In life, you have as much room to be as your environment grants you.
Room as in elbow room...
The environment you are in, at home, at work, at the pub, at the club, in the community van...
My brother has a lot of room to be when he is with his friends. He is funny, he is smart, maybe even glib... that is the only place anywhere he has some room to be. Maybe he had room to be at work... he is retired now. Everywhere else he is under the "thumb" of someone... under the tyranny of someone. He should be different, do different... never OK, never enough, never the one... except maybe his grandkids? still adoring him... for how long?
I left Hungary to have more room to be someone more than who I felt the environment allowed me there to be.
I read an interesting article on consciousness today that opened my eyes to something:
You can ask a question of yourself, and depending on the answer you can locate yourself on the map of consciousness quite reliably. And you could ask the question "what is your vibrational frequency?" and though you have no numbers, you'll know in what bracket you are by locating yourself on one of the stages.
The question is: What is my relationship to life? My life? Where is my consciousness?