But you have an issue: that ugliness is hardwired into humans. Continue reading "You are hardwired to be bad and pretend to be good or better than others"
A assume that we are all afraid of being mislead, misguided, lied to. The fear is well-founded: most people don't know what they are talking about, most people are wrong, and some even lie so they can make money off you.
So what? I say... OK, don't run just yet. Continue reading "What is the right attitude when being coached or being taught by a teacher?"
One could say "writer's block"... but I would not know. I have never had that...
So I am looking. When I have nothing to say... and that is unusual, what happened that is also unusual?
Did you see how I formulated the question?
Your ticket to get out of anything, to innovate yourself out of a problem is the question. Or questions...
So that question did direct my attention to something I've been doing that is also unusual.
Continue reading "Is what you are reading talking on the right level… to make a difference?"
So what is this awareness that is so important.
Nine months... it's taken me till today to get complete clarity of what this "thing" awareness is.
Six million Jews perished in the gas chambers and mass graves during the holocaust, because they were not aware.
Tens of millions of people were ashamed of themselves and their association with Germany, people who elected Hitler and the Nazi party... because they weren't aware.
Continue reading "Awareness… it’s seeing and knowing what you are looking at… Accurately."
One of the survival conditions for the early human was to belong to a group... or they were dead.
So the need to belong to a group is a very old DNA driven need. I see people all the time whose entire existence is inside that unfulfilled need: people who look different, people who speak differently, people who feel different.
Especially nowadays that minorities are not so minor any more in any country.
Urges, DNA needs make you do self-destructive, self-damaging things. Things that when you watch other people do them, you shake your head. What were they thinking?!
The fear of being left out, the fear of being left behind, the fear of not fitting in has an age associated with it. It's young. And your behavior to "fix it" will be young too. Ineffective.
As you may know, I am working with a group of people to take them through the "Gate of Heaven" through the Detached capacity taught in the Detached Workshop.
As usual, unexpected snags abound. Whoever said it was going to be easy?!
When I observe the gritting its teeth tenacity of the ego, I have a suspicion that the ego is a hireling of society, of the horizontal plane, and the passage will be harder than I thought. Crab bucket.
Everything that is between you and you is becoming active and pulling the participants down.
This article is about what you can do to help me and help yourself to become all you can become, to become a human being.
I used to have it in spades. I used to have no tolerance to a closed door, being inside when children played outside, I wanted to be with them, "me too".
It looked that people were having fun, and I wanted in. But I didn't have that much fun, and I got into a lot of troubles, with parents, with school, with my health.
The reason you are so afraid to be left out, because you are afraid to be alone. To meet yourself. To face yourself. To face your emptiness.
So you postpone it by joining in the fun.
Continue reading "Feeling Left out… and you are scrambling or resign…"
We all bow to a "god", the god of respectability. Looking good, being well thought of, getting respect. 1
And while you give your life to respectability, your life sours, your dreams die, you stop knowing who you are, where you are, what YOU want, what YOU want to do with your life.
Most are stuck there, but some (you?) yearn to know and live in harmony with who they are... but how do you go about it?
- Bad news: you can only get to your true self, to your inner beauty, your inner goodness, your inner truth through wading through the ugly, the nasty, and the mountain of lies.
- Good news: What you need to wade through is a certain amount of ugly... 30, 50, 70? Depends on you...
There is a finite amount, though it is still a small army of ugly... Continue reading "The path to beauty, goodness, and truth is through the ugly, the bad, and the lies, not around them"
The mind doesn't know who you are.
The mind also doesn't care who you are. The mind also doesn't care if you enjoy life, live life fully, are fulfilled, or not.
The mind is in cahoots with the world, with the "community", with society, because that is how it was trained, by society.
If and when the mind is calling the shot 1 in your life, you become an effect, instead of the cause, the Creator of your life, you were meant to be.
Continue reading "How to reclaim your Self from the mind and why"