Want me to remove yours?
If appreciative is the opposite of entitled... does that mean that all those people who are not appreciative are entitled?
So how do you know that you are not appreciative? that you are entitled?
This is how:
- Even when you thank someone, they frown...
- You may even be diligent in thanking someone, you may even feel a stab of thankfulness, but those thanks are the waves on the waters, not the bottom of the sea... The bottom of your sea is entitlement.
I am doing a business project with my brand spanking new coach... and...
As it was predictable, this is my fourth day only, I already got to a place, where fear is coming up.
I am glad, because I am so rarely afraid. This will give me an opportunity to notice something Tree of Life for my scaredy cat clients and students.
So I am afraid. IT, the voice, is whispering sweet nothings into my ear, lol. "It's not important." "You are already fine." "What if you lose all the money you've made?" "he doesn't know..." Continue reading "When you are afraid… what is there to do?"
What is an adult, what is a child... and does your ego-state (Child, Parent, Adult) influence how much money you have, how much love you have, how healthy you are? 1
In the starting point measurements I measure (#19) To what degree you have access to your adult capacities. 2 or asked in another way, how much does your adult run your life? The more adult the more results...
And how much is the child running your life, how much is it running your life to the ground?
This is a great question, if you have curiosity the capacity turned on. This is an even greater question for you if you have been trying to learn, by signing up to my programs, or buying a capacity from me, and you are failing.
Here is the statement I paid more than 20 thousand dollars for, taken an airplane some 20 times, slept in a hotel 20 times, and got nothing else from the courses and programs I paid for...
But this sentence is worth the 20 grands it cost me to get it.
Here is the magic sentence: "When something isn't working... there is something you don't know."
The sentence is brilliant... and yet it won't work for 99% of the people...
Continue reading "You are not learning. What does the culture teach you, tell you, so that you end up not learning?"
But we, humans, are equipped with a brain that is able to model, replay, and practice, to turn mistakes into learning. Through repetition, or through thought experiments. But either way: being awake... And that is the first thing that's missing... being awake.
I bet you haven't taken advantage of that.
One huge insight I had when I realized that the version of Freecell I have on my newer computers is the type where you can undo many steps... or even go back to the beginning and do it again. Continue reading "Updated… or what does Freecell and the Groundhog day have in common?"
I don't know what that means... but I know that I talk to people a lot... in my head. I have long conversations with them.
So when I find out that they don't know about it: I am surprised.
It is nearly impossible to have an authentic conversation with someone after I already had the same conversation WITH THEM in my head.
So many things never get said. Continue reading "I talk to people a lot… in my head. I have long conversations with them"
She was discussing her marketing to sell her almost a thousand dollar course on clearing negative energy.
I have to admit that I have never sold a course for that much money. Never even thought I could. Never even thought it would be fair...
I spent the day after that call not wanting to do anything. Not even walk... lol. That is so rare, it is worth mentioning.
I slept well, I am taping my mouth shut again and I sleep a lot better.
I woke up somewhat revitalized and invigorated... = revigorated.
What do I mean revigorated?
Your first sign of getting dead is having less or no question. Continue reading "What is the negative energy you are trying to eliminate? The energy that blocks you?"
... if you are willing to look and see what is so about you and your life.
The truth. Naked. Ugly. Often shameful.
Here is a correspondence I had with a client today:
She said: "I'm interested in changing my context since it's part of what keeps me stuck."
"... answering the questions: what am I doing? Why am I doing it?
Unless you have done the work of identifying what you have been doing, and why you have been doing it, no way you can shift the context. You cannot catch what you can't see. And you cannot change what you can't catch." Continue reading "Everything you ever wanted is available to you, if…"
I remember saying to myself: my money is not good enough for you? and wept.
I had no idea how I "accomplished" that... in 20/20 hindsight it is still a little spotty.
What wasn't clear to me, never even occurred to me, how my attitude effected the service provider. My "To what degree you think of yourself:" starting point measure was, at the time, 70%. From my behavior I would have guessed it was higher.
Mainly I overrode what they said. I argued, I knew better, I acted with contempt...
What I didn't know then is that being a service provider needs to be a win, or no service.
A customer who is not happy is a drag on an provider, and not worth the little (or even a lot of) money they pay.
I was that kind of customer...
Continue reading "Should you become a client? Would I even accept you as a client?"