Everyone has dreams, visions of success... A good job, a nice family, nice people, nice work, nice house...
But that is not what people have... When you ask people what made them who they are today, invariably all of them answer a version of the same thing: The past.
How they express this varies: my parents, my schooling, what I have been doing, my genes, etc. etc. but all in all, they all mean the same: what makes me who I am today is the past.
If that were true, that would be bad news, really.
Imagine that it is true. Now see yourself trying to be successful online. Given your track record, and your genes, and your past behavior, how much chance do you have for success?
I'd love to say zero, but it would be unfair to many of you. So instead, I answer it in a way that applies to all of you:
The same as yesterday. Or a year ago...
Now, that is a total bummer, isn't it? Continue reading "Will You Succeed or Will You Fail in business or pretty much any other endeavor?"
I wrote this article 12 years ago. I was 60 years old. I had a lot more money than I have now, I wrote my blog only for my personal pleasure, like a journal.
I was the happiest I had been in my life... but I had no idea that I could be happy... every day, no matter what.
That came later... I was still looking for a home, looking for answers to questions, like why am I not liked... as you'll see in this article.
I am republishing the article because, I think, you'll see yourself in it... especially the in comparison part.
I am comparing myself to others and I am coming out short... while I fancy myself better... lol.
Comparison is a very potent misery maker.
Continue reading "How Does Your Personality Effect YOUR Life? Personality is what you interact with…"
Your expectations and your disappointments reveal to you and to everyone who knows anything about the unconscious world view that makes sure you are miserable.
You learned that the Universe, Reality, your body, other people are like a vending machine. Push a button and outcomes what you wanted.
Or a car, or an electric mixer. Mechanistic, there for your service.
Even the evil people, religion, law of attraction, manifestation people teach that... with one little twist: if you are good, then the machine will turn on and spit out what you wanted.
So these people with their little twist make it your own fault if and when it doesn't work.
But what you think about the world and the way the world works are very different.
And you go from expectation to disappointment, anger, dismay, disgust... according to your temperament. Continue reading "The life of a pinball… or Your expectations and your disappointments"
I should be doing some laundry. I have run out of socks... And anyways, I want to tame this beast of not doing my laundry.
I gather a load's worth of stuff, carry it to the washing machine... and the distaste, the disgust is so strong... I take a beeline... and sit down by my computer.
Distaste, eh? Yeah, says muscle test. Disgust? yes. Was it always there? No. Was it from when i was 3? later... from age seven.
What was happening at age seven? I went to school. We had a live-in help: my mother was working on her Masters Degree, coming home around nine every night. My brother was about a year old... and was probably driving the live-in help bonkers.
And I recoil from dirty laundry...
I sit really quietly. The fear joins the distaste. I feel terror. I feel being beaten. Screamed at. Wrapped in wet sheets... Can't breathe...
I must have wet my bed. I don't remember. My body remembers. The fear, the disgust, the gagging.
The body remembers.
Continue reading "…And I recoil from dirty laundry…"
You want to live a life where you say this about yourself, a lot. "...And I lived to tell the tale..."
Where you are on the edge... and come back to tell the tale.
The edge? it feels like the dividing line between life and death. It is just a feeling. Some edge is quite inconsequential, but the going there is tremendous.
I signed up to be coached on Monday, and it's Sunday, and I am already "fired".
Another man's integrity may be out of integrity for you. Another man's wisdom is not YOUR wisdom. That is what happened.
I was asked to do something that doesn't agree, doesn't foster love between my two selves. Everybody is doing it... but for me to love ME, I can't do it.
If you are not free to be yourself, then your integrity number is low.
Integrity is an inside job, and only you can call the shot...
But... Without integrity nothing work. Continue reading "…And live to tell the tale…"
Some of us, some of you deal with issues that step from physical issues.
for example, if your mother got pregnant while undernourished, especially in the 90 essentials, you may have developed a number of so-called genetic diseases... that are not genetic at all. Including dyslexia or some form of cognitive displacement issues.
Dyslexia is a brain issue, where certain specialized brain cells went to the wrong place.
Easier to see with an example: had your hand cells went to the wrong place, you would have a hand grown in the middle of your arm, not at the end of it.
Continue reading "Your accuracy, your comprehension, and other topics, including the Fat Burning Brain"
I got a thank you note today. I get quite a few of those, I must admit.
They are a great way for me to track how the methodologies and principles I use in my teaching work. I mean, how effective I am, how effective the methods are. They track my ability to make a difference in the world. (Someone please remind me to write about how I view my making a difference... OK?)
This note reads
Today was a huge success. I did not even recognize myself. I was attempting to have a conversation with my sister when she became extremely aggressive upon trying to control me and failing. She was in my face yelling and pacing around in circles. I remained calm and did not attempt to defend myself as the lies flew at me. I was able to stick to the subject and not accuse. At this point her husband jumped in and tried to intimidate me, pointing his finger in my face and yelling. They both looked like mad men ganging up on me. I did not raise my voice or get emotional. This is the first time in my life I had no fear in a confrontational situation and it felt GREAT! To be honest I think it frightened my sister & her husband. They did not know what to think of me, I have had many weaknesses in the past but now I am strong.
Continue reading "Did Your Personality Get Put Together vs. You Were Born That Way?"
Well, this could be a real long article, even a book.
I won't go there! writing a book is way too long for my ADHD personality.
But there is one teacher, who I admire, Colin Wilson (of "Outsider" and "The Mind Parasite" fame, who wrote a book, "The Books In My Life" where he strung about 15 essays into a book, and I learned more from the writers he speaks of than I would have learned, had I read the original books. Continue reading "Who Were My Teachers in Transformation and Mindset… ?"