The life of a pinball… or Your expectations and your disappointments

Your expectations and your disappointments reveal to you and to everyone who knows anything about the unconscious world view that makes sure you are miserable.

You learned that the Universe, Reality, your body, other people are like a vending machine. Push a button and outcomes what you wanted.

Or a car, or an electric mixer. Mechanistic, there for your service.

Even the evil people, religion, law of attraction, manifestation people teach that... with one little twist: if you are good, then the machine will turn on and spit out what you wanted.

So these people with their little twist make it your own fault if and when it doesn't work.

But what you think about the world and the way the world works are very different.

And you go from expectation to disappointment, anger, dismay, disgust... according to your temperament. Continue reading "The life of a pinball… or Your expectations and your disappointments"

The Enchanted Forest, Fairy Tales, and how to start living like a person

I have one student who actually is doing the work the way the work was meant to be done.

It sounds meager... but it is all I ever wanted... really.

If you have one student who actually does what you teach, you can tell if what you teach works or not. Or tweak what you teach to accommodate the difficulties they experience. And watch if the changes you made will make the results match what you intended to accomplish.

What do the rest of the people do? I mean the students in the same program? I am not sure. Apple polishing? Feeble attempts to fake me?

Humans live this fake, apple polishing lives, thinking that life should respond to their feeble attempts, to their intention, to their desire, or whatever the heck they were taught should change reality to what they want reality to be.

This, humanity, humans, include the millions of writers who dish out advice... Continue reading "The Enchanted Forest, Fairy Tales, and how to start living like a person"

“Either everybody counts or nobody counts”

20 years ago I had my first entrepreneur value profile done.

It was some 30 pages long... a lot of English. But it said something like: I don't work well through others...

Bummer...

A year or two later I got my certification to become a value profile consultant. Then I learned to see all that the 30 page said in English (meaning lots of words) at a glance on a grid.

My starting point measurements is a lot like that grid. It is more meant for the coach/consultant to know how to guide you, than for you to enjoy reading to indulge your delusional self.

Sigh.

So today, 20 years later, I looked at coaching, both as a client and as a provider. Continue reading "“Either everybody counts or nobody counts”"

What is real? What is made up? How can you tell?

I have read all the One minute books... I saw that the One Minute Manager touched on my Achilles' Heel...

Each of these One minute books teaches some attitude, or a thing to do, that makes you and the people you work with happier, more productive, etc.

Except...

Occam's razor says: everything should be as simple as it can be but not simpler.

Pop psychology is simplistic. You find yourself nodding vigorously as you read it. But when it comes to doing it... oops. You cannot do it.

The One Minute manager's job is to catch people doing the right things.

Most people cannot. Most people keep their eyes on what you do wrong, what they do wrong... what needs to be fixed. But most importantly they cannot see what is. Continue reading "What is real? What is made up? How can you tell?"

When you are afraid… what is there to do?

I am doing a business project with my brand spanking new coach... and...

As it was predictable, this is my fourth day only, I already got to a place, where fear is coming up.

I am glad, because I am so rarely afraid. This will give me an opportunity to notice something Tree of Life for my scaredy cat clients and students.

So I am afraid. IT, the voice, is whispering sweet nothings into my ear, lol. "It's not important." "You are already fine." "What if you lose all the money you've made?" "he doesn't know..." Continue reading "When you are afraid… what is there to do?"

Do You Rock, or Do You Wait to be Rocked? Can you be coached?

Do You Rock, or Do You Wait to be Rocked?

or "Coaching and your ambition number..."

There are two main widely diverging schools of coaching that I can see.

  • One is like a cheerleader or motivator... the coach is trying to get water from a rock...
  • The other, the coaching I practice, is very different.

The principle of the second type of coaching: you can only coach someone who is in action. You can redirect them... but they have to be in movement. It is not my job or responsibility to get you into movement. Continue reading "Do You Rock, or Do You Wait to be Rocked? Can you be coached?"

Do you live like a vibrational being? Find out in this article…

Warning:

This article can create a turning point for you. It probably won't... but it is not the article's fault. If you think you already know, if you think you are already smart... it won't do a thing for you. So better you just leave now...

I just worked on extracting the relevant part from Sunday's Muscle testing course recording...

The part where I am talking about the nature of the universe... its wave nature.

What is wave nature? It's going on and off frequently. Another word for that is oscillation.

If you consider life and the universe particles... a thing... you are wrong more often than you'd like to be. Always? Continue reading "Do you live like a vibrational being? Find out in this article…"

The mind is the stupid part of you…

Your mind, your stupid part, has no direct knowledge about reality. It has no concern, no regard to reality... It has in it what the memes have programmed it to have... 1% reality, 99% b.s. And your mind is, therefore, your worst friend. It is killing YOU and it is killing your life... sometimes slowly, sometimes really fast. 1

Every Tuesday I read my email to find my weekly horoscope, and here it goes... again. Setting a context for my life, a context I could have never dreamed up myself... Rob Brezsny and his weekly horoscopes I would not want to miss. Continue reading "The mind is the stupid part of you…"

How Actual Smart People Talk About Themselves

This is an article from The Atlantic... Hint: not by discussing IQ The I here is James Fallows... although I tend to agree with him. this is a companion article to my previous article on self-esteem...

If you just want to know what people who are actually smart think of themselves... talk about themselves, jump there...
by James Fallows Jan 6, 2018 Science

I've never met or interviewed Donald Trump, though like most of the world I feel amply exposed to his outlooks and styles of expression. So I can't say whether, in person, he somehow conveys the edge, the sparkle, the ability to connect, the layers of meaning that we usually associate with both emotional and analytical intelligence.

But I have had the chance over the years to meet and interview a large sampling of people whom the world views the way Trump views himself. That is, according to this morning's dispatches, as "like, really re," and "genius." Continue reading "How Actual Smart People Talk About Themselves"

I have been toying with the idea of teaching the Effortless Abundance Course…

I have been toying, playing with the idea of teaching the Effortless Abundance Course...

What has been blocking me is the kinds of people who want it.

You see effortless is a lie... although efforting, per se, 1 is unnecessary.

Efforting is a concept. But doing things, learning things, unlearning things, is sometimes hard work. And for most people, who are attracted to the Effortless Abundance idea, work is a dirty word. Continue reading "I have been toying with the idea of teaching the Effortless Abundance Course…"