Strong emotions or curiosity… choose!


I have found that bringing curiosity to life, especially things that normally would cause you strong emotions, can counteract the narrowing of your cone of vision, narrowing of your intelligence, narrowing of your emotional flexibility... while destroying life where you are, where I am... inside me.

Let me say it again: bringing curiosity to things can counteract with misery, upset, anxiety, frustration, anger, despair, resignation, sadness, depression... the whole never ending pool of negative emotions.

It takes training.

Our access, humans' access to reality, nowadays, is our emotions... instead of our feelings (sensory perceptions and observation) and our reasoning capacity.

Instead of getting a first hand view of reality, we, humans, inside the cave of our minds, we interact with the shadows reality casts... and we are jerked through upheavals by things that aren't even real. Continue reading "Strong emotions or curiosity… choose!"

What makes Keanu Reeves special and why you would want to learn a thing or two from him_


OK, I am in the middle of writing an article, but this hit my inbox and enough of you have been asking for some advice on what to practice... so here it is: observe Keanu Reeves, and learn to be like him...

Can you? The answer is: probably not... but... by learning and internalizing what he is doing as humility, etc, you'll have more of reality and more ways to be than you are being now.

Don't be mistaken: humanity is arrogant. Haughty. Self-centered. Self-aggrandizing. The opposite of what Keanu Reeves is, and the opposite of what would make you life a life worth living.

Now, if you have been smart and own my Big Bundle energy: if you study Keanu Reeves, or even just read this article while you have the energy bundle on your ears, your consciousness will hear it, and hear it as instruction or request: you requesting to be like him... and consciousness will help you. Continue reading "What makes Keanu Reeves special and why you would want to learn a thing or two from him_"

Why feeling your feelings is a good thing? And how, finding your fake feelings is, maybe, even better…


Almost all Source energies, almost all my energy products are co-creative 1.

What that means is that they only work as intended if you work with them. The exception is the Water Energizer... that works on your water. But even that process works better if you are conscious, if you bring your consciousness to the fact that the water is lubricating the insides of your cells so the cells can function properly, generate energy for you, take out the trash... stuff cells are supposed to do. Like dealing with discomfort... you know... that stuff that can make our life hellish.

Why would it work better? Because when you bring consciousness to what's happening, it gets done better, and your whole being is more rooted in reality than without that.

Humans, with the introduction of mind, the disembodied, disconnected, separated way of using the brain has removed consciousness from reality, and has rendered humanity really like computer game participants, leaving the moving of them, doing life to something or someone other than themselves.

Continue reading "Why feeling your feelings is a good thing? And how, finding your fake feelings is, maybe, even better…"

Immersion learning, Holographic reading: the secret of billionaires…


Holographic learning: the only way to human being level

I am reading a book I don't like. I was told by Source to read it... and I think I found the one sentence (so far) in the 700 page book that I needed to read. One sentence...

Reading, when it creates a world, a rich world to live in, to accomplish in, is holographic. Each book sharpens some area, fills in the missing or fuzzy details.

This one sentence has been that kind of a sentence. It was like a Flash of lightening. Continue reading "Immersion learning, Holographic reading: the secret of billionaires…"

Your life is like a boat on sea… Where it’s going is given by the drift 96%


Every learning is becoming. Every action that is aimed at learning but doesn't lead to becoming... is not learning, it is just a pretense. Treading water. The drift.

But becoming is not easy, and it takes longer than you would expect. OK, longer than I expect. Longer than I have been expecting... 🙁

Why? because some of the learning requires you to be "right there", ready for that particular learning. You first need to become ready. Continue reading "Your life is like a boat on sea… Where it’s going is given by the drift 96%"

Here is a piece of the puzzle I have missed… the trap of introspection


"A man wrapped up in himself makes a very small parcel."
~John Ruskin

When you have a narrow cone of vision, or watch something to close to it... so close that you identify with it, what you see is largely useless.

Try this: try to see your palm clearly while your eyes are only a centimeter from your skin. You can't. And everything there will fill you will dread... without a larger context nothing makes sense, and everything feels threatening.

When you look at your feelings, your thoughts like you just looked at your palm, we call that introspection.

Some of my students go there, from time to time, instead of keeping distance between the observed and the observer, distance physically, emotionally, intellectually, and spiritually.

The Amish Horse Training Method, the Playground method (the meaning), the Memes (Tree of Knowledge), the Attitudes (Approaches), and, of course the whole science of being able to tell a feeling from an emotion... aka the Marker Feelings... They all need you to keep a healthy distance and a neutral attitude... i.e. observe them from the "Observer or Witness" position. From Outside of yourself. 1

My webinars, my workshops, train you to distinguish for yourself what it feels like to create a distance, what it sounds like, what it looks like... to you.

What it feels like to be in Plato's Cave... and what it feels like to be outside.

Life, thoughts, emotions, relationships, life's purpose, liking... all look different in the "light of day"... i.e. outside of Plato's Cave.

I am still learning to teach creating distance... teaching it with simple words...

