to laugh with them, agree with them. It takes the wind out of their sail.

All pain, all suffering comes from from your resistance, is the feeling of your own resistance. Continue reading "Resistance, ego, and meaning… the dynamics of your suffering, and misery explained"

Long winter may be the secret of high achievers

dante infernoThis article is about using guidance, but not for its truth value, but in spite of its truth value. 1

Tai's 67 steps program coupled with my coaching is the perfect growth program.

It's not because of me, it is not because of the steps either but because of its structural essence.
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There are tons of gurus, coaches, coaching companies, transformational coaches, etc. None of them has helped you to become happier

There are tons of coaches, coaching companies, transformational coaches, etc.

Bloggers teaching you tools of success, tools of happiness, etc.

Tons of books... courses... programs.

I have known for a long time that when people followed what was taught they would end up unhappier than they were before. I have tested it, observed it, and have pondered it.

But why?

There are two sides to teaching:

  • 1. Where its ground of being is, i.e. where it's coming from 1
  • 2. Where it is received from... where the recipient is when listening... the recipient's ground of being.

It's tricky. Continue reading "There are tons of gurus, coaches, coaching companies, transformational coaches, etc. None of them has helped you to become happier"

Why I am not interested in healing, but very interested in getting you well?

Healing should mean "getting you well", and on the 13th floor of your being: it is.

But humanity lives on the 14th and the 15th floor... the Tree of Knowledge, and there healing means something entirely different. It means that someone who is a "healer" does woowoo and then whatever was bothering you goes away.

Not going to happen. But people are seeking healing, want to be healers, so I am changing the words... and of course a ton of people who this way can keep on dreaming.

I changed my site's heading from healing to "getting you well" and the quality of the people changed DRAMATICALLY! Who would have thought? I was guided to change... but I surely didn't expect that I was going to rid myself of the wannabe's and the secondhanders.

The words sound similar, but the meaning, the emotional meaning in today's "culture" is vastly different.

The only thing that can heal your body is your body itself.
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A feeble attempt to go to the 13th floor where words don’t have emotional meaning

When we live on the 14th and the 15th floor of our being, where words and the added emotional content govern our lives, we are utterly miserable. We have no control over our emotions: others have, words have.

We eat the menu, not the meal. We chase worthless and useless temporary "values"... and we hurt.

We try to rig the system and choose usernames, email handles, passwords to give us better words, but words are words, and the emotional content is added: to make you powerless and miserable... That is the nature of the Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil... that you always end up miserable. Continue reading "A feeble attempt to go to the 13th floor where words don’t have emotional meaning"

The ground of your being

life on the 14th floor: words and more wordsWhen you live on the 14th-15th floors of your being, the ground of your being comes from there too.

Let's first look what is the ground of your being, the floor on which everything is built that is compatible with that floor.

On the 13th floor the ruler is Life. Nature. The Universe. No interpretation. Life, nature, the universe gives you your actions, your attitudes, your interpretation of events.

Virtues live on the 13th floor, because virtues are a Yes to life. Anything gets evaluated by that question: is it a Yes to life or a no to life.

Is it part of the flow, or is it a blockage to the flow. Blockages need to go. Attitudes, needs, wants, habits, activities that are a no to life, that don't fit the flow of life, Nature, the Universe, must go, because it is evil. Against life. Continue reading "The ground of your being"

Can your vibration be high if you live on the Tree of Knowledge, where every word has its emotional load? Can you be free? Can you be happy?

I had a "Talk to Me webinar" yesterday. I have it every month, on the last Wednesday of the month.

This type of webinar is question and answer. I have no agenda. I learn more from unstructured conversations than from lecturing. Or running a workshop. I learn how to teach you, what to deal with, what are the real issues.

This is what I learned yesterday about growing up in the Tree of Knowledge culture, about you growing up:

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The non-physical pain of being devalued…

There is a very interesting phenomenon and I just experienced it full blast.

This is how it goes: I write something. I think I know what i am saying. but hours later it hits me... wow.

So I wrote in my previous article, this morning, that all pain and suffering you experience is experiencing your own resistance... resistance coming from the 14th floor words: "This should not be..."

And most non-physical pain you experience comes from the devaluation of the "I"... or the perceived devaluation... and the feedback that is causing it is resisted.

So, consequently all non-physical pain comes from your resistance to feedback.

OK... I said more or less this... but how true and how general it is just hit me.

Here I am sitting by my computer, wondering when the mailman will arrive today. I have something outgoing...
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What would happen if all the sugar disappeared from Earth, all of a sudden?

This is a thought experiment... one of the good ways to use the brain...

There are millions of bloggers, millions of article writers, millions of products.

They would all be out of business. Because suddenly, without the sugar, you would become a lot healthier, a lot more intelligent.

You would also stop a lot of lying and pretending... the lying and pretending that keeps your inner turmoil constant.

I found out, a few days ago, that one of my clients who wasn't getting well, and swore that she ate according to the rules I set up for her... except I am finding out that she was eating Snickers bars...

Are you kidding? Are you stupid? But if you are kidding: who are you kidding? If you are stupid: who is paying the price? Continue reading "What would happen if all the sugar disappeared from Earth, all of a sudden?"

I never had to really learn it… so how will I teach you to live in reality? The 13th floor

This article will be deemed self-aggrandizing, or something of that sort... and I don't care. Truth is truth...

I am 69 years old.

I have lived, this is a 20/20 hindsight, my entire life on the 13th floor. Two months ago I would not have said that: I didn't know there is such a thing...

Having live there all my life: I am having a real tough time to say how I got there... because I never lived on the 14th or the 15th floor... the 13th floor is reality, based on your sensory organs, not on thought.

My brothers did live on the 14th floor. Both. My father also lived on the 13th floor. My mother didn't. Continue reading "I never had to really learn it… so how will I teach you to live in reality? The 13th floor"