Emotions are like firestorms, they cause incoherence, and are the most manipulated aspects of a human

eft-emotional-guidance-scaleThe best way to examine whether emotions give you a reliable internal guidance system is looking at the flip side of emotions.

In emotional terms, for example, love’s opposite is hate, disgust, being appalled, repelled. But if you look at your emotions, these opposites are right there, right behind the emotion: love… They come together like the front of your hand and the back of your hand. You are in perpetual ambivalence, yoyo-ing back and forth, ups and downs, and incoherence.

Love, the one that vibrates at 525 or so, is not an emotion. Love is a commitment to love.

Love is a commitment to accept another human exactly the way they are and exactly the way they aren’t. Whether they do the right thing, love you back, chew their food with their mouth open, lower back the lid on the toilet, or leave the top off the tooth paste.

Commitment. Not a promise, a commitment.

No ifs, no buts, no conditions.

No action necessary, just acceptance.

No show of love, no giving till it hurts, no nice talk… those are not part of love, they are societal demands.
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When you are looking for and find things to be unhappy about… always angry…

anger icebergI have a student who seems to be looking for reasons to be unhappy, angry, frustrated. And not surprisingly she finds something. Always.

She is working on her health and well-being, and part of that is to document every breakfast, lunch and dinner time what she eats, what she drinks, what she does, what she feels like, and whether she had a bowel movement or not. These are all indicators of her well-being and progress.

This morning I realized something: her diary says: bowel movement: small. She doesn’t say: bowel movement: yes (or no, whatever is the case.) No she says: small.

This realization lead me to look back and see that she wants to find something she can be unhappy about.

Now, this is actually very familiar to me. Bear with me, a lot of you have this, and if you can see it, you can do something about it.

I’ll share my story later, let me first distinguish the mechanism:
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3 Techniques to expand the limited view through which you experience life

transformAs I have said before, your experience of life is limited, narrow, and quite defined by your culture, family, upbringing, education, and early experiences.

As long as your view of life stays the same, life will stay the same, or worse: it is a downward spiral.

So it makes sense to explore and employ methods that can expand your view of life and thus allow for a life that can go in a different direction, instead of the downward spiral.
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From small, miserable, fearful, hiding, to expansive, magnificent… can you do it?

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The size of your paradigm, the size of your puny world… and what can you do about it?

You were born with a paradigm of 1,000. You were born innocent, knowing nothing, therefore knowing everything.

The tales of karma, the tales of past lives is not true, not really, maybe not at all.

You were born with no past and no future… Maybe some past starting from 4 month old in utero…

Then the world starts to “educate you” about what you can, what you can’t, what’s true and what’s false, and that is, for a while, passing on their paradigm. The intention is to keep you safe, not to imprison you, but ultimately that is the result they achieve.

Then you get to the ripe old age of 3 years old, and if you are typical, you start pretending that you already know everything there is to know, because you have already learned that the people who are big, seem to you to know everything… and they seem to you to do better than you.

The Second defining moment came…

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Raise Your Vibration: 4 Modalities That Work: Tr., Pam Ragland, Dianetics, And Activator Downloads

the visual signs of higher vibration raise your vibration Please remember that this case study is concerned with one aspect: does the modality raise your vibration permanently. That is the only question I answer here, that is my only concern.

Why? Because there are tons of life-coaches, lots of “transformational” programs, lots of spiritual teachers, lots of meditation, yoga, brain-entrainment, etc. programs are out there that create a feel-good effect, but the effect isn’t lasting, and you have to go back for more.

What do I mean?

Examples of stuck states

Let me give you a few examples: A friend of mine follows a guru. She even became one of the “master teachers” of the guru’s energy modality.

She goes to these weekends and comes back, high as a kite… but comes down crashing. She is taking more and more time out of her business to “seek” enlightenment.

Her main issues of avoiding risk, and being alone aren’t solved, but she keeps going back..

An ex teacher of mine, today a mastermind partner, is exhausted again. She is yelling at her husband. She is worried. She works from the moment she wakes up till she crashes at night.

When I examine, she is running on old patterns, like a puppet on a string, battling some invisible scarcity monster that won’t let up. She has had many coaches, but the situation is getting worse… the real issue isn’t addressed.

What’s predictable is that she will never get off the war-path till she dies.

Another acquaintance of mine wants to be successful, make money, travel the world, be a sought after “transformational” coach.

In the 10 years I’ve been watching her, she has avoided learning anything. She hasn’t read a book from cover to cover. She watches videos on youtube and reads articles on blogs, and then sends them to me.

She hasn’t made any useful action in the direction of her goal… She is continually trapped in lala land of self-delusion.

The underlying craving for success, and the underlying fear of failure, fear of finding out that she is not as good as she thinks she is causes her life to be hellish.

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Case Study #11: Dianetics vs. Scientology, Do They Raise Your Vibration?

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Dianetics vs. Scientology, L Ron Hubbard

Updated 3/15/2015
Dianetics as a methodology and theory: 190
Scientology, the church, teachings: 130
Scientology, the church, as organization: 100 1

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