When you ask someone: what is the opposite of fear, they say "courage". But they are mistaken. Courage will never take you to the other side of fear... fear won't disappear with courage.
The opposite of fear is neither fear nor courage, it is abundance.
Fear is like a flower closing its petals. Courage is still trembling, still closed, still fearful.
But a fully open flower, blooming, fully knowing that a day later, a week later it will be dead, is throwing oneself into the whole big beautiful world, and living life with abandon. With wonder. With gusto. With dance.
In spite of The sight, and other capacities newly available to you, You don't seem to be able to change...
You have been unsuccessful getting their guidance, getting your information from outside of the mind.
This manifests, among others, in your inability to muscle test correctly.
The question is why?
The phenomenon, what actually seems to happen is this: you understand where to look, how to look, and you nod rapidly. You bring great examples to show how you just succeeded in using the new capacity... but I can smell the mischief... you are trying to throw me off my tracking.
Now, I say "you" but who is this "you"? What aspect of a person am I talking about?
I am republishing this article, because distinguishing is the most missing thing for humans at this day and age.
When I test people in the starting point measurement, the number that relates to this is the clarity score: how many words they can use accurately. I won't explain why they are connected... just know that when you can't hear and can't see, your clarity is about the same as a blind person's... with an ear muff...
It's a rare opportunity to go from innocent infant to all-seeing adult, being able to observe it at the same time.
When I first did the Landmark Forum, 1 the koan of the session was: for you everything is the same as everything else, except that not always.
When you are an infant, for you everything is the same as everything else... no distinctions. No distinction between your body and the environment. You are just as ready to suck on your feet as you are ready to suck on someone else's finger.
From time to time you'll see something strange, like you reach out, as always, and your hands remain empty: the object you reach for is out of reach...
If you read yesterday's article on coherence, my 21 hour (so far) experiment of playing the Coherence Generator... (new name old audio) I can promise you that it is nothing short of miraculous.
Creativity, innovation, growth, learning, takes a lot of coherent energy. When your energies are incoherent, you are troubled, are in a hurry, or are afraid, creativity is impossible.
Just imagine yourself a juggler... because that is what creativity is: being able to keep and move around multiple objects in the air at the same time, so you can see new connections. Really...
Most people can't keep one thought in the air for longer than seconds... unless they fixate on it... fixating means: all other flying objects fall... So most people have no experience in creativity, because they are mostly incoherent.
"What does it matter how many lovers you have if none of them gives you the universe?" French psychoanalyst Jacques Lacan posed that question. I invite you to put it at the top of your list of hot topics to meditate on. In doing so, I trust you won't use it as an excuse to disparage your companions for their inadequacies. Rather, I hope it will mobilize you to supercharge your intimate alliances; to deepen your awareness of the synergistic beauty you could create together; to heighten your ability to be given the universe by those whose fates are interwoven with yours.
In the current live course, from Upset to Communication we have come to the last of the four non-elevated fields of communication, Admirer-admired. My horoscope, above, for the coming week reflects that.
One of my students has already sent me her collage. It has given me a glimpse into her internal conversations that is deeper than I have ever seen... and I have known her for almost six years now.
Collages, where you go through pictures in magazines, or memes on the internet, are the best way to reveal to yourself your relationship, opinion, attitude about the world, about others, about yourself, about effort, ambition, etc.
Finally a TED talk that explains why seeing the big picture is such an amazing capacity. Why it can alter your life. Why it allows you to learn. Why it takes you out of the fear of making mistakes...
It also explains why "normal" adults stop being able to learn, experiment, be creative...
One student asks:
If I have identified something as worth having/knowing, when I set out to read a book or take a class, if there is an agenda there, what do I do with that agenda? How, if I could, would I abandon what I think I should be going after to pursue life as more of an experiment? Does the courage to walk away from what I think is the path, the missing piece?
The agenda he is talking about is the "economical" little (or big) piece you want out of your activity. And once you fix what you want, you'll see nothing else, like a machine.
If you look, carefully, now you know why you are not happy.
Here is another quote: People get married because they want their lives witnessed. When your life is witnessed you feel alive... I was par phrasing the Susan Sarandon character's words in "Shall we Dance?"
The best way to make sure you are on the path to happiness... is actually to be in a coaching program.
In my 67 step coaching program I witness your life.
Obviously, if you don't care what I see: if you don't care that I see that there is no harmony in what you think, what you say and what you do, then it is not really doing much for you...