It is, in my experience, the hardest thing to teach. You cannot connect to Source unless you can create that distance. You cannot muscle test accurately, unless you can create that distance. You can't have a life that works, unless you can create that distance.

And I can't explain to you how to do it... I even had a whole course once on just that... It was called "Detached" and it taught the participants, unsuccessfully, to step back.

So this is a work in progress... to teach it with words.

Participants who took my Playground, the Amish Horse Training, and the Money Attitudes workshops learned it through osmosis...

But how do you translate it to words... Sigh...

One of my students implemented a new practice: becoming an idea machine. He has committed to write 10 new ideas a day. I have tried: wicked hard... but gets you out of the cave. Why? Maybe because reality is a lot bigger than your cave? lol.

I hear the odd teacher or writer mentioning this issue... but they, so far, haven't written anything that would help me help you.

OK... let's see what are your options:

If you look at the illustration on the top of this page, you see four quadrants. The "archetypes" are 10% accurate... the truth value is what phd's can create... low, but maybe we can use it for discussion.

The first category or archetype it talks about is the They spend their entire self-obsessed time in their mind. They want to get better, they are obsessed with self-improvement. This, counter-intuitively, has a positively negative effect on their "self-improvement".

One interpretation of self-improvement is called the introspection mode—where you continually examine your thoughts and feelings—and it can get you stuck... inside Plato's Cave, where you wanted to get out of... to begin with. Rather than becoming more self-aware, you lose touch with reality, the reality of yourself (and others).

You might be thinking that introspection is the same as self-awareness... but it isn't. In introspection you honor all the thoughts and all the feelings as real... and then you think about it. Introspection is rehashing thoughts, and it doesn't generate insights. For insight you need to see something from a distance... or you won't see it.

90% of the visitors of this site start out as Introspectors. Their "thinking about themselves" score is sky high (above 90%), their delusion/inauthenticity score: ditto.

There is nothing wrong with them: they are looking at things inside Plato's Cave, and even there they are looking from too close.

Too Much Introspection Can Kill You

Thinking doesn't lead to knowledge.

Contrary to what you would expect, people who score high on self-reflection are more stressed, anxious, and less satisfied with their work and personal relationships. They are self-absorbed and feel less in control of their lives. No wonder: life is happening outside of Plato's Cave... and that is not where they are.

Thinking about yourself is not correlated with knowing yourself.

Self-reflection and insights are an inverse phenomenon... they are inversely correlated. The more time you spend doing introspection the less insight you are able to gain.

Constantly inspecting your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors doesn't mean you see the inner dynamic, the causation, the correlation. You are too close to it to see it.

You can gain insight from comparing introspection, where you are busy with your thoughts and feelings and meditation where your job is to simply allow your Witness to see the thoughts and feelings, from a neutral, sober eye perspective. In introspection you are "in it"... In meditation you are outside of it... or at the minimum, you have a distance between the observer and the observed.

Introspection involves thinking, categorizing, labeling, analyzing—you are evaluating your thoughts and emotions. Mostly from the systemic value point of view. Meditation is about being aware of what you are doing and just observe—you witness thoughts, feelings, reactions without judging them.

The Introspection Trap

You may approach self-improvement with a rigid mindset: that there is something wrong with you that needs to be fixed. You expect to find an answer that will fix what is wrong with you.

This does not work, because there is nothing wrong with you. You cannot fix what is not wrong.

It works to trust consciousness and appreciate the journey from where you are, what you can see now, and what is possible to see during the journey. When you allow consciousness to view what there is to view, reality, your behavior will change, inside and outside.

Consciousness, witness, observer are words I use interchangeably  to address that impartial part of "All-of-it" that isn't concerned with right and wrong, good and bad, living or dying... That part of you is able to see where you deviate from the strait and narrow... and once you saw it, with Consciousness, you cannot unsee it.

Jon Kabat-Zinn said: "Mindfulness means paying attention in a particular way; on purpose, in the present moment, and non-judgmentally." When Jon Kabat-Zinn says "in the present moment" he should say: not jumping into "ever/never" conclusions... right/wrong conclusions... that kind of conclusion comes from the mind... not consciousness.

Mindfulness is the practice of noticing the degree in which we are identified with our thoughts and beliefs. It's creating space for:

Awareness, not thinking
An attitude of openness and curiosity, not judging
Flexibility of attention, not resisting

I don't think mindfulness is a good word... but maybe you'll connect to it... albeit I have never met a man or a woman who practiced mindfulness and WAS "mindful"... meaning: not thinking, not reactive, not resisting.

When you fall into the introspection trap, you spend all your time in Plato's Cave. 2

"Self is a sea boundless and measureless."
~Kahlil Gibran

Self Reflection is judgmental...

To know yourself is to accept yourself. I call that Unconditional Love... where the two selves you have form a relationship of love and acceptance, regardless of what one would expect, mistakes, faults, weaknesses. Like an ideal mother would accept an imperfect child. An impossible ideal... But you can get closer and closer to it.

