Your mind, your stupid part, has no direct knowledge about reality. It has no concern, no regard to reality... It has in it what the memes have programmed it to have... 1% reality, 99% b.s. And your mind is, therefore, your worst friend. It is killing YOU and it is killing your life... sometimes slowly, sometimes really fast. 1
OK, that was quite a mouthful. Sorry about that...
Wherever you are in life, in any area of your life, you are in ess. In ess your actions, your ideas, your advisement will come from a "source" that wants to maintain that ess... If you are fat... then maintain being fat. If you are inactive, then maintain inactivity. If you are always engaging in bombastic dreams, then maintain that... engaging in bombastic dreams.
I read articles. Mostly from Medium. And I found this one in my inbox today... I could have said: I already know this... and I would have missed a conclusion that is very important to YOU...
Don't know what TLB is?... It is your Twitchy Little Bastard score... when it is low, you are weak at doing the deed... you run for the hill, you quit, you have no patience, no vision... you are likely a disappointed little victim of life. You can read more here... but you don't need it. Just read this article. I'll summarize it at the end.
This Stanford Study Reveals Why Some People Are More Likely To Succeed Than Others.
Photo by Pete Wright on Unsplash. Article by Mayo Oshin
In the 1960s, psychologist and professor at Stanford University, Walter Mischel, noticed something fascinating about the behaviour of his daughters.
Mischel observed that his three daughters — aged three, four and five years old — rapidly developed the ability to delay gratification.
Your tendency is to remember the story. Not what happened but your story. And to tell the story in a predictable manner... always the same way, always showing you in the same role, the same exact way.
A story is a narrative of reality. It talks from one particular vantage point, and therefore it is distorted. Always. Inherently so.
Your tendency is to remember the story in a way that agrees with your soul correction.
Soul correction, it could be said, is this slant of reality that lets you get away with murder, lies, laziness, blaming, simply said: being less than giving your best.
My story can be summed up with three elements: a hero succeeding in the face of incredible odds, and also complaining: "no matter what I do... I can't this or that". And the third: I don't know if I can trust myself.
Almost succeeding, but never doing things long enough, hard enough, to actually succeed. Why? Because it would kill the story.
One of the issues you may deal with is the result of widespread misinformation. It's been around for thousands of years, and it is as damaging as any mass-distributed toxin, maybe even more. Why? Because your body can't manufacture antibodies against it.
The idea of instant healing, instant transformation, instant transfiguration is what I am talking about.
That idea makes you think that you can get from A to Z in one fell swoop 1
Life doesn't work that way. Life is based on principles, one of them is the Principle of Process.
Do you feel stuck? Are you trying to do everything but you still are stuck at the miserable place instead of where you are your best?
If so, you are not alone.
One of my clients used to be in constant survival.
He could see that he wasn't doing what he really wanted to do with his life.
He knew he loved to learn. He knew he loved to be in conversations about deep issues where he could distinguish, for himself and another what they were looking at, deeply, precisely and in a way that it altered life. He loved that.
I had a conversation with Zsuzsa, a friend of mine from architecture school.
I normally hide from her, because she is traditionally very negative. But last instant messaging we had she sounded upbeat, so I thought, I'd give it a try. I know how to break off a conversation when it goes south.
As fate has it, she broke her hand a few months ago, it didn't heal well, and she has had a lot of pain. Interestingly it has changed her. Permanently or temporarily, I don't know. My hunch is that it is temporary...
Anyway, I shared with her my experience with the nose bleed. She didn't quite grasp it at first. She has had nose bleeds but her first thought wasn't: this is the beginning of the end, so for her the chance of a breakthrough with that would have been small.
On the other hand, given that she is an architect, her right hand is her bread and butter, so creating a new way to look at it was a definite breakthrough for her.
I was mulling over this today as I was washing my hands in the bathroom.