My students, like popcorn, are starting to pop at the same time. It is hard to say what made each pop… especially if your vocabulary (distinction) is not keeping up with the richness of the invisible reality.
What do I mean?
I have been intrigued with the idea of helping people to be intrinsically motivated, ever since I read and re-read Deci’s book: Why we do what we do.
Without words one can be the best at something, but will never be able to teach it… Continue reading “The secret of happy producers… NOT what time they get up in the morning, or how many books they read…”
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These should be frequently asked questions, and yet no one asks these questions, as a rule
I am continuing the practice of giving free strategy sessions to people who buy the Starting Point Measurements.
It’s work for me. It’s hard on my body having to be with their resistance, fear, or whatever they are feeling. It’s often talking to people whom, in normal circumstances, I would avoid. Why? Because they are argumentative, because they are often hostile, and because only one in 13 knows that I am an empath, what is an empath, and how I got to the measurements I got to. So they never did any work on knowing what they are paying for.
So, it’s hard. And yet. Sitting in my ivory tower is not useful any more.
Each person brings something to light I would not have otherwise seen.
For example a person yesterday. Soul correction “Finish What You Start”… I have other people with this soul correction, and they are argumentative. But I never realized that this is part of this soul correction. Arguing is a type of resistance: you block input and you put yourself in control… I don’t do well with people who argue. They, intentionally, put me on the defensive, and I have nothing to defend…
So for this learning I am grateful. I don’t work well with this type of soul correction… with this type of attitude.
The second thing I learned from this person is through a question he asked:
How come that I am still doing so poorly after I have invested so much into spiritual teaching?
Continue reading “You have invested so much into spiritual teaching!”
Desire vs ambition. What is the difference? Which one should you have?
For most people words mean something… approximately. Their life reflects this unclarity. Clarity is one of the most important determinants of one’s life… this is why I measure it in the starting point measurements.
I watched a guy who until his clarity went up to 3500, he was miserable.
Most people I measure have a clarity of 200-400. Puny at best, sh*tty life. Guaranteed.
Ok, desire and ambition. Let’s agree what the words mean… energetically.
Desire is 100% desire for the self alone. Wanting something for yourself but not being willing, not even considering doing work to get it. If someone else has what you want, you envy it, you are jealous of them… but to match the work they did… hell no.
Ambition, on the other hand is a willingness to work, to sweat, to do for one’s own fulfillment. The higher your ambition the more you can accomplish the faster.
Desire takes the energy away from ambition… Continue reading “High desire… it must be a good thing, right?”
Every generation is more entitled than the previous one. Why? Let me explain…
If appreciative is the opposite of entitled… does that mean that all those people who are not appreciative are entitled?
Entitled is a worldview. It is a ground-of-being phenomenon, invisible, like the floor. An unexamined truth. To you. But for the other, it is quite obvious…
So how do you know that you are not appreciative? that you are entitled?
This is how:
- Even when you thank someone, they frown…
- You may even be diligent in thanking someone, you may even feel a stab of thankfulness, but those thanks are the waves on the waters, not the bottom of the sea… The bottom of your sea is entitlement.
Continue reading “What is the opposite of entitled?”
I am reading an amazing and disturbing book.
Like yourself, I also prefer to look at the pretty, the beautiful, the harmonious, the happy… but if you want to tell the truth, there is not much of that, at least where humans are involved.
Of course I can’t avoid it… no matter where I go, no matter where I look, some horrid inner turmoil of some person, wholly unrelated to what I am doing, is taking over my body. Ugh.
And then there are the people to whom I have to connect. You are not pretty inside.
The book, Stanislaw Lem’s is the chronicles of a 25th, maybe 27th Century man, I. Tichy… who visits planets, who time travels, and chronicles.
The horrors he relates to with deadpan seriousness is the future of the attitude we have on Earth.
Desire for the Self alone… disregarding the whole… narrow cone of vision.
Continue reading “Why is the future of the planet the way it looks… ugh…?”
I have one student who actually is doing the work the way the work was meant to be done.
It sounds meager… but it is all I ever wanted… really.
If you have one student who actually does what you teach, you can tell if what you teach works or not. Or tweak what you teach to accommodate the difficulties they experience. And watch if the changes you made will make the results match what you intended to accomplish.
What do the rest of the people do? I mean the students in the same program? I am not sure. Apple polishing? Feeble attempts to fake me?
Humans live this fake, apple polishing lives, thinking that life should respond to their feeble attempts, to their intention, to their desire, or whatever the heck they were taught should change reality to what they want reality to be.
This, humanity, humans, include the millions of writers who dish out advice… Continue reading “The Enchanted Forest, Fairy Tales, and how to start living like a person”
Do You Rock, or Do You Wait to be Rocked?
or “Coaching and your ambition number…”
There are two main widely diverging schools of coaching that I can see.
- One is like a cheerleader or motivator… the coach is trying to get water from a rock…
- The other, the coaching I practice, is very different.
The principle of the second type of coaching: you can only coach someone who is in action. You can redirect them… but they have to be in movement. It is not my job or responsibility to get you into movement. Continue reading “Do You Rock, or Do You Wait to be Rocked? Can you be coached?”
We all have at least two distinct and recognizable selves that we switch back and forth between.
In this article we’ll look at intelligence, but we could also look at the character, the attitude, the moral fortitude of the selves… but because I look at the world through the frame of smart and stupid, and only secondarily through loyal/disloyal, I’ll write this article on the intelligence level of your two selves.
I have been toying, playing with the idea of teaching the Effortless Abundance Course…
What has been blocking me is the kinds of people who want it.
You see effortless is a lie… although efforting, per se, is unnecessary.
Efforting is a concept. But doing things, learning things, unlearning things, is sometimes hard work. And for most people, who are attracted to the Effortless Abundance idea, work is a dirty word. Continue reading “I have been toying with the idea of teaching the Effortless Abundance Course…”
What is an adult, what is a child… and does your ego-state (Child, Parent, Adult) influence how much money you have, how much love you have, how healthy you are?
In the starting point measurements I measure (#19) To what degree you have access to your adult capacities. or asked in another way, how much does your adult run your life? The more adult the more results…
And how much is the child running your life, how much is it running your life to the ground?
Continue reading “How old is your child self that is running your life to the ground?”