It was time for self-reflection today. I am almost done with it.
I have come to the conclusion that it is time to pay attention to what I can control, what is within my control, and give little or no attention to what I can't... where emotions would run high, fear, anger, concern... for me.
I noticed something today about some of the most successful people I know... which might help you…
The quality of your life depends on your overall intelligence... intellect, body intelligence, emotional intelligence, social intelligence, the ability to live a full life, with a range of emotions, and to conquer difficulties, adversities successfully.
When you were a little kid, the whole world looked quite magical. Food appeared out of nothing, people did big things, cakes, birthday gifts, all kinds of big things came out of nothing.
The child thinks that this is the nature of reality: big things from nothing.
No wonder the magical thinking modalities, like manifestation and "law of attraction" are so popular: most of you never changed your world view: you still think that the nature of reality is to jump from one state to the other, create something from nothing...
This was also the secret of Sai Baba, whose whole fame and fortune came from his ability to do sleight of hand magic tricks. Millions fell for it.
When people start working with me, the first thing they learn is that they are not as "good" as they thought. That who they are being is directly responsible for the quality of their lives, not circumstances, not "the other".
I also have people who only want to chat, and leave the call unscathed... unchanged, and I grieve for them.
Because the first step to getting anywhere in life is to get, exactly, precisely, where you are at.
Without delusion. Without regrets. With sober eyes.
What is the relationship between skills, learning new skills, and capacities?
All my life I have been puzzled why perfectly normal people fail at even understanding concepts from certain things, like distinctions, from communication, negotiation, empathy, caring, team work, leadership, responsibility... I could fill this page with examples.
I have had my own issues. One of them is understanding instructions if there is even just one word in the instructions I am not exactly clear what it means, or what the writer means, I can't follow the instructions.
This is probably why, last week, I could not make the first computer I bought work: its one-page instructions sheet was written in a language I did not comprehend, and I didn't trust myself to spend a year or so to learn those concepts so I can have the computer work.
I had to suspect that people I so confidently talk to, have a similar deficiency: they can't make what I say work for them, because there are holes in the fabric of knowledge.
Then last year I tried to be helpful to a woman in Ireland (I even published our conversation to zero echo from readers!) by teaching her negotiation skills, empathy, looking at things from the other person's point of view: methods that are obvious and easy for me. I was sure that other readers will love the article... I was wrong. Continue reading "Can you learn the skill of negotiation?"
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OK, here is the article:
There are no aliens.
There are no Aliens. But there are alien-like bugs.
When you search on google for alien bugs, you see bugs like you are used to, legs, eyes, pincers, and then something added... The imagination of graphic artists, movie makers, comic book writers is very limited...
Although there are no aliens, there are children. And children don't have their moral compass, their reasoning, developed until much later... many years after their computer skills are fully evolved... computer skills used by little amoral alien-like creatures: children. They have their faculties not yet developed, their adult capacities not turned on yet, and they do a lot of things that can destroy their parents, them, or in the worst case destroy the planet. Continue reading "There are no aliens. But there are alien-like bugs"