You look around. Everyone seems to have it better than you. They laugh, they hug, they walk hand in hand, kiss… or have friends who like them… but you? If feels like you have no one, no one cares about you, no one responds well to you… You are not getting enough “strokes”… from others.
A “stroke” (in Transactional Analysis) is a unit of social transaction. A hug. A nod. A smile. A hello, a thank you, a “how are you?”, or an f… you…. these are all social transactions. The more strokes you get the less your spine will shrivel up on you…
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How do you model after a successful person? Do you do what they say? Do you do what you see? It’s about modeling to grow, modeling to become all you can be.
I do both.
I am most interested in their habitual way of thinking, responding, decision making, and attitude.
Sometimes they know themselves, but more often than not they don’t know themselves that well… do not see much into the invisible…
If I see a habit that I want for myself, even if I see it clearly, I still have the difficulty of integrating it… it is not enough to see it.
Integration means it becomes part and parcel with me and my structure. But each habit forces me to find a crack, an opening in my structure, or I won’t be able to integrate it. Continue reading “How do you model after a successful person? Do you do what they say? Do you do what you see?”
I have found this article on the Inc.com website
Some of it is true, some of it was new-agey b.s. So I am culling it… And in some of them I am going to add my two cents worth… for example the pursuit of happiness… I have learned something about that from Ayn Rand that surprised me.
Just one more thing: my students in my coaching program struggle with the concept of principle.
A principle is a fundamental truth or proposition that serves as the foundation for a system of belief or behavior or for a chain of reasoning.
A principle is not something that you just pull out of your, ahem, mind. We all want to be “independent thinkers” but the path to independent thinking is through learning the principles others discovered… precisely, verbatim. So, for our purposes: a principle is quoted from someone a lot smarter than us.
A quote. not rephrased, not your take on it, but a quote. Not every quote is a principle, but every principle is a quote.
These so called truths are not principles. They are the author’s opinions. Don’t honor them as principles… And if you find that your life is based on personal opinions… try to find principles to replace them with. Really. Every single one of them. You’ll thank me for it, guaranteed.
You’ll notice that I am a lot more interested in giving you the principle of principle guidedness… than those brutal truths the guy made up… Sorry guy!
20 Brutal Truths About Life No One Wants to Admit
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I have been writing about methods to raise your vibration: appreciation and gratitude, and now it’s time to write about the easiest method: validation.
To be able to get into the vibration of appreciation (300 on the map of consciousness) or get into the vibration of gratitude (above 300 on the map of consciousness), you would need to be a vibrational match to either, and 99.99% of the population isn’t.
The good news is: the act of validation will temporarily raise your vibration to that same vibrational frequency and that is the vibrational frequency where you can truly activate the Law of Attraction and have your desires be fulfilled. You can start exactly where you are.
If you diligently practice validation, you will be able to keep your vibrational frequency at this high level. You will experience first-hand what having a higher vibration is like: pure bliss. Continue reading “Validation: The Easiest And Fastest Way To Raise Your Vibration. Even If Your Current Vibration Is Low, It Works. Guaranteed!”
Pathways To Gratitude – Acknowledge Source Is A Great Way To Get To Gratitude, And Gratitude Is The Activator Of The Law Of Attraction
The purpose of this article is to introduce to you another way to access and activate the Law of Attraction: Acknowledge Source.
I am not talking about acknowledging the source of a quote… I am talking about acknowledging your source of power and knowledge… the kind of source that requires you to look, recognize and value. It is a purely mindset phenomenon, and a spiritual and life altering distinction.
In this article I will write about the importance to practice your new skills and new mindset, and to acknowledge source. Continue reading “Pathways To Gratitude – Acknowledge Source Is…”
What does it take to attract your desire?
In January, people make resolutions, that address some of their deepest desires.
Weight, relationship and money are the three most frequent wishes, and most of them never go anywhere, no change, and yet another year makes hope lost a little bit more, confidence lost a little bit more, self-esteem lost a little bit more.
Why would this be?
There are many reasons, but I’d like to address one: it takes several inner and outer changes to bring about the capacity to change any of the three main areas.
And because we weren’t told how to change our inner world, little by little, one tiny change at a time, we never actually do it, and unless your inner world, your being changes, your outer world, your weight, your relationships, your money situation can’t change.
Examples to this what happens when there are sudden and unprepared-for changes that came from the outside.
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