We live as if things never changed. Even though we hear, read, that the only thing that is constant in life is change.
And yet, our minds, the machine-like part of us that cannot learn, won't learn, and fancies itself YOU... our minds tell us, moment to moment, that life will remain the way it is in that moment.
Is that crazy or what?
When something bad happens, the reaction is not to the bad thing, but to the idea that the results of the bad thing are life-long.
When something good happens, the reaction is not to the good thing. It is to the idea, to the notion, to the certainty, that the good thing will last a lifetime.
When you are well... you are sure you'll be always well. When you feel sick, you are sure that unless you fix it, you'll never feel good again. Gloom and doom, or yippee... all is wonderful. The roller coaster, I call it.
In this article, with your permission, I'll teach you a little bit of real thinking. How to think. A thinking move. So you can get more aware, and have a lot better life, a lot better results in life than without having some ability to think... or specifically this ability I'll teach.
OK, the topic we'll dig deep on is frustration.
But before I go on, let me share something that happened to me when I was around 29.
I had a new boy friend, 13 years older than me, very accomplished in life, and like all Virgos, willing to look, willing to teach, willing to engage.
It's hard to be silently brilliant. Lots of thoughts occur when you open your mouth.
This has been one of the principles I live by.
Now, that finally the harmful effects of the milk protein wore off... and I am returning to being normal.
So my Sunday Rants call was more productive than maybe ever. Not less ranty... mind you, but more insights.
It is very easy to think in a tiny box, and most people live that way. It is even possible for most to stay in that tiny box when they listen to someone, or read something. They never leave, never enlarge the box, never go anywhere.
Because what gives you your world, what you see, your actions, your words, your feelings... that is what is in the box.
I realized that some 29 years ago. It was New Year's Eve, and I spent it on the phone with a Landmark staff member from Detroit.
I spent yesterday reading the novel the 1997 Dutch film (Character) was based upon. Of course they changed a few things, and the film left me in deep quandary. The title didn't make sense. The whole dynamic didn't make sense. So I read the book.
Most movies' ending is clear... this is probably only the second movie that left me with questions: WTF just happened? The other movie is the 2002 Chinese movie "Together".
Anyway, I read the Character book. It was written in 1938.
I did learn what the title was about. And I learned a lot more.
There are two planes where existence can be experienced: the horizontal plane and the vertical plane.
They are not different places, they are different dimensions of the same thing, different ways to look at them, from different places in reality.
One dimension, in space, is like a dot. Two dimensions is a line. The third dimension is height.
In learning: learning the words, using the words, repeating the words accurately, seeing the meaning everywhere, being able to adhere to the words... and the last and highest dimension is instinctual knowledge.