Want to avoid negative emotions? Stupid move!

negative-emotionsWhy you must go through emotional phases, no matter how high your vibration, or how successful you are

  • You imagine that when you’ll have raised your vibration sufficiently, you won’t have sadness, hopelessness, despair… frustration, hate, spite, resistance, and such. Bah humbug.
  • You imagine that successful people don’t have those feelings… so you imagine that if you want to be successful you need to get rid of the bad feelings.
  • You don’t even care about vibration and success, you just don’t want to feel those bad feelings.

But you are building pies in the sky… because those feelings are normal, necessary, and you can’t and should not get rid of them.
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Frustration… or pushing on a string

bang head hereMy dominant emotion is frustration.

Of course frustration lacks humility… frustration is when you are trying to force your will on reality.

things take as long as they do, people do whatever they do, and you’ll screw up, like everybody else.

But, of course, my soul correction is Forget Thyself… meaning allow life to unfold.

That, allowing anything, is the hardest thing for a human… And allowing and yet feeling powerful is even rarer.

We want to make things happen, rush things along, push, pull… and yell in frustration.
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Winners don’t fight what is: they use it. The ones that fight are broken.

Your chances are like this tiny sea turtle hatchling... not bigTo all the people that had their anchor-to-doom attachment pulled, I recommended that they start using the Unconditional Love Activator. Why?

Because the capacity of allowing need to be first practiced between you and you. Between you and your actions. Between you and your feelings, thoughts, and urges.

Without first allowing what is, you will ALWAYS be ineffective, bruised, and beaten.

I have learned this the hard way. I am a very forceful person by nature, and that is a horrible thing for a coach. Forcefulness create resistance in the other person, and instead of smooth transition to desirable actions, I trigger fighting, belligerence, and ultimately failure.
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Are you a match to life? If not: Allowing is missing.

whatever you don't allow is what will continueIt’s even obvious to you that allowing is missing… But how do you activate the capacity of allowing, and then how do you make the capacity a working skill?

Allowing is what’s between you and serenity. I don’t mean happiness, because happiness has its roller coaster nature: happiness has unhappiness as its shadow. You can only get happiness if you are willing to have unhappiness.

Allowing is letting it be. And although you may feel the urge to change it, fix it, kill it, hide it, hide from it, allowing is authentically allowing something to be, and gain your own beingness.

Without allowing you have no access to beingness.

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Another example of “unless.” One Word That Should Never Follow “I Love You”

allowingIt’s been very difficult for me to bring examples to the phenomenon “or-ness”, in spite of the fact that it is all over. I was trying to define it, but it’s eluded me.

Here is an article I didn’t write. It is a beautiful illustration of the principle or how to replace “or” with “and” and give birth to a lot better, a lot more loving life than it was before. Really nicely done:

It started with “I love you, but …”

It could have been “I love you, but you’re driving me crazy” or any of the following: “I love you, but you’re not listening to me”; “I love you, but stop leaving dirty dishes in the sink”; or “I love you, but I need some alone time.” I’ve begun many a sentence with those four words, and never paused for a moment to think about what they mean. What are we actually conveying when we begin a sentence like that?
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Can you be with it? Can you have that thing there, threatening as it might be, and just be? And observe? And do nothing?

can-you-be-with-rapeCan you be with it? Can you have that thing there, threatening as it might be, and just be? And observe? And do nothing? None of your buttons pushed, none of your usual anger, or whatever… just silence, just peace, just emergence?

It is the most evolved state. It looks similar to ignorance… like all of Germany ignoring, turning a blind eye to the genocide of undesirables, of which Jews were just one group. Homosexuals, gypsies, communists, intellectuals that didn’t cooperate…

Ignorance comes from not caring. Ignorance is an animal state. It is the ultimate “desire-for-the-self-alone” because if you didn’t see it you don’t have to do anything, you don’t have to feel anything, including fear, oneness, you can just continue being sheep.
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