What are you paying for when you buy something? How to stretch a dollar to a 100?

I had an interesting insight this morning.

Putting a price tag on any coaching is going to be a lie. My strategy sessions. My 67 step coaching. My health consultations. My Water Energizer. My Heaven on Earth...

Really, almost any product.

For two reasons:

1. the value is in the eye of the buyer...
2. the value literally changes with what the buyer can and will do with it. Continue reading "What are you paying for when you buy something? How to stretch a dollar to a 100?"

You are in the bull’s ear… You live in the bull’s ear

Parents want to help, but instead they push you deeper into the bull's ear.

The expression, came from a student's father, 1 you are in the bull's ear, is a great distinction. It is not American, and because it is alien sounding, almost nonsensical, it can wake you up. 2
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Your world is dominated by the invisible. Get to know it… or else…

Your world is dominated by the invisible. And the invisible is like muddy water, every shyster has their hand in it, stirring it. 1

But this article will be about you. About your chances of being able to live a life worth living. Largely. I mean worth living most of the time.

Why not all the time? And why not gloriously?

It is too much to ask. But compared to the tasteless, joyless, have-to life you now live, a life worth living, for most of the time, is an amazing thing...

So what is the invisible part, the muddy water, that dominates your life? That makes you not enjoy life, that makes you want to go to sleepwalk, to not feel, to not be present?

It is the memes, partially, and it is you, partially.

You have no distinctions...

Let me give you an example that will shed light to what distinctions are, and why they are important.

Let's imagine that you prepare for heart surgery. Continue reading "Your world is dominated by the invisible. Get to know it… or else…"

Scarcity, abundance… big words… again. What are they, and how can you get into abundance?

Both are context words. Neither talks about the stuff that is inside the context... inside the wrapper. The wrapper tells you how to look at the content.

It has nothing to do with the stuff, or the quantity of it. It can be great, it can be plenty... the context, scarcity or abundance will tell you what to feel, what to think, what to do.

Why? Because context is decisive.

You can have plenty inside the context of scarcity, and feel that you don't have enough. Enough time, enough stuff, enough happiness, enough whatever... Continue reading "Scarcity, abundance… big words… again. What are they, and how can you get into abundance?"

How do I tame my fear of the unknown, the difficult, the tasks I need to do that I am ill-suited to do?

One day I'll have an editor. Or maybe a brilliant assistant. Someone who is good at things I am lousy at.

I have major holes in my brain. It started with my brain development in the womb. I am on the autistic spectrum, an experiment of sorts. Then I had my two massive brain injuries... One in 1969 and one in 1998.

So I was never good at putting things to order. Time order... what needs to get done first and what needs to get done next. Even just thinking about that, the brain cells that would do that work start to hurt. So maybe I should exercise them... hm... that is an idea. Continue reading "How do I tame my fear of the unknown, the difficult, the tasks I need to do that I am ill-suited to do?"

Context is decisive. And yet 99% of humans cannot wrap their minds around the context.

You create your own reality with the context. And inside that context you look at things... And the context, unless attended to, is mostly creating a reality that you don't want. But because you don't know how to create context, that is what you created. bummer, eh?

Context is decisive. And yet 99% of humans cannot wrap their minds around the context. Context is invisible... and most people can't see it. But...

The quality of your life, your life experience doesn't depend on the content, it only depends on the context. On the invisible.

The previous article should have explained it all, but it probably wasn't enough. So let's poke around this topic some more.

Most of us don't live in a world of our own design, or unless you consider all the voices in your head, it is the voices' design, not yours.

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What makes life worth living?

This article could be called a "life hack" which is a fashionable word nowadays. I don't mind... but whatever you'll call it will define it... Because what you'll call it will be a context... What? Yeah...

And context is the ultimate life hack.

Most people don't understand the distinction: context

Why is that a problem? Because of all the elements of life, context is the easiest to change. And when context changes, life changes.

So you don't understanding context means that life cannot change easily, cannot change fast.

Now you are interested, I hope.

Have you ever asked yourself: What am I doing? Continue reading "What makes life worth living?"

“They” want you to hope for a miracle… magic, windfall…

"They" 1 want you to hope for a miracle... magic, windfall...

And you have been compliant. You buy magical supplements. Start magical diets. Go to magical healers. Buy magical courses.

Magic bullet. You have a storehouse of those.

I recommended to a new client that she sells it to people who still want a magic bullet. She didn't say yes. I guess she still hopes that one day they will magically start working.

I got a deep insight in this kind of thinking when i read the otherwise worthless long book by Laura Knight-Jadczyk. OK, it is not worthless to me, actually they were worth their weight in gold... they are worthless to you. The woman has insight, but mixes it with crap... I took the insights, if you read her stuff, you'll probably eat the crap.

Anyway, what i got is the historical roots of magical thinking.

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The holographic learning method in action

The best method of learning is not linear. It is holographic. Your picture always contains the whole picture... even if it is still fuzzy... so the context is already set. You know where and how things fit in the big picture.

Miko brings up a topic that can lead us to some useful learning practices, a more useful knowledge base, a life with direction, and maybe even to a life worth living.

Sophie, what I got from this article is that persistent hammering on a task is a way to raise my TLB score, and that it's natural that it's going to be fuzzy at the beginning, but that's no reason to quit.

I've been studying philosophy, as an experiment of sorts, and I recently got a text to work with as a homework, where my experience is a bit like what you described here — I don't understand half the words. But I'm starting to see that as I look some of them up, and re-read the paragraphs, some of the things are getting a little clearer.

So the thing for me to do is to go through the whole text again... and again, if I must.

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I make decisions really slowly. One may even accuse me of procrastination…

slow decisions vs fast decisionsLet me correct that: I consider most decisions I make a test. Experiment. Rough draft. 1

Huh?

Yeah, I thought so. I thought it will sound foreign... But you will learn something, through this article, that is not common knowledge... and it is even new to me!

Decisions are an expensive activity for the brain. Any choice is. Important choices and unimportant choices equally use up a renewable resource, for ease of language, I'll call glycogen, although it may not be that.

You wake up with more of that glycogen... it replenished itself during the night... If your sleep is restless, then you won't have your full stores of glycogen: ever since that nurse moved to the next house, my sleep is restless. Even with the audios... Mind you, I have tried to sleep without the audio, and slept a total of 58 minutes that night. With the audio I wake up a few times, and dream or solve puzzles, or write articles in my mind, but I sleep and wake up rested. So...

And yet, I have less glycogen than if I slept through the night without working in my sleep...

But I digress... What I really want to teach you is... Continue reading "I make decisions really slowly. One may even accuse me of procrastination…"