My two selves, just measured, are 8% from each other, or that Unconditional Love. This is why I can take the abuse of that Psychic witch who has been tormenting me. This is why I can be OK not knowing stuff that I SHOULD know... except you know what you know, and can work on finding answers to what you don't know... I am OK with that.

The further your two selves are, the less tolerance, the less patience, the less elbow room you have for yourself to be.

When I ask people what they want most, they want to be free to be themselves.

But the jail-keeper, the task master, the slave driver is themselves...

Self-awareness is achieved through observing and accepting who you are, how you are, warts and all—not who you should or shouldn't be. Acceptance is embracing every part of your self, not just the nice ones.

Thinking about yourself isn't correlated with knowing yourself. It can sometimes create the opposite effect: the more time you spend in introspective mode, the less self-aware you become.

You can spend a whole weekend doing introspection and, come Monday, you won't have improved your self-knowledge.

People with higher self-awareness are more confident, more creative, communicate more effectively and build stronger relationships.

I have been reading the books of a guy, I call The Dude. I can track how his self-awareness grows... how he got out of introspection/unconsciousness mode... and what he did to achieve that. I am going to schedule a webinar to teach it... watch out for my emails...

To increase your self-awareness you need to look outside, not just inside.

Focusing too much on yourself is a trap. You put yourself in the center of the Universe... and expect others to see you as you see yourself. They won't... they will see you the way they see you. 3

The Path of The Self Aware Person

"Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom."

Developing self-awareness is not a goal, like an Olympic gold medal... it is nothing until you get it. It is on a scale between 1-100... My self-awareness is 70%. Whatever is lacking in my life is a consequence of not having a full self-awareness, yet I am reasonably happy, reasonably healthy, reasonable able to live comfortably, and am fulfilled.

The four aspects of the self, physical, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual need to be observed in tandem and grown in tandem

Being obsessed with understanding your inner-self can get you stuck. You probably call your inner self how you feel... while the rest of you is left in the dark.

Self-awareness, the non-judging, not-too close awareness of your different aspects, your behavior, your place in the world, how you affect other people, makes you more confident. Because you can see.

And anything you can see, you can adjust.

The Enchanted Forest, Fairy Tales, and how to start living like a person


I have one student who actually is doing the work the way the work was meant to be done.

It sounds meager... but it is all I ever wanted... really.

If you have one student who actually does what you teach, you can tell if what you teach works or not. Or tweak what you teach to accommodate the difficulties they experience. And watch if the changes you made will make the results match what you intended to accomplish.

What do the rest of the people do? I mean the students in the same program? I am not sure. Apple polishing? Feeble attempts to fake me?

Humans live this fake, apple polishing lives, thinking that life should respond to their feeble attempts, to their intention, to their desire, or whatever the heck they were taught should change reality to what they want reality to be.

This, humanity, humans, include the millions of writers who dish out advice... Continue reading "The Enchanted Forest, Fairy Tales, and how to start living like a person"

Returning to the fork in the road where you took a wrong turn


If you find yourself on the wrong road... trace your way back to where you went astray... and choose a different road.

Why? Because trying to go across to where you really wanted to go, without going back,  is fraught with death traps.

Humanity, some seven thousand years ago, took a wrong turn. In just a few words: they started to replace reality with word pictures in the mind. Concepts.

This took us to where we are now: not a pretty place. Any and every human is afflicted: no one is exempt.

An "avatar's" job is to take you backwards so you can find your way from there... They have to have earned the right... by going back personally, backtracking themselves.

Most teachers try to cut across... oh the Buddhist, oh the Zen, oh the blah blah... they must know what they are talking about... b.s.

Maybe they know, maybe they don't. But you haven't done the journey back, so you are a second-hander at best, so shut the f... up!
Continue reading "Returning to the fork in the road where you took a wrong turn"

You are not learning. What does the culture teach you, tell you, so that you end up not learning?


This is a great question, if you have curiosity the capacity turned on. This is an even greater question for you if you have been trying to learn, by signing up to my programs, or buying a capacity from me, and you are failing.

Here is the statement I paid more than 20 thousand dollars for, taken an airplane some 20 times, slept in a hotel 20 times, and got nothing else from the courses and programs I paid for...

But this sentence is worth the 20 grands it cost me to get it.

Here is the magic sentence: "When something isn't working... there is something you don't know."

The sentence is brilliant... and yet it won't work for 99% of the people...
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Why you can’t tell if somebody is smart or not… Because in the dark all cats are gray


One of the most surprising thing in the world of humans is that humans can't tell if they are smart or not. This error leads to lives that are not fulfilled, filled with fear, trepidation, or on the other extreme: boasting and disappointment. 1

I just watched two episodes of a Korean series where most people were dimwitted.

Dimwitted is just another word for "not smart"... but it is a good word because you can see that something is dimmed... as in "it's dark here... you can't see much".

I like this word because it is more accurate than most. Continue reading "Why you can’t tell if somebody is smart or not… Because in the dark all cats are gray"