What does reading your email do to you… ok, what does it do to me… A deep look…

I am working on something important to me. In fact two things I have two things I am working on: what I teach and how to put myself in the position to have more people to teach... These are important things to me.

So I get up, as always, shuffle to my computer, make my first come of tea with hemp and butter, and tackle my students' emails...

But then I make a mistake. I look at my email from Medium, and I can feel as I am being dragged away from what is important to me. I am not on the straight and narrow... I am on someone else's agenda.

And although that agenda may be informative, helpful, close to mine... it is still their agenda... and the further I go from what is important to me, the harder it will be to find my way back there.

If you are in the 67 step coaching program, what you said with that, signing up, that what is important to you is becoming all you can be, by doing tiny steps converging in a life worth living.

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How psychologists, writers, gurus, get it wrong… and nobody is happy, including them

I looked at pictures of Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi... who wrote the book Flow, and is an expert on talking about happiness. Not being happy, mind you, on researching happiness.

He doesn't look happy, doesn't feel happy (remember, I am an empath).

I even went and found videos where he speaks Hungarian... hoping to find a picture where he is joyful.

Didn't find any. Not even one.

His insightful quote: "People who learn to control inner experience will be able to determine the quality of their lives, which is as close as any of us can come to being happy." is what was missing for him, and what is missing for most people most of the time. Continue reading "How psychologists, writers, gurus, get it wrong… and nobody is happy, including them"

12 behaviors to weed out to become worth a damn

Becoming worth a damn is what people in my 67 step coaching program are working on. But here is an aspect that is not touched on by Tai Lopez and his 67 steps program.

Being worth a damn is a tricky distinction: there are no guidelines to follow. If you want to be worth a damn, where you want to look is what value other people assign to you, how much respect, support, love, etc. you get from other people.

This is also my first time looking at life through this question, and myself have found two behaviors I haven't eliminated completely, and all the negative social feedback is caused by those. Continue reading "12 behaviors to weed out to become worth a damn"