If you have lived a lifestyle that left you with no foundation for self-growth is answering the question... what comes first: the chicken or the egg.
You, people in this predicament have one characteristic in common: you don't want to do anything that you cannot see the immediate usefulness of it.
Usefulness can also be enjoyment... enjoyment is useful.
This common characteristic has rendered you to either rely on your quick intelligence in school, and you had reasonable to good grades, or you had bad grades... the result in common: no knowledge of the world, no foundation for self-growth, because no real learning took place.
The percentage of humanity that would like to grow, but has nothing going for them, other than that vague desire, is a staggering 70%. 70%!
I love the analogy of the winding mountain pass where an unsuspecting motorist happens on a car wreck in the middle of the two-lane road.
His options are to drive into the solid rock on the left, into the abyss on the right, into the wreck in the middle... or to slow down and drive around the wreck. Slowly.
My numbers show that 99.5% of them will not even consider slowing down and driving around the wreck. It doesn't even occur to them as a possibility.
Because, obviously, testing people on winding mountain roads is not in my budget, I do the next best thing. People's response to bad news.
This article is about the two main ways we deal with life. Where we put our efforts, where we put our attention... they both express our attitude quite precisely... and how can brain plasticity rescue you... from yourself.
In this article we'll go deep into what's going on, inside you, that fails you... We'll look at different schools of thought to do that. Understanding the inner dynamic is the first step towards success.
We are all addicted. How dare you say that? Well, if you live in the 21st Century, you are addicted. How come? Because addiction is simply pleasure seeking behavior. The hunt for more endorphins.
There are two kinds of pleasure:
Seeking for excitement or other dopamine releasing activity or substance
seeking for the cessation of some discomfort or pain. Ask a person who is in pain and ask what they want. They won't say: I want a shot of whiskey. They will say: I want this pain to stop. That is also pleasure seeking behavior, just like:Escape from depression.
Escape from the noise of the world.
Escape from your troubles.
Escape from your pressing duties.
Escape from your debts, worries, pain, anxiety, phobias, fears, guilt, etc. is all pleasure seeking activity.
I have been pondering a student's email all morning. 1 And when I ponder, I do it while I do other things.
What I do most frequently is play Freecell, a card game, a solitaire. I can have my bilocation most undisturbed then: I am doing something and observing it, and the brain, in the background does the processing undisturbed, and pretty much undisturbed. Continue reading "Your desires…"
Warning: read the footnotes... In this article they are especially telling. I put everything in the footnotes that would make the article difficult to read... But their position, in the footnotes, doesn't make them not important, or not part of the article. Consider yourself warned... lol
I measured someone's vibration, re-measured 3 times. It was consistently 100.
We emailed back and forth, this is the last email that came, this morning:
Your social genes haven't changed in the past 200,000 years. They are still the same as when humans were hunter gatherers, the stone age. Social genes are the genes that define behavior.
Where do we see this? Hunter-gatherers were not adventurous. They didn't go hunting again, until they had to. They preferred to share, to be nice to each other, that way they didn't have to risk confrontation. This lived in clans, hunted in clans, and followed the leaders.
They judged everything by their first impression of it, or by prejudice: they didn't experiment, didn't stop to think, didn't give second chances. A wolf in sheep's clothing would be accepted as sheep.
It seems it is video-day here in my house... today. Mind you, I am not quite doing it for entertainment, I am looking for some solution.
In my coaching calls and even watching, observing myself, I have realized that some foundational skills are missing. They are the kind of foundation without which you simply can't have what you want, you can't feel better about yourself, and you can't accomplish much of anything worth writing home about.
So I have to either find a way or make one, to teach you the missing skills.
In this case I'd prefer to find a way, after all if someone is already teaching it, why invent the wheel.