You look around. Everyone seems to have it better than you. They laugh, they hug, they walk hand in hand, kiss... or have friends who like them... but you? If feels like you have no one, no one cares about you, no one responds well to you... You are not getting enough "strokes"... from others.
A "stroke" (in Transactional Analysis) is a unit of social transaction. A hug. A nod. A smile. A hello, a thank you, a "how are you?", or an f... you.... these are all social transactions. The more strokes you get the less your spine will shrivel up on you...
Continue reading "The empath’s guide to: How to not feel alone, isolated, abandoned, not belonging…"
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I am an introvert.
I don't know what that means... but I know that I talk to people a lot... in my head. I have long conversations with them.
So when I find out that they don't know about it: I am surprised.
It is nearly impossible to have an authentic conversation with someone after I already had the same conversation WITH THEM in my head.
So many things never get said. Continue reading "I talk to people a lot… in my head. I have long conversations with them"
With regards to the title... I am not suggesting that you become like Jesus... but become like the Creator, who supposedly said: there shall be light... or whatever he said... This Creator created with his word. That is the god I mean...
The main difference between a human and a human being, the next level of human evolution, is an inner difference. Not biological, physical, physiological. Instead a difference in what tells the one and the other to do things, what attitude to have, how to do things.
Humans listen to memes, the voices. Voices that are not the human's friends, voices that have no rhyme and reason, voices that make the human misbehave, and take actions that on the long run make him miserable.
Humans say things, but they don't stick. They violate their own word, human word is cheap. Why? Because a random voice comes around and overwrite it. That's why. Continue reading "Becoming like god where you create with your word."
We look at life through the space we locate ourselves in.
When you go home for the holidays, you have a space inside which you interact with your mother. You have a space inside which you interact with your father, another space with your siblings.
Some people live their whole life out of one favorite space.
When you know what space you think you are in, and the other person makes no sense, that is because they relate to you inside a different space.
For example, Nancy lives inside Mother-child space. She is either the mother, or she is the child. When she is the child, I am either the mother (she loves that) or Not mother... she hates that. When she is the mother and I refuse to be the child, she throws a tantrum.
This is invisible for her. It's the water she swims in.
Continue reading "The field: The invisible distinction that defines your consciousness"
One of the signs of the overwhelming inauthenticity and low level of integrity is the gap between what people say and what people do.
We, my marketing student and I, have been surveying mothers and fathers of children to find out to what degree they care about their children's future. Continue reading "What you say and what you do… when it comes to your children becoming educated, productive people"
I have at least 2-3 conversations each day that are so profound they should be made public. Sometimes i do...
Here is one from today:
Him: Wow. I realized on yesterday’s call that there are memes and voices when I am on the call and they are disturbing me to get things more than I am doing. Or disturbing me to look, think and not going to the head. These voices are fear based. “What if I say something wrong, what if I can’t do what she says etc.” It went better yesterday because I was conscious of them and could decide to just let them be noises and have my attention on what you were saying instead.
Me: yes. it is the biggest reason people don’t do well. good catch. thank you for sharing.
I have one meme still very alive… “It is too hard!” lol
and another one, a little bit less “It is hopeless!”
Continue reading "It’s all about the memes. If you catch them, life may start working…"
I bought the 67 steps program at the beginning of February last year. I have averaged 5-6 steps a week.
This week I answered two questions that I have probably been asked nine times before... and a whole new reality opened up for me.
I'll tell you specifically what the questions and my answers were in a little bit, but first I'd like to look at this whole phenomenon of not hearing what we don't hear.
You may never have experienced this, because you either didn't repeat something frequently enough, or you are sleepwalking.
There is such a thing as top of the mind awareness.
What you hear. What you notice. About 10% of what is there. What is said. What you read. What you see.
The rest... as if it didn't exist. Continue reading "Why is it a good idea to do the 67 steps over and over, instead of starting a new course"
And the picture of putting all those starting point measurements also tells me how humanity as a whole is doing.
Pitiful. But why?
Most people think that what they do when they are at their best, when they go to church in their best church-going outfit, is who they are.
Or the all smiles pictures they post on social media.
What you do, who you are, what you listen to 90% of the time gives you the Continue reading "Your life-success score is low… how do you raise it?"
It was about 10 years ago. I was getting somewhat better by drinking energized water. Not well, mind you, better. My skin was clearing up, and I had less occurrences of narcolepsy, where I would fall asleep in the middle of speaking, or driving.
I was way up in Colorado. It was a seminar by Marshall Thurber. I was already muscle testing my food... and most everything they had there tested "no" for me.
One of the "celebrity guests" at the seminar was Bill Harris. He is an excellent marketer, the marketer of Holosync. I was a diligent Holosync user... so I was excited seeing him there.
On the last day he and I started to talk (I think I was stalking him) and it came to the topic of water... I started to share about energized water.
He got really upset, and self-righteous, saying that it was bullshit, water is water is water.
I never used Holosync again. I use Bill's emails to see what I should avoid. Like Mary Morrissey, whose program he is pushing today.
So this article is going to be about the invisible... and inside that invisible, a little bit about Mary Morrissey. Continue reading "How to avoid getting hooked…"
Last night I spent a few hours (3, to be exact.) listening to Jim Rohn, famed self-development coach. Funny, entertaining, brilliant.
He said all the right words. He made sense to a lot of people.
But I bet if we scratch the numbers, he made just as little results as everyone who is trying to cause individual human evolution.
I'll tell you in a little bit why... but first let me tell you what he says: Continue reading "How do you catch what you can’t see? How do you change into someone who can?"