What is the opposite of entitled?

what do I deserve?Every generation is more entitled than the previous one. Why? Let me explain...

If appreciative is the opposite of entitled... does that mean that all those people who are not appreciative are entitled?

Entitled 1 is a worldview. It is a ground-of-being phenomenon, invisible, like the floor. An unexamined truth. To you. But for the other, it is quite obvious... 2

So how do you know that you are not appreciative? that you are entitled?

This is how:

  • Even when you thank someone, they frown...
  • You may even be diligent in thanking someone, you may even feel a stab of thankfulness, but those thanks are the waves on the waters, not the bottom of the sea... The bottom of your sea is entitlement.

Continue reading "What is the opposite of entitled?"

…And I recoil from dirty laundry…

I should be doing some laundry. I have run out of socks... And anyways, I want to tame this beast of not doing my laundry.

I gather a load's worth of stuff, carry it to the washing machine... and the distaste, the disgust is so strong... I take a beeline... and sit down by my computer.

Distaste, eh? Yeah, says muscle test. Disgust? yes. Was it always there? No. Was it from when i was 3? later... from age seven.

What was happening at age seven? I went to school. We had a live-in help: my mother was working on her Masters Degree, coming home around nine every night. My brother was about a year old... and was probably driving the live-in help bonkers.

And I recoil from dirty laundry...

I sit really quietly. The fear joins the distaste. I feel terror. I feel being beaten. Screamed at. Wrapped in wet sheets... Can't breathe...

I must have wet my bed. I don't remember. My body remembers. The fear, the disgust, the gagging.

The body remembers.
Continue reading "…And I recoil from dirty laundry…"

How old is your child self that is running your life to the ground?

What is an adult, what is a child... and does your ego-state (Child, Parent, Adult) influence how much money you have, how much love you have, how healthy you are? 1

In the starting point measurements I measure (#19) To what degree you have access to your adult capacities. 2 or asked in another way, how much does your adult run your life? The more adult the more results...

And how much is the child running your life, how much is it running your life to the ground?

Continue reading "How old is your child self that is running your life to the ground?"

Returning to the fork in the road where you took a wrong turn

If you find yourself on the wrong road... trace your way back to where you went astray... and choose a different road.

Why? Because trying to go across to where you really wanted to go, without going back,  is fraught with death traps.

Humanity, some seven thousand years ago, took a wrong turn. In just a few words: they started to replace reality with word pictures in the mind. Concepts.

This took us to where we are now: not a pretty place. Any and every human is afflicted: no one is exempt.

An "avatar's" job is to take you backwards so you can find your way from there... They have to have earned the right... by going back personally, backtracking themselves.

Most teachers try to cut across... oh the Buddhist, oh the Zen, oh the blah blah... they must know what they are talking about... b.s.

Maybe they know, maybe they don't. But you haven't done the journey back, so you are a second-hander at best, so shut the f... up!
Continue reading "Returning to the fork in the road where you took a wrong turn"

Your soul correction in your favorite movies, the ones that come up in your memory again and again

One of my favorite movies is a Coen brothers movie, True Grit

It comes up for me 4-5 times a year, to ponder who had the true grit... the little girl or the big drunkard marshal? 1

Which, as it turns out, isn't the right question.

Continue reading "Your soul correction in your favorite movies, the ones that come up in your memory again and again"

What is the truth about the 10 dark years, 10,000 hours and 10,000 experiments

If investing 10 years in service of learning a profession, learning an art would make you a winner... then there would be a lot of winners. A lot more than there are...

There must be something more that most people don't know or don't do...

...and neither do or know their mentors, their trainers, their managers, their teachers. 1

Capacities, DNA capacities are invisible. They are the seed level of any ability, of any success.

Continue reading "What is the truth about the 10 dark years, 10,000 hours and 10,000 experiments"

In life, you have as much room to be, to grow, as your environment grants you

In life, you have as much room to be as your environment grants you.

Room as in elbow room...

The environment you are in, at home, at work, at the pub, at the club, in the community van...

My brother has a lot of room to be when he is with his friends. He is funny, he is smart, maybe even glib... that is the only place anywhere he has some room to be. Maybe he had room to be at work... he is retired now. Everywhere else he is under the "thumb" of someone... under the tyranny of someone. He should be different, do different... never OK, never enough, never the one... except maybe his grandkids? still adoring him... for how long?

I left Hungary to have more room to be someone more than who I felt the environment allowed me there to be.

Continue reading "In life, you have as much room to be, to grow, as your environment grants you"

The narrative… the story that creates who you are

The narrative 1

A student of mine, after listening to my last Sunday call recording, asked why Jews turned to a different strategy than the slaves from Africa. Or Native Americans. Continue reading "The narrative… the story that creates who you are"

You are in the bull’s ear… You live in the bull’s ear

Parents want to help, but instead they push you deeper into the bull's ear.

The expression, came from a student's father, 1 you are in the bull's ear, is a great distinction. It is not American, and because it is alien sounding, almost nonsensical, it can wake you up. 2
Continue reading "You are in the bull’s ear… You live in the bull’s ear"

Make your plane go where you want it to go…

Make your plane go where you want it to go...

This is probably the most shocking sentence in the whole 67 step program.

I literally don't know anyone who lives that way.

People try to succeed, try a diet, try this and try that... while their plane crashes in every area.

So what is the difference between who are like that, who are on their way to become that kind of person, and others who never ever land their plane on the landing strip? Continue reading "Make your plane go where you want it to go…"