That's me on the picture, 19 years ago... Waiting to get wet on the USA side of Niagara Falls... A perfect example of becoming...
We, humans, negotiate our way in life... with circumstances, schedules, things, and other people. From cradle to grave... we could say, that is life... negotiating every step, winning some and losing some.
But here is the thing: the rules are not clear, not clean, and not overt.
You cannot be sure what constitutes winning, and what constitutes losing a step... in fact, most steps: you have no idea.
I have at least 2-3 conversations each day that are so profound they should be made public. Sometimes i do...
Here is one from today:
Him: Wow. I realized on yesterday’s call that there are memes and voices when I am on the call and they are disturbing me to get things more than I am doing. Or disturbing me to look, think and not going to the head. These voices are fear based. “What if I say something wrong, what if I can’t do what she says etc.” It went better yesterday because I was conscious of them and could decide to just let them be noises and have my attention on what you were saying instead.
Me: yes. it is the biggest reason people don’t do well. good catch. thank you for sharing.
I have one meme still very alive… “It is too hard!” lol
and another one, a little bit less “It is hopeless!”
1. I let you in and I'll measure you, without you having to talk to me. And from my point of view: without ME having to talk to YOU... Less time, less emotional load on me.It's also that you can get your measurements and put them aside... no accountability to me. I won't call you on it. You are off the hook.
2. I have a big discount. For the first time. And maybe the last.
Now, let me show you what this reader wrote to me this morning:
I have been dreading to sign up for your testing offers...
or better: to get the results. It's kinda silly. The getting off milk has been intense and still is a challenge, going to the grocery store - there's still a part of me that craves bread and pasta and cake and cookies and chocolate and cheese and yoghurt and fruit and carrots and whatever... and it feels like signing up for a death sentence.
It's Tuesday and Rob Brezsny's syndicated horoscopes landed in my inbox.
I read mine, and my blood turned cold.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): In the coming weeks, you might want to read the last few pages of a book before you decide to actually dive in and devour the whole thing. I also suggest you take what I just said as a useful metaphor to apply in other areas. In general, it might be wise to surmise the probable outcomes of games, adventures, and experiments before you get totally involved. Try this fun exercise: Imagine you are a psychic prophet as you evaluate the long-range prospects of any influences that are vying to play a role in your future.
Fear. Fear that I am working on something that is going to turn out not what I want.
Very scary... in spite of the fact that I experiment all the time. That I rarely make a binding commitment to any path until it is already bringing its results.
I don't set goals... and don't commit to outcomes.
After I finished writing this article, I looked up the word "indigestion"... the correct word I should have used: incomplete digestion... although then not many people would open this post... lol. So I am leaving it the way it is, even though indigestion, literally, is a discomfort, around the stomach area.
Most people get fat because of indigestion or poor digestion.
When you have indigestion, the discomfort mimics hunger, and you eat more.
The stomach is the first organ where digestion begins. Proteins: meat, fish, eggs, cheeses need the stomach to have strong acid to break the bigger protein molecules to their components, amino acids.
Strong acid, 2-3 on the PH scale (7 is neutral). Most people's stomach, after age 30, is less acidic, and they the protein has to hang out in the stomach long to be broken down.
Carbs, vegetables need an alkaline environment to start being broken down to digestible elements.
After age 30, a sandwich that has protein and bread, meat and potatoes, stews are quite deadly, because the elements of the meal require an different PH environment to be broken down.