What is the most important skill to develop and keep using, daily, if you want to live a life you love?

We live as if things never changed. Even though we hear, read, that the only thing that is constant in life is change.

And yet, our minds, the machine-like part of us that cannot learn, won't learn, and fancies itself YOU... our minds tell us, moment to moment, that life will remain the way it is in that moment.

Is that crazy or what?

  • When something bad happens, the reaction is not to the bad thing, but to the idea that the results of the bad thing are life-long.
  • When something good happens, the reaction is not to the good thing. It is to the idea, to the notion, to the certainty, that the good thing will last a lifetime.
  • When you are well... you are sure you'll be always well. When you feel sick, you are sure that unless you fix it, you'll never feel good again. Gloom and doom, or yippee... all is wonderful. The roller coaster, I call it.

So in light of this behavior of the mind: what is the most important skill? Continue reading "What is the most important skill to develop and keep using, daily, if you want to live a life you love?"

You can’t become extraordinary if you live an ordinary life

I am getting a lot of requests to teach people how to become people who live a life worth living, who excel in all four areas, all four pillars of the good life.

My answer is almost always: Sorry I can't help you.

But why?

Today I got lucky and got my answer in a pristine form.

My University classmate, Panni called me. We talk once a month. She is, of course an architect: we were classmates in architecture school, a five year study.

And she is a mother and a grandmother. Continue reading "You can’t become extraordinary if you live an ordinary life"

Want to learn how to live a frustration free life?

In this article, with your permission, I'll teach you a little bit of real thinking. How to think. A thinking move. So you can get more aware, and have a lot better life, a lot better results in life than without having some ability to think... or specifically this ability I'll teach.

OK, the topic we'll dig deep on is frustration.

But before I go on, let me share something that happened to me when I was around 29.

I had a new boy friend, 13 years older than me, very accomplished in life, and like all Virgos, willing to look, willing to teach, willing to engage.

I was an architect already, by the way. Continue reading "Want to learn how to live a frustration free life?"

Is consistency THE winning capacity?

I am on my eighth round of the 67 steps.

Obviously I am following what I learned when I was nine: you can spend a whole vacation reading a book, or a lifetime listening and working with 67 audios and not get bored with it.

Or the way Bruce Lee says the same thing: I fear not the man who has practiced 10,000 kicks once, but I fear the man who has practiced one kick 10,000 times.

I have grown more in these 19 months than in any similar period in my life.

But...

Most people I watch are not present to what they are doing: it is habitual, which means mindless, stuck, plateaued. Continue reading "Is consistency THE winning capacity?"

What should you work on to raise your vibration?

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The first question everyone who actually wants to grow, raise their vibration, and stop being sick, dumb, and poor asks: so what do I do first?

Of course this is a good question... but until this week I really didn't have a reliable answer. I didn't have a good answer. I actually didn't know...

But this week this is opening up, and I have been able to see some answers.

Of course when I have a chance to spend an hour or two with you, I rarely have a problem... but I rarely spend an hour or two with a complete beginner, unless they need a health consultation.

But my newly re-discovered tool, the Bach Profile is proving to be invaluable.
Continue reading "What should you work on to raise your vibration?"

It’s hard to be silently brilliant. Lots of thoughts occur when you open your mouth

It's hard to be silently brilliant. Lots of thoughts occur when you open your mouth.

This has been one of the principles I live by.

Now, that finally the harmful effects of the milk protein wore off... and I am returning to being normal.

So my Sunday Rants call was more productive than maybe ever. Not less ranty... mind you, but more insights.

It is very easy to think in a tiny box, and most people live that way. It is even possible for most to stay in that tiny box when they listen to someone, or read something. They never leave, never enlarge the box, never go anywhere.

Because what gives you your world, what you see, your actions, your words, your feelings... that is what is in the box.

I realized that some 29 years ago. It was New Year's Eve, and I spent it on the phone with a Landmark staff member from Detroit.

We took turns to speak the New Year into existence.
Continue reading "It’s hard to be silently brilliant. Lots of thoughts occur when you open your mouth"

Ambition versus Desire… Why ambition has become a dirty word, and who does it serve?

I spent yesterday reading the novel the 1997 Dutch film (Character) was based upon. Of course they changed a few things, and the film left me in deep quandary. The title didn't make sense. The whole dynamic didn't make sense. So I read the book.

Most movies' ending is clear... this is probably only the second movie that left me with questions: WTF just happened? The other movie is the 2002 Chinese movie "Together".

Anyway, I read the Character book. It was written in 1938.

I did learn what the title was about. And I learned a lot more.

This article is not about the movie, this article is about what makes a man a Man. Continue reading "Ambition versus Desire… Why ambition has become a dirty word, and who does it serve?"

The bucket of crabs… or can you grow? Are you allowed to grow?

There are two planes where existence can be experienced: the horizontal plane and the vertical plane.

They are not different places, they are different dimensions of the same thing, different ways to look at them, from different places in reality.

One dimension, in space, is like a dot. Two dimensions is a line. The third dimension is height.

In learning: learning the words, using the words, repeating the words accurately, seeing the meaning everywhere, being able to adhere to the words... and the last and highest dimension is instinctual knowledge.

Continue reading "The bucket of crabs… or can you grow? Are you allowed to grow